Why we are single? (the real reason)

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Oops, I meant to post that in Reece's thread, where its phrasing would be more correct to the title question. Oh, well!





Edit: Mitspa, it's more like I don't think it'd be wise to get involved w/ anyone atm, but I'm allowing God to intervene if He wants to do so :).
 
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gymnerd

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Yeraza_Bats said:
I do have some social anxiety, I do get nervous around people I dont know all that well, and I struggle to talk when around them. I even have this problem at work, when people want to have a conversation with me, I generally look away from them, and struggle to think of things to say. And when I do try to talk I forget words and studder over what Im trying to say sometimes. Its not really that horrible, but at times it can be difficult. There are a few people who I actually really do just naturally click with, like at work there was this 50 year old Catholic lady that I just felt really comfortable with, and we could just talk about anything. I had no problems with her at all. But that rarely happens : p
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I have this same problem, that's kind of why I don't post on here very often. I will have an idea of what I want to say but I can't get it into words or something. Other time in the middle of talking I end up trying to say like two or three words at the same time and end up feeling like an idiot. Sometimes I physically can't respond to someone so I basically just end up ignoring them, it happens more so with people that I don't know. I have been improving a lot over the past year but being around a lot of people still makes me really nervous.
 
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darkisha89

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I think the reason im single is because just got out of a relationship that was hectic also coz i want a manly man who loves God knows what he wants and wont bore the hell out of me.is that too hard to ask
 
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Hellooo

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Hahahaha darkisha
 
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Mitspa said:
ok....no blaming God on this thread :)

Its not His fault :p
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Mitspa, Mitspa, Mitspa... You just know somebody is going to have to blame God for it now. Just because you said that. And they will probably post cat pictures too.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Well, I'm not a very social person , so I'd have to be ambushed by a guy to start dating,
and if someone did ambush me I'd probably be more likely to run than embrace them so ... yeah ....
 
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wwjd_kilden said:
Well, I'm not a very social person , so I'd have to be ambushed by a guy to start dating,
and if someone did ambush me I'd probably be more likely to run than embrace them so ... yeah ....
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Would you describe yourself as quiet - even around people you know/that know you?
 
Utah

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Mitspa said:
While reading the "why we are single" thread... I could not help think about how many people seem to blame God for their single situation, which im sure is somewhat true in certain situations :confused:

Lets have a honest thread... Ill start out... why am I single?

I kinda like things my own way and its hard for me to give away certain aspects of my liberty...(I have many more)
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Amen to this, Mitspa. I feel you, Brother.

I do what I want, when I want, how I want, with who I want . . .
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Siberian_Khatru said:
Would you describe yourself as quiet - even around people you know/that know you?
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If I'm with only a few people and I know them all well I chatter a lot :p
If there are mostly people I don't know I barely speak a word.
 
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Amen to this, Mitspa. I feel you, Brother.

I do what I want, when I want, how I want, with who I want . . .
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Hence is most likely why we are single if we are honest! But I mean it in a different sense. I mean, have we really learned to make Christ LORD over our lives therefore having learned all things Christ and exuding the love it takes to be selfless?
 
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GodsGraceOnMe

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That is how I am to.
 
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GodsGraceOnMe

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Mitsa I love your honesty.
 
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BruceWayne said:
I never understood putting the reason on anyone, but me. Like, I would never say I'm single, because God hasn't told me to be in a relationship, or that my family didn't approve, etc. If I want to date, I will. If it's not the right time, I won't. Anything else just sounds like an excuse or a crutch to me. That's just how I approach and see it, so yeah.

The reason I am at the moment is simply because I want to be. I've been in a relationship for most of the last five years, so I'm enjoying doing my own thing. :)
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And you do the whole collectable toy thing..which I know don't mean someone cant get married, but im sure it really slows down the process :)
 
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Mitspa said:
And you do the whole collectable toy thing..which I know don't mean someone cant get married, but im sure it really slows down the process :)
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Lol that is probably the nicest way someone could put it. :p
 
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Brother_J_BELGIUM

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I really don't have a clue why I'm still single. As I grow older, I can see the benefits of it but sometimes I do long for that day to finally meet a nice girl and get married. My mind tells me I shouldn't force myself to "find" someone because then it will definitely be a long journey and the first girl I meet and fall in love with tells me she just wants to be friends or she's not even interested in me at all, my heart will be broken for at least a couple of months. So that's why I just try to live a good life and find a job real soon I guess. One thing at a time.
 
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You'll have to meet some of the people I work with, Reborn!

My co-workers and I occasionally push each other around the store on U-boats and pallet jacks (because regular carts aren't fast or cool enough :D.) Granted, this is when the store isn't open, so no one actually sees us...

But still.

You might want to work on your cooking.
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Pallet Jack? Fun...especially when they're electric...

[video=youtube;BB2dvKEy6Xo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB2dvKEy6Xo[/video]
 
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NukePooch said:
Pallet Jack? Fun...especially when they're electric...

[video=youtube;BB2dvKEy6Xo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB2dvKEy6Xo[/video]
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For some reason this made me laugh so hard! Haha :p
 
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blondieindahouse said:

Hence is most likely why we are single if we are honest! But I mean it in a different sense. I mean, have we really learned to make Christ LORD over our lives therefore having learned all things Christ and exuding the love it takes to be selfless?
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I tried being selfless and got slapped in the face for my effort.
 
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