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Sharp

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sorry if I offended anyone - but I don't think I have..
 

seoulsearch

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sorry if I offended anyone - but I don't think I have..
*sniffs*

*wounded*

I am TERRIBLY offended, Luke.

Just send me a koala and we'll call it even. :D
 
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Matthew

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alright in light of the above comments another generalisation is due.

americans are too sensitive when it comes to race.

boundaries are broken down with humour, when seemingly awkward or sensitive issues can be spoken of lightly and made fun of.

some would think the opposite is true though - when society gets to the point where even acknowledging someone being a different colour or nationality is frowned upon - that's racial harmony. no way.

my advice to the USA would be to lighten up and go watch the movie "Crash".


p.s. white men can't jump
I tend to agree, but I post for much more important reasons and that is to say that Crash = very poor film :( I was bitterly dissapointed with that one, with the exception of Matt Dillon.
 

Sharp

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I tend to agree, but I post for much more important reasons and that is to say that Crash = very poor film :( I was bitterly dissapointed with that one, with the exception of Matt Dillon.
oh really? what didn't you like about it?


I found it so funny. And I thought it was pretty smart how the stories all meshed together.
 
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Matthew

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I found it so funny. And I thought it was pretty smart how the stories all meshed together.
I really like films where stories come together in that way and that was done well but I didn't enjoy some of the characters and there were a few too many stories, a few less shown in bit more detail would have been better.

The biggest thing for me that was that it didn't make sense, so many of the characters were the cause of their own problems by playing into stereotypes and judging people before they even spoke or acted, I get the point was to show that and what can happen but because they didn't follow through with so many of the characters it wasn't storytelling but more like snapshots of peoples lives and every single one was death, abuse or simple cruelness.

The reason I liked Matt Dillon in the film was because his charater was explored the most and he was shown learning something and changing as the film went on, most others weren't shown in so much detail and it seemed kind of pointless, definetly a film where I'd say less is more.
 

Sharp

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I liked his character the best too - he stands out in that movie for me.
 
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Matthew

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I liked his character the best too - he stands out in that movie for me.
Definetly, I was hoping he'd get the Best Supporting Actor at the Oscars that year, bit of a shame, not that I really care about the Oscars though.
 
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iliveforHim

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alright in light of the above comments another generalisation is due.

americans are too sensitive when it comes to race.

boundaries are broken down with humour, when seemingly awkward or sensitive issues can be spoken of lightly and made fun of.

some would think the opposite is true though - when society gets to the point where even acknowledging someone being a different colour or nationality is frowned upon - that's racial harmony. no way.

my advice to the USA would be to lighten up and go watch the movie "Crash".


p.s. white men can't jump

well, I never!!!!

:)

hmmm...perhaps you have a point...I'm very sensitive to racial issues because I'm just that...sensitive...and I don't want any one's feelings to get hurt, that's all...I thought you were being nasty to her...didn't know you were friends...

Don't you guys have racism where you live? (I'm serious...I'm curious about you and your culture, place where you live, etc...)

I've been discriminated against for being Salvadorean, and I've been discriminated against because I look Caucasian...In my country, El Salvador, it was more of a "class" issue...if you had money, you were alright (unless you were dark skinned...stupid, but true), if you had no money, you were and still are considered less of a human being...

don't haaaaate, Sharp...don't haaaaate...


can u jump, Sharp???? (hee heeee....)
 
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There's always people, who will argue against the plain facts you present. In fact the ones who disagree, are usually pricked in their conscience that they are or may be one of the ones you are talking about. They then feel the need to retort " but not all of them ", as if the rules of generalisation and even exaggeration, are to be taken seriously and as literal fact. For those of you who can speak english - when a person generalises using the wonderful colour of our english language, it is normally well understood that they don't literally mean 100%, and that there are exceptions to the rule.
 
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yenguccia

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HI, I am asian and married to a wonderful man. I am blessed to have him in my life. I can only speak for myself about this thread.
Being brought by christian values, as child I was brought up with strong beliefs with christian family and I just praise God for
that, I appreciate life more, thankful for all my blessings and even if I or we have problems we try to let go and forgive. Life isn't pefect
but I just te each thing as blessing.
I would say being Asian , It is true that we take things lightly, so much different from women western countries.
For some people ( or example) to spill milk is so annoying but when i happens to an asian, she would most likely laugh about it.

Most be also the geographical location... Philippines, ;) having the sun almost all year round is such a great thing to have in my childhood until adulthood. I think having at least 86 % catholic ( practicing) 3 % christians and other religion. If you visit, churches are full on Sundays, Family day..love that..:)
Simple pleasures is what asians appreciate, a simple note, a joke, a simple "hi" would make an asian happy.
The secret is most of us are God fearing...andthat makes a lotf difference...:)
 
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yenguccia

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*ring, ring*

Sharp!! You go way!! Stop posting in forum, now!! You no help at all!!! *zonks out, falls asleep*

*probably from laughing so hard* :D

I agree with seoulsearch...asians have brains and that's one tactic.. they pretend to sleep.ehhehe... so as not to talk to you.. by the way, your nick fits you...
 

Sharp

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I agree with seoulsearch...asians have brains and that's one tactic.. they pretend to sleep.ehhehe... so as not to talk to you.. by the way, your nick fits you...

hahaha so thats it!

they pretend to sleep so i wont talk to them! because they think i'll start telling them all about my asian driver stories.

on a side note, my favourite kind of t-shirt are those which have english writing on them but are made in asian countries - i.e. broken english. i have quite a collection, from china, HK, thailand, cambodia. the writing is hilarious.

also, engrish.com. love it.
 
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Greetings,

I hope I can word this with sufficient eloquence so as not to offend...

In my work life I have had the pleasure of being co-employed with several Asian women. I have found them to be so wonderfully kind, non-judgmental, always friendly and very hard working. Most noticeable to me is that these women - specifically new immigrants - have grown up in a culture where men are highly respected.

I have found that North American women - in general - do not have the same respect for men that these Asian women have. North American women - in general - often do not have the same desire for quality work, and are often highly judgmental. If they sniff out a man and find that his position in life or confidence level is not equal to hers, they will often treat that man as an inferior.

To conclude, I present a question to the male readers of this thread specifically. Am I unique in this, or have any of you other men noticed these qualities in Asian women?

Quest (I'm Caucasian)
My wife is independent - she even earned he Ph.D - something I am not interested in doing. She is smart and enjoys growing in her spirituality and she know what she believes - she is my equal partner in every way. I like women who are happy about who they are, without feeling like they have to be submissive. I didn't want to marry someone who is less than an adult - I wanted someone who enjoyed their independence,
 
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starsailorgirl

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i like the topic...hee :)
 
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yenguccia

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hahaha so thats it!

they pretend to sleep so i wont talk to them! because they think i'll start telling them all about my asian driver stories.

on a side note, my favourite kind of t-shirt are those which have english writing on them but are made in asian countries - i.e. broken english. i have quite a collection, from china, HK, thailand, cambodia. the writing is hilarious.

also, engrish.com. love it.

visit Italy...you will see lots of those...!! it's hilarious..i usually take pics of them and post them in my site...love it..it's so funny...most of them are public notices translated literally in English...
 

Sharp

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wow that's surprising - you'd think they'd speak a bit of english in italy
 
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buckeyegirl700

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It's not just Asian women, it's just non-American women. American women have grown up on "independence" and refuse to be told what to do by ANYONE under ANY circumstance. Just today in class, my sub was talking about how she sometimes goes out in public in a miniskirt, and someone said "Does he say anything to you about that?"

She responded- "Heck no, he KNOWS better than to tell ME what >I< should and shouldn't wear!" Shortly afterwards, all the girls in the class echoed back, "You got that right, girl!" and "You're right, I wouldn't take that from MY man!"

I was like "0_o" at this. Are women really so independent that they refuse to even listen to their husband's opinions? And if they do listen, do they not even care how he feels about the decisions they make? Sure, it's happened the other way around before with abusive husbands, but this new attitude in girls is becoming an acceptable standard.

Heck, my girlfriend is even under the new standard a little bit... I can't tell if she's naturally not, but being pulled into it, or if she naturally is and trying to remain relatively submissive, but either way, it's not good =S lol
I can probably guess the reason I am still single is because I am not submissive. I can see not wearing provactive clothes, I dress pretty modistly. I just do not like taking orders from men. I have never dated a Christian before so it might make a difference. I have dated unbeleivers and I have always got the impression that they are controll freaks. If I was married to a good Christian guy I would respect his authority and his wishes
 

QuestionTime

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I can probably guess the reason I am still single is because I am not submissive. I can see not wearing provactive clothes, I dress pretty modistly. I just do not like taking orders from men. I have never dated a Christian before so it might make a difference. I have dated unbeleivers and I have always got the impression that they are controll freaks. If I was married to a good Christian guy I would respect his authority and his wishes
It's true with any characteristic Buckeyegirl700. The more that we fit in with the "perfect" image, the more likely we are to have a mate.

What Christians adore is not exactly what the heathen's desire in a mate, but many things are similar to the two tastes. It's an imperfect world and we just got to deal with it.

Quest
 

Ellie

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I know this is off the topic, but I've always felt this verse is odd. Like, neener, neener, I'm not going to get revenge (so you can go simmer, loser). What does this verse really mean?
Someone told me once and I forget exactly what - but it was something they used to do apparently and it was a good thing. Heaping coals on someone's head I mean. It wasn't straight onto their head it was, like, on top of something.. I can't remember..

but basically it wasn't about scolding and harming someone but about warming them up. Literally. I used to think "heaping coals" referred to hurting the person, like it was a mean thing to do, which is what it sounds like if you don't know about the culture it was written for at the time.

I wish I could remember and knew where to read more about it. But basically if you re-interpret the verse realising that actually heaping coals is supposed to be a good, compassionate thing to warm someone up, it changes the context.

It's saying if someone is unkind to you, have compassion on them and warm them up (because it's hurting people that hurt people, so if someone harms you their coldness stems from their own neediness) by repaying their evil with good. Hope that helps.