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Colt45Bullet said:
So, how do I move on. Everyone just says, "Live life to the fullest.", but that way is sinful.
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Don't have what I call replay/flashbacks of her in your mind.....it will help you get over it if you go and do something else for a while like fishing/outdoor walking etc to distract your mind and help "forget" her sooner rather than later...if you just stay in your room all day and mope about her....the healing will take longer....

Live life to the fullest.../ YOLO is bs....and a way to make stupid decisions that will have dramatic consequences for the rest of your life....YOLO is one of the most idiotic saying of our generation.....only a fool would give that advice imo....

Stick with the Holy Spirit living inside you, he'll help you move on as well.....read some psalms ....
 
Colt45Bullet said:
So, how do I move on. Everyone just says, "Live life to the fullest.", but that way is sinful.
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How is that sinful? Living life to the fullest doesn't mean drinking, partying, sleeping around, etc... It means to get out there and experience life. To go places, do things, meet people, try new experiences. It's a way of saying 'stop sitting and dwelling on what you can't have, instead go and find out what else is out there'. And it can be done while still living a Godly life.
Bottom line is this girl doesn't want to be with you. If you love her so much then respect that and leave her alone. Right now you aren't loving her by pushing for what you want. True love is sacrifice. Unconditional love means putting yourself aside, no matter how much it hurts, so they can be happy. If this is not what you are doing, then you are loving conditionally.
Remove yourself from this girls life. If, one day, she changes her mind, then maybe she will come back. And maybe she will move on and you'll never hear from her again. Either way it doesn't mean you have to sit around waiting. Go live your life like she's never coming back.
 
I dont know if I agree with the above statement. Jesus didnt remove himself from our lives. He never gave up, and never will give up, on us. So we shouldnt give up on anyone either
 
Sometimes God brings people into our lives, who will hurt us, betray us and teach us lessons. Obviously this girl is listening to her friends, and not God, about you. Likewise, she obviously isn't the one God has for you. So just try to learn the lesson God is teaching you through this situation.
 
Colt45Bullet said:
I dont know if I agree with the above statement. Jesus didnt remove himself from our lives. He never gave up, and never will give up, on us. So we shouldnt give up on anyone either
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I disagree with that last sentence. When someone has done everything they can think of to get through to somebody and that person refuses to listen and cut off all contact, then that's when you need to shake off the dust and hand them over to God. Stop knocking on this door, what's behind it (the girl) isn't meant for you anymore..
 
I dont want her to suffer. I want her to wake up, and realize her pride will kill her
 
Jeremiah 29:11

My favorite verse.
Read it Colt.
God will not forsake you. He has a plan bigger than yours.
 
This happened for a reason.
My cancer happened for a reason, having my father as a father happened for a reason, do I know why?
No, but perhaps that isn't for me to know.
All I know is that God has a larger better plan for each and every one of us.
I say this quiet a bit, but I'm gonna say it again.
While our plan leads to happiness and comfort in this world His leads to eternal joy with Him.
You have every reason to trust the Father you just have to open your eyes to see that.
You're blinded by the darkness and hurt in this world.
Open your eyes and look to Him Colt
 
Like Natania said, everything happens for a reason. Only God knows why and he doesn't always allow us to know why. This situation is a test and a lesson for both you and this girl. You're trying to take back something that God has taken control of. Let her go and let Him do his job. Now smarten up and stop doubting God's abilities to heal and restore this girl. Or I'll reach through my computer screen and give you a "stupid slap".. lol :)
 
Colt45Bullet said:
I know what to do. HOW is the question
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By stepping back and saying ok Lord (girl's name) is yours now. I know you can help her where I cannot. By admitting your pride to help this girl all on your own. You know the help she needs is beyond your capacity to give, so admit that to God and rest secure in the knowlege that she is in good hands. You aren't giving up on her, you're only turning her over to someone who has better knowlege and control of the situation than you do.
 
Colt45Bullet said:
This whole thing has made me question myself. Am I worth it?
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Jesus thinks you're worth it. Who is she to question that? Who are you to question that?

You're 17. I assume she is too. You're not old enough to have the knowledge and experience to see everything involved here. Neither is she. Nothing bugs us like wanting something we can't have - we just need to be smart enough to recognize that maybe what we can't have is what we don't need. Time will pass and you'll look back and think, wasn't this all a silly episode. Time will pass and so will this.
 
The bible says "Give and shall be Given to you." I gave everything to her. My love, heart, and trust, but she trashed it and threw it back to me.
 
Colt45Bullet said:
The bible says "Give and shall be Given to you." I gave everything to her. My love, heart, and trust, but she trashed it and threw it back to me.
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Yes, but have you not received endless love from the Father?
 
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