Dating sites are not an accurate overall reflection on humanity in either men or women. Those who seek a lifelong partner this way are often using these sites as a last-ditch attempt where all else have failed. No one sets out their wants in a list in reality...it just isn't like that, you just meet someone and you know - sometimes it's immediate, other times love grows more gradually. Dating sites are too artificial and direct.
I was never interested in fast cars or money. I can't be the only one!
Really? Because i've seen multiple threads and posts with people doing exactly that. Sharing their lists. I've heard many stories from people who came from churches that Taught you write what you want in a spouse, down to hair and eye color, personality type, etc... and God will give you all the things on your list. Tons of people have lists like this.
Though i'd have to say that a statement like '... are Often using these sites as a last ditch attempt...' is based more on personal assumption than a fact you can point to. Online dating has become more and more common and popular and very much the norm anymore. Not just pathetic lonely people who can't do any better.
Though i believe dating sites are actually a Very accurate reflection of humanity, at least of the areas which are represented. Just like off line, it seems a large number of men on dating sites are really just looking for sex. Women say they are looking for real relationships, but often make bad choices in who they choose to give chances to, and pass up better options, just like off line. There are those who are out to deceive and use people, just like off line. It seems to me that dating sites just make it easier to see how the world really is, rather than misrepresenting it.
Really dating sites are just a place to go where other singles are looking as well. Its like going to a singles mixer, but online. The idea isn't you click a profile, fall in love and get married. No one is advertising that. It's just saying 'hey, if you're single and want to find someone, come here to increase your chances of meeting someone'.