Finding it hard to repent

[laoshanlung]

So... I got addicted to pornography when I was 11. I'm 16 now, and still addicted. I told my mom about it half a year ago, and I stopped for a few weeks. But then I started again, and now cannot stop myself. I've asked God for His aid, but I guess I'm either disconnected from Him, or he's doing his usual thing... which is being silent on the matter. Can anyone give me some advice as to how I should go about repenting and staying repented? Because seriously, it feels as though there is something ripping my conscience apart. Please help me.

 

[dalconn]

Brother, unfortunately there is no recipe or easy steps but rather a process. This is a stronghold in your life and the enemy wants to use it to destroy your life. You need fellowship, accountability, prayer, and regeneration by the washing of the word. Check out these sights and may the Lord reveal His love to you

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[blue_ladybug]

So... I got addicted to pornography when I was 11. I'm 16 now, and still addicted. I told my mom about it half a year ago, and I stopped for a few weeks. But then I started again, and now cannot stop myself. I've asked God for His aid, but I guess I'm either disconnected from Him, or he's doing his usual thing... which is being silent on the matter. Can anyone give me some advice as to how I should go about repenting and staying repented? Because seriously, it feels as though there is something ripping my conscience apart. Please help me.

You're disconnected from God, because God is NOT silent to those who hear him. He's only silent to those not taking the time to listen to him.

 

[laoshanlung]

Well, THAAAAAANKS, LadyBlue. THAT was helpful, It's hard to sound sarcastic on here...

 

[Willie-T]

This has been my field of endeavor for nearly a quarter century. And I do have some definite answers for your situation. However, your last post has prompted me to just sit and read this thread for a while, to see how serious you really are.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

So... I got addicted to pornography when I was 11. I'm 16 now, and still addicted. I told my mom about it half a year ago, and I stopped for a few weeks. But then I started again, and now cannot stop myself. I've asked God for His aid, but I guess I'm either disconnected from Him, or he's doing his usual thing... which is being silent on the matter. Can anyone give me some advice as to how I should go about repenting and staying repented? Because seriously, it feels as though there is something ripping my conscience apart. Please help me.

Resist it. If you dont have internal control use external control. Burn all your access to porn. If you have to throw away your computer do it. Dont enter that door that leads to your destruction. Sin hurts you dont be deceived that it is good because you feel good. Like sugar it is sweet but it is bad for your health. Sugar crash is awful. Imagine your soul sugar crashing.

 

[laoshanlung]

Willie-T, I apologize. To you too, LadyBlue. I didn't mean to offend or to come off as arrogant. I guess I was just feeling a little condemned and really incompetent is all. Anyways, Mr. T, I'd like you to know that I am dead serious about needing help, so if you've any to offer, and by the sound of your post you do, I'd really appreciate it if you'd lend me your aid. 'Cause I'm out of ideas, and I'm running out of hope.

 

[laoshanlung]

And to Dalconn, thanks for the advice as well. I'll check out the sites and see if they'll help. Tinkerbell, I'm sorry to say, but I've already tried resisting, and I'm just too weak to do it. If I was strong enough, I wouldn't be asking for advice. Thanks anyway, though.

 

[Elisabet]

And to Dalconn, thanks for the advice as well. I'll check out the sites and see if they'll help. Tinkerbell, I'm sorry to say, but I've already tried resisting, and I'm just too weak to do it. If I was strong enough, I wouldn't be asking for advice. Thanks anyway, though.

We are all not strong enough, but God strengthens us. There is still a possibility that He will give you a second chance to repent. When you're addicted to something, you cannot just run away immediately from it indeed.

It is reaaaaaally hard indeed to stop addicting, especially to pornography, but what helps me when i want to do something wrong is to think of Jesus' sacrifice at the cross. When i remembered how big His love to me, i will have to think again to do that wrong thing.
I know that probably when we are too adiccted to pornography, our mind will be full of such things, and we are not able to be focused, especially to Someone we cannot see.

I used to be addicted to the same thing (not for a long time, just for weeks) and i will just keep myself busy so that i will forget what i want to watch in the internet. I will just go outside, or like avoid being alone in a room with full internet access. But i don't think it will work when you've been addicted for a long time. So probably you can come to a psychologist or something, because probably God can and will work through them.

 

[Willie-T]

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I have dealt with this subject for decades, and in all that time I have only found two things that truly worked in almost all cases. The other one is a video course that pretty well requires a group setting, and costs $170 for the six videos. And, truthfully, I think this book, IF YOU DO ALL THE EXERCISES, is the better of the two.

If this seems to be of interest to you, I will post a bit about what Jon himself says about the way he came to write this book.

But, a word of warning. Nothing is going to work if you are not willing to get solidly involved, and are determined NOT to just alter your behavior, but, more importantly, YOUR THINKING AND BELIEF ABOUT SEVERAL THINGS. Frankly, this is little more than beginning to take the first steps toward getting your mind ready to become a man..... and NOT in the Madison Avenue nor Hollywood manner.

ENDORSEMENTS

Jonathan Welton is one of my heroes. He takes on challenging themes with courage and creativity. I always learn from him. This book is stunningly profound. He got my attention and kept it. This is not a simplistic approach to a topic that impacts virtually all Christian men. Those who read this book will find themselves deeply impacted. As one (with most men) who struggles with sexual purity, I am grateful that Jonathan chose to address this theme and offer solid answers.
DR. JOHN RODDAM
President of Pleroma International
Former Rector of St. Luke’s Episcopal, Seattle, WA

This incredible book empowers men to become true protectors and rescuers of women and look upon them with eyes of honor. I highly recommend this book for men who want true change in their lives. Jonathan Welton is not only a powerhouse writer but a true man.
SHELLEY LUBBEN
President of Pink Cross Foundation
Former porn star

Jonathan has something to say. This is not a rehashing of old methods. Jonathan has revelation. When you start reading, you first wonder if it is true. Then you continue reading and begin to hope that it is true. Then you submerge yourself in the message and you know it is true. God is speaking through Jonathan’s words. Listen and you will find freedom.
HAROLD EBERLE
President of Worldcast Ministries and Publishing

Jonathan has written one of the best books on being free from bondage by dealing with the root issues of sin. I highly recommend reading this book, and you should be prepared to receive your breakthrough.
DR. CHÉ AHN
Senior Pastor, HROCK Church, Pasadena, CA
President, Harvest International Ministry
International Chancellor, Wagner Leadership Institute

Finally, a book that doesn’t just deal with the fruit of the problem, but the root of overcoming the lie of men’s identity. Jonathan Welton gives you raw truth about a national problem that we’ve shoved under the carpet for far too long; the addiction to pornography and the sexualization of women. It offers not only total freedom, but practical steps to facing the problem head on. This book has the capacity to not only change our churches, but our culture—restoring the identity of men and giving them Eyes of Honor.
ANNY DONEWALD
Founder, Eve’s Angels Inc.
Former stripper and call girl

Jonathan Welton has addressed a pressing need in the lives of many men in the Body of Christ. Sharing from his own struggles and his many attempts to find freedom will surely encourage men who long for purity and freedom from any type of sexual addiction. Jonathan found keys that resulted in lasting freedom and shares the truths that set him free. May this book start a fire of purity that spreads through the Body of Christ and releases many from the chains of bondage.
JOE MCINTYRE
President, International Fellowship of Ministries

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DARREN STOTT
Lead Pastor, The Seattle Revival Center

Herein Jonathan deals with one of the key issues for all Christians. How do you really overcome the power of the evil one? How do you triumph over the lusts of the flesh? Jonathan shows that our Lord provides the answer to the lusts of the flesh. With God all things are possible. Here is an ideal chance to show that through Christ all is possible. Read this book and move from despair to triumph by putting into practice the victory that has already been won.
THE REVEREND CANON DR. ANDREW P.B. WHITE
Vicar of Baghdad
Director of the High Council of Religious Leaders in Iraq

I have discovered that Jonathan Welton is a prophetic voice for our generation. In his book, The Eyes of Honor, Jonathan has given fresh insight and tools for living a life of purity. I have had the opportunity to personally observe many ministers display the power of God who have great influence in the Body of Christ. I always enjoy watching the manifestation of the power of God displayed through someone’s gifting, but it has been my experience that a person’s character needs to match the level of their gifting. Gifting will bring platforms of influence, but character will keep you there safely.
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CHAD DEDMON,
Co-Author of Risk Factor,
International Speaker, Encountering Jesus Ministries

Eyes of Honor will open your eyes and heart to fresh revelations of God’s love and presence. I commend his insightful book as a guide to deeper intimacy with the Spirit and a map for your spiritual journey. Once we grasp the revelation of the Gospel, that we truly have been crucified with Christ and have died to our old nature, life blossoms, sin repulses us, and Kingdom life brings exhilaration and deep intimacy with Christ and others.
DR. ALAN N. KEIRAN
Captain, Chaplain Corps, USN (Ret)
Chief of Staff, U.S. Senate Chaplain’s Office
Washington, DC

Eyes of Honor has addressed the challenge of addiction of any kind with biblical clarity, courage, and great hope. Jonathan’s emphasis on a necessary change of focus—not to victory but from victory, not predators but protectors, not in bondage but in freedom—are powerful keys to right-mindedness and right living. The “but rather” and other tools he provides are practical, powerful, and effective. This is a book I can highly recommend to my own clients. The contents of this book will empower not just individuals, but communities to rise up and rescue the lost and broken!
PATRICIA BYERS MS, NCP, LMHC
Mental Health Therapist, Yakima, WA
Advisory Board, Healing & Training Center of Yakima

The largest contributing factor to morality struggles among Christians is the Church’s obsession with moralizing. We were never tasked to moralize the world, but rather to preach the scandal of grace. This book is refreshing in that it points neither to external nor internal exercises at shaping up behavior in a vain attempt to conform men into perfect peaches. Rather, starting from the inside out, Jonathan Welton shows that good behavior is an effortless by-product of recognizing our true identity in Christ. Our perfection has already been completely accomplished in Him. This is the very thing that liberates us to be who we already are. The old is gone; the new has come. As you read this book, let a revelation of the finished work of Christ’s cross bring an end to your struggle to be good. Both our addictions and our self-willed attempts to defeat them were crucified with Christ—and now we’re simply realizing that we’ve been woven into a transcendent union life with Godhead.
JOHN CROWDER
Sons of Thunder Ministries & Publications
Sons of Thunder

Jonathan Welton is truly ahead of his time and beyond his years with his latest book Eyes of Honor. Jonathan represents the voice of a generation that will not minimize the finished work of the cross of Christ. He has taken the battle against sexual sin out of the closet and given a unique understanding about our true identity as new creations in Christ.
JOSH CROFTON
Prophetic Leadership, Mountain Top International
Crofton House Ministries, Yakima, WA

 

[blue_ladybug]

Willie-T, I apologize. To you too, LadyBlue. I didn't mean to offend or to come off as arrogant. I guess I was just feeling a little condemned and really incompetent is all. Anyways, Mr. T, I'd like you to know that I am dead serious about needing help, so if you've any to offer, and by the sound of your post you do, I'd really appreciate it if you'd lend me your aid. 'Cause I'm out of ideas, and I'm running out of hope.

Apology accepted. Like I said before, God is only silent to those who don't take the time to hear him, or those who have so much turmoil in their lives, that are louder than God's voice. You're not alone in this, there are hundreds of people here who struggle with addictions of all sorts. Try to limit your time on the internet, get a block put on so you can't access porn sites. Do things to keep your mind occupied. Go out and play ball with friends, or mow a neighbor's lawn, shovel snow, whatever. Keep praying and listening for God. The harder you work to clear this noise out, the sooner you'll hear his voice.

 

[Willie-T]

Willie-T, I apologize. To you too, LadyBlue. I didn't mean to offend or to come off as arrogant. I guess I was just feeling a little condemned and really incompetent is all. Anyways, Mr. T, I'd like you to know that I am dead serious about needing help, so if you've any to offer, and by the sound of your post you do, I'd really appreciate it if you'd lend me your aid. 'Cause I'm out of ideas, and I'm running out of hope.

Thank you, but no apologies are necessary. I think I can probably speak for The Bug, too, when I say that we both have enough living under our belts not to let the same frustrations we also had as 16-year olds bother us very much. I, possibly more so, because I've got so many years of dealing with teens who would never have shown the maturity you did by just the act of posting that apology.

That was really what I was looking for when I said I was going to sit back and just read here awhile. I see that may not be necessary, after all. (And, don't worry. I fully anticipate that you may blow it again... probably more than once.) This "growing-up" thing doesn't just happen, overnight, because we want it to. Most of us ancient ones on this forum are STILL working on it... and we are three or four times older than you.

 

[PennEd]

So... I got addicted to pornography when I was 11. I'm 16 now, and still addicted. I told my mom about it half a year ago, and I stopped for a few weeks. But then I started again, and now cannot stop myself. I've asked God for His aid, but I guess I'm either disconnected from Him, or he's doing his usual thing... which is being silent on the matter. Can anyone give me some advice as to how I should go about repenting and staying repented? Because seriously, it feels as though there is something ripping my conscience apart. Please help me.

Horrible addiction. The answer for me was to continually feed my Spirit instead of my flesh. Also recognizing that the battle has already been won by Jesus, and if I simply keep my eyes on Him, realizing what He has done for me and continues to do, then I no longer WANT to feed my flesh and it becomes easier to WANT to serve Him.

On another level, especially initially, you may want to have someone install a program called "Covenant eyes". This gives a full report to an accountable person, like your parents, or a Church friend, of every site you visit on both your phone and computer. This is NOT the total answer as the flesh will try and find other ways to feed itself, but it's a start until the Holy Spirit works to get you to WANT to serve Jesus.

Dear Lord, I ask You to move mightily in this young man's life, and remove this desire and replace it with a strong desire to serve You. In Jesus name I pray

 

[Willie-T]

We are all not strong enough, but God strengthens us. There is still a possibility that He will give you a second chance to repent. When you're addicted to something, you cannot just run away immediately from it indeed.

It is reaaaaaally hard indeed to stop addicting, especially to pornography, but what helps me when i want to do something wrong is to think of Jesus' sacrifice at the cross. When i remembered how big His love to me, i will have to think again to do that wrong thing.
I know that probably when we are too adiccted to pornography, our mind will be full of such things, and we are not able to be focused, especially to Someone we cannot see.

I used to be addicted to the same thing (not for a long time, just for weeks) and i will just keep myself busy so that i will forget what i want to watch in the internet. I will just go outside, or like avoid being alone in a room with full internet access. But i don't think it will work when you've been addicted for a long time. So probably you can come to a psychologist or something, because probably God can and will work through them.

You're only 14? Wow. Impressive!

 

[Willie-T]

Lung,

A point that has to be made, right here.
You have heard a bit about "Accountability", "Accountability Partners", and "Blocking Software", and you will undoubtedly hear a lot more.
Know, up front, that these are "Band Aids." Useful, initially, but never to be considered true answers to this problem.

 

[Utah]

So... I got addicted to pornography when I was 11. I'm 16 now, and still addicted. I told my mom about it half a year ago, and I stopped for a few weeks. But then I started again, and now cannot stop myself. I've asked God for His aid, but I guess I'm either disconnected from Him, or he's doing his usual thing... which is being silent on the matter. Can anyone give me some advice as to how I should go about repenting and staying repented? Because seriously, it feels as though there is something ripping my conscience apart. Please help me.

No worries, little Brother. God is not silent and your own words verify it. The ripping feeling you're experiencing is the conviction of the Holy Spirit drawing you closer to the Father.

Always remember, God will never forsake you.

 

[skylove7]

Porn is nasty
Because there are ol floosy's a throwin it around
If you are turned on by porn women

Change your ways of lookin at it brother!

Instead of being turned ON by porn.....

Think to yourself. ...
Eeeeeee that woman
Would invite everything in the country for money!

That's nasty......
Believe in true love brother!

Porn is an issue with people cuz they dont look at the big picture....
like ewww


Pray brother
Wait for true love
And open your eyes
That porn is hoes bein nasty ew
Who wants that?
Lol

 

[Willie-T]

Porn is nasty
Because there are ol floosy's a throwin it around
If you are turned on by porn women

Change your ways of lookin at it brother!

Instead of being turned ON by porn.....

Think to yourself. ...
Eeeeeee that woman
Would invite everything in the country for money!

That's nasty......
Believe in true love brother!

Porn is an issue with people cuz they dont look at the big picture....
like ewww


Pray brother
Wait for true love
And open your eyea
That porn is hoes bein nasty ew
Who wants that?
Lol

Be it hereby known that I love Sky as much, and possibly more than anyone on this forum. BUT, I feel a small correction is in order here.

In reality, we MUST learn to understand that those women are our sisters. And must be seen as such. (just as we must learn to see all the people of this ball of dirt upon which we live) No, (to thwart the possible legal replies that I know are festering to hit the airwaves) they are not our sisters in Christ... yet. But we must never allow ourselves to foster a "Them vs. Us" attitude... about anyone God made.

This is one of the biggest things that will continue to divide us on this very forum. And, most certainly, in all of life. If we cannot look into the eyes of others, and see our brothers and sisters, we are doomed to never truly fathom what Christ gave for us, and to us.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Well, THAAAAAANKS, LadyBlue. THAT was helpful, It's hard to sound sarcastic on here...

Sarcasm.. yer doin' it right.. lol.. But seriously, if you have a sarcastic answer every time someone tries to help you, you probably won't get taken very seriously. Lighten up a bit.

 

[skylove7]

Be it hereby known that I love Sky as much, and possibly more than anyone on this forum. BUT, I feel a small correction is in order here.

In reality, we MUST learn to understand that those women are our sisters. And must be seen as such. (just as we must learn to see all the people of this ball of dirt upon which we live) No, (to thwart the possible legal replies that I know are festering to hit the airwaves) they are not our sisters in Christ... yet. But we must never allow ourselves to foster a "Them vs. Us" attitude... about anyone God made.

This is one of the biggest things that will continue to divide us on this very forum. And, most certainly, in all of life. If we cannot look into the eyes of others, and see our brothers and sisters, we are doomed to never truly fathom what Christ gave for us, and to us.

Yes brother....you are right, and I ask for forgiveness on my attitude. But I spoke from the heart as a single woman for years and years in all my good intentions of wanting true love, numerous times I have been on a date and asked to be a man's favour.
My response was because I believe if the man looked at these people on film differently he would NOT find them attractive.
I am attracted to men,...yes I am a woman. But I find no attraction in watching men and women perform for money.

I do apologize if my comment offended anyone.
But you can spend pages trying to help this man, but my belief is if he looks at the porn in the truth that it is...which is people having multiple partners for money.....
In my opinion....
That's how I look at porn....
That is why I find it unappealing.


God bless you WillieT
Do forgive me if my attitude is wrong
But I am so attracted to love.....
Sex for money on film truly offends me

I do pray that the OP realizes the beauty in love
Love not just sex

God bless you all

Hey
We all have our days lol