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laoshanlung said:
Pamela Anderson? She's got NOTHING on this girl. She's a much more kind and respectable person, and way prettier to boot. I don't have the time nor the means to incorporate a substantial excersize regimen into my life, either. I'm a straight-A student, and I don't care to learn about trades like welding or accounting. I'm studying hard, and doing well, but there's just this big freaking gap in my life where relationships would normally go in anyone else's. God never designed men to be alone.

Also, I know that beauty isn't everything. We're both decent people, that I know. But as far as interests go, I'm just a huge nerd, so I'm practically doomed in that note. That's why I hate myself. I only fit in with outcasts, for whom I don't care deeply. I hate who I am because I just don't fit in with the people that I care about the most (heck, it's even hard to fit in with my own family, much less my classmates). I guess I just wish that I was born a different person. One that was never introduced to video games, wasn't homeschooled until he was 10, and had boundless confidence around other people.

Now, what can I do to change myself? Suicide wouldn't be so bad if I could be with God afterward, but I don't think that would be the case. Aaaand... that's all I can think of. All I can think of, and it's impossible anyway. Dang it.
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The good news is that you are 16, hormones are raging and you're in a tough spot on the account of you not being very kind to yourself. This will pass and hopefully you will have planted seeds in your life right now that when they mature, will produce a rich harvest for you in not very many years. Your thinking and self hate are damaging you. You can choose different thoughts ya know? The world will treat you exactly the way you treat yourself.
 
I dunno, man. I don't know why I don't want to better myself. A stronghold of Satan in my life, I guess. I really don't hate myself, and I really want my life to be better than it is, but these bad thoughts just keep holding me back. Pray for me, I guess. That's all I can ask for.
 
laoshanlung said:
Pornography is a real jerk, ya' know? Seems like everyone I know was addicted at one point or another. For me, it's been almost seven years of beating the hell outta' myself for being such a failure. A failure to me, as I honesty believed I was done a year ago. A failure to my mom, who believed that I could, with God's help, pull myself out of the gutter and into the light. And worst of all, a failure to my King, who gave His all to save me, but I seem to have deliberately greased myself up and slipped out from his grasp. Believe me, if I had my way, I'd already be cured. But I guess that I'm just a worthless animal, through and through. I don't want to be like this, always hating myself and pointlessly apologizing to God for my wrongdoings. I wanna be free, I just don't know how to be.
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your username is to hard for me to even think about in my head lol so I decided to quote you instead if you don't mind:)
Your sixteen so urges like this are going to be strong and may remain this way for a long time many men have a very hard time even pastors do of controlling their urges.
there is no need to beat yourself up trust me I know from experience this does you far more harm than good- scratch that it does you no good at all.

we all fall down sometimes we all screw up some of us have a harder time not screwing up than others because we are much weaker in certain areas where others are not self control is perhaps my weakest strength.
But you see what matters is not how much you don't fall down what matters is if you refuse to stay down or not. There is a motto from a movie I saw when I was younger keep moving forward, I live by this motto and it is this motto that has kept me going and staying strong in the harshest of storms.

Believe me I fall down a lot but I never stay down because my hearts eyes are set on God not me or my weakness or my screw ups my heart only sees him only craves him it constantly calls out to him in endearment it has a raging burning love for him that refuses to allow me to stay down when I fall because as weak as I am as much as I am a sinner and honestly a poor excuse of a christian my love and desire for him is by far stronger
 
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laoshanlung said:
I dunno, man. I don't know why I don't want to better myself. A stronghold of Satan in my life, I guess. I really don't hate myself, and I really want my life to be better than it is, but these bad thoughts just keep holding me back. Pray for me, I guess. That's all I can ask for.
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You're obviously a smart kid. Do me a favor and do a little digging and research on how that clump of cells between your ears develops and how it works. What all the different regions of that throbbing mass of wrinkles, neural pathways and blood vessels are and what their functions are. If you at all like really cool stuff you would definitely dig that .....MIRACLE..... that is surrounded by your cranium. How can you succeed in life and your walk with God if you don't even know how to operate the system He gave you or even know how it works?
 
Sirk said:
You're obviously a smart kid. Do me a favor and do a little digging and research on how that clump of cells between your ears develops and how it works. What all the different regions of that throbbing mass of wrinkles, neural pathways and blood vessels are and what their functions are. If you at all like really cool stuff you would definitely dig that .....MIRACLE..... that is surrounded by your cranium. How can you succeed in life and your walk with God if you don't even know how to operate the system He gave you or even know how it works?
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lol The sirk has spoken. Though something you must learn about the sirk is that you must take his words with a grain of salt as I am not sure he understands half what he is saying most of the time XD
 
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lol The sirk has spoken. Though something you must learn about the sirk is that you must take his words with a grain of salt as I am not sure he understands half what he is saying most of the time XD
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I'm just a hillbilly with a vocabulary that exceeds my ability to use it properly. Lol
 
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Trust me, Sirk, I know how the brain works (well, the basics, anyway). I've studied the marvelous mass of gray matter in the past. But sin is still sin, and there's no excuse for bad behavior. Not even an excess of testosterone flooding into the frontal lobe and causing all sorts of mayhem. I can't allow my body to accept full responsibility for an action consciously and deliberately taken by my mind. Dark urges come from our cursed flesh and from demons. It's up to the mind to make the choice, and the body to carry it out. The spirit has only to suffer, at that point.

And by the way, I know how to operate this thing. Heck, I'm doing it right now (did I mention I'm a straight-A student?). Also, knowledge of the brain was very limited before the Middle Ages, and people still built grand temples and wove fine tapestry without knowing how it worked. Even Abraham (who I believe had a successful walk with God, correct me if I'm wrong) probably didn't even know what a brain was!!. People just thought, and that's all they knew. That was all they needed. Therefore, that last comment you made was irrelevant. A friendly gesture, I realize, but irrelevant nonetheless.
 
Sirk said:
Ya man...that's tough. There is this guy that I really admire who plays guitar. He has an instrumental album out called "Revenge of the Nerd" and he has his grade school nerdy pic of himself on the cover. The guy is an absolutely killer guitar player....he's played for many big name artists as a touring and studio guitarist. The guy was a total nerd in his formative years but he worked hard instead of wallowing in self pity. Do yourself a HUGE favor and use this time to develop a skill that when you are an adult will make you irresistible to the right woman.
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That last line came outta nowhere ..LOL
 
laoshanlung said:
Trust me, Sirk, I know how the brain works (well, the basics, anyway). I've studied the marvelous mass of gray matter in the past. But sin is still sin, and there's no excuse for bad behavior. Not even an excess of testosterone flooding into the frontal lobe and causing all sorts of mayhem. I can't allow my body to accept full responsibility for an action consciously and deliberately taken by my mind. Dark urges come from our cursed flesh and from demons. It's up to the mind to make the choice, and the body to carry it out. The spirit has only to suffer, at that point.

And by the way, I know how to operate this thing. Heck, I'm doing it right now (did I mention I'm a straight-A student?). Also, knowledge of the brain was very limited before the Middle Ages, and people still built grand temples and wove fine tapestry without knowing how it worked. Even Abraham (who I believe had a successful walk with God, correct me if I'm wrong) probably didn't even know what a brain was!!. People just thought, and that's all they knew. That was all they needed. Therefore, that last comment you made was irrelevant. A friendly gesture, I realize, but irrelevant nonetheless.
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Not to pile on,but almost all sin originates in the brain.

When we are born again ,our spirit is regenerated,but the mind has to be renewed.

That renewing is ONLY accomplished through daily input.
 
laoshanlung said:
Trust me, Sirk, I know how the brain works (well, the basics, anyway). I've studied the marvelous mass of gray matter in the past. But sin is still sin, and there's no excuse for bad behavior. Not even an excess of testosterone flooding into the frontal lobe and causing all sorts of mayhem. I can't allow my body to accept full responsibility for an action consciously and deliberately taken by my mind. Dark urges come from our cursed flesh and from demons. It's up to the mind to make the choice, and the body to carry it out. The spirit has only to suffer, at that point.

And by the way, I know how to operate this thing. Heck, I'm doing it right now (did I mention I'm a straight-A student?). Also, knowledge of the brain was very limited before the Middle Ages, and people still built grand temples and wove fine tapestry without knowing how it worked. Even Abraham (who I believe had a successful walk with God, correct me if I'm wrong) probably didn't even know what a brain was!!. People just thought, and that's all they knew. That was all they needed. Therefore, that last comment you made was irrelevant. A friendly gesture, I realize, but irrelevant nonetheless.
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Well then heal thyself physician.....and you don't need to defrost the fridge every single day. Just go for once in a awhile.
 
laoshanlung said:
Trust me, Sirk, I know how the brain works (well, the basics, anyway). I've studied the marvelous mass of gray matter in the past. But sin is still sin, and there's no excuse for bad behavior. Not even an excess of testosterone flooding into the frontal lobe and causing all sorts of mayhem. I can't allow my body to accept full responsibility for an action consciously and deliberately taken by my mind. Dark urges come from our cursed flesh and from demons. It's up to the mind to make the choice, and the body to carry it out. The spirit has only to suffer, at that point.

And by the way, I know how to operate this thing. Heck, I'm doing it right now (did I mention I'm a straight-A student?). Also, knowledge of the brain was very limited before the Middle Ages, and people still built grand temples and wove fine tapestry without knowing how it worked. Even Abraham (who I believe had a successful walk with God, correct me if I'm wrong) probably didn't even know what a brain was!!. People just thought, and that's all they knew. That was all they needed. Therefore, that last comment you made was irrelevant. A friendly gesture, I realize, but irrelevant nonetheless.
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Not to belabor the point, but from someone who knows a lot more about this than you do..... You really don't seem to know "Jack ______" about much of this. If you did, you would already be rid of it, instead of sitting here typing foolishness to a bunch of strangers on a forum.
 
I don't understand what of my post could be considered as foolishness, but I suppose it must be so, given the number of people criticizing my replies. I'm no physician. I just know that the conscience mind always has control over complex actions like watching bad stuff online (turning on the computer isn't exactly a reflex). I really can't just say, "Oh, no, it happenned again. But that's alright; I'm just a teenager with no self-control anyway." I have to accept responsibility for my actions, no matter the influence I come under. Sin is the same thing whether you are 16 or 61. And at all ages, people sin, so it's not like teens require special treatment.

And no, given the rather abstract nature of my current issue, I really don't know how to help myself. That's why I'm asking for input from more experienced christians, like you guys. It just seems to me that everything I say in reply is wrong. Are we truely at odds here? Because if we are, I should probably stop posting stuff, since I'm just making people angry, and thereby nonproductive. Or maybe I should just stop commenting on my own threads...
 
By the way, LadyBlue, putting a smiley-face after a comment that is obviously aimed to sting doesn't make it any more pleasant. In fact, it makes it even more irritating. If you want to say something, even if it's innately unpleasant, just say it straight, no sugarcoating.
 
laoshanlung said:
By the way, LadyBlue, putting a smiley-face after a comment that is obviously aimed to sting doesn't make it any more pleasant. In fact, it makes it even more irritating. If you want to say something, even if it's innately unpleasant, just say it straight, no sugarcoating.
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If I wanted it to sting, you'd know it. I ALWAYS say things straight, I hate it when people sugar coat stuff. Twice now you've posted "hot diggity dog" and "oh my gosh" when you received reps. Instead of saying either of those, why not say "thank you" to whoever gave them to you? My comment WAS straightforward when I said "how about saying thank you". It was simple, direct and easy to understand..

You're having quite the attitude on here with people. You could learn alot from people like Willie and Sirk. Willie especially has alot of experience in this area, because he counsels people just like you. So stop being a smart aleck to people who are trying to offer you help. You are only 16, and you do NOT have more experience with how to get rid of your addiction, than Willie does. He is rather knowlegeable on the subject and you would do well to learn all you can from him. :)
 
laoshanlung said:
By the way, LadyBlue, putting a smiley-face after a comment that is obviously aimed to sting doesn't make it any more pleasant. In fact, it makes it even more irritating. If you want to say something, even if it's innately unpleasant, just say it straight, no sugarcoating.
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There shouldn't be ANYTHING "innately unpleasant" about saying thank you to someone. Unless the person finding it unpleasant to say thank you, is innately selfish.. I ALWAYS thank people who give me reps, whether I know who they come from or not. :)
 
Thank you, LB. But awareness has to come a while after he finally learns he doesn't have the solid grip on things he thinks he does.
He's already received a lengthy PM from me, so maybe that will help him a little.
 
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