Syd,
Everything I said was in reference to things you've already posted publicly in threads here. You've said many times in the threads in Singles that you find many of the women here beautiful and had a prayer in one of the other threads that God would let you have at least one to yourself. You've also written many other posts in which you have expressed your hope to find someone here. Which is fine, but even as a joke, "falling in lust" is not the best choice of words to use here.
As for telling me not to be one of the Christians who are "getting splinters in their brains"... No need to worry. I don't ride a broom, but rather, a small sedan.
I have often received messages from young women on this site in which they've told me they are uncomfortable with some of the comments older men make here, even as a "joke". The men say exactly what you are saying: "It was a joke! She was in on it too!" But the thing is, the women actually don't like it at all but don't want to be disrespectful in any way so they don't say anything.
I will say that yes, I acted alone in speaking out against your "joke" regarding "falling in lust." No one asked me but it's something I felt the need to do, and I don't regret it at all. In addition, I know the context of the post as well. I know the person who originally started this thread as a personal friend and have been following it since its inception. I also re-read about 4 pages of previous posting before I made my own posts.
I'm not saying anything against you, and I do wish you the best. But I'm also taking, and sticking with, the stand that "falling in lust" in reference to someone, especially a woman less than half your age, is not an appropriate joke to make. I simply see it as common sense, but I do realize we seem to have a difference of opinion.
And so I shall simply agree to disagree and move on.
My intention was not to kill the thread, and it's had a very long run. The original poster hasn't revisited it in quite a while.
But yes, when I see something I don't feel comfortable with, I tend to say something, even it if runs the risk of "breaking" the thread.
So glad this comes from someone who cares about my feelings, and not a self-righteous, self-appointed old guardian of the young ewes.
Let's see, "when I see something I'm uncomfortable with, I tend to say something"
Except, "Everything I said was in reference to things you've already posted"
Oh, so when was this, since you weren't there for the joke, and you Never contacted me in person to discuss anything uncomfortable, let alone anything good, encouraging, or prayerful.
"You've said many times ..... that many women here were beautiful"
Oh, THE HORROR! ('Many' times? ... hmm, That's debateable, but since you like to dig so thoroughly for arrows to fling while flying around on your 'sedan', I'll take your word for it. I do regret saying many women here were beautiful, I should have said All.
"...had a prayer....that God would let you have at least one"...
I'm not a mormon, so OBVIOUSLY, this must have been said in the midst of more HUMOR, but I guess, lifted out of context, it really IS HORRIBLE and OFFENSIVE?! So I'll clarify, Dear Lord, Thank you, Jesus, for dying for our sins and making us accepted in the beloved, brothers and sisters in Christ, sons and daughters of You our God Most High. And Father, thank you that we can come to your throne of grace, you said we can ask in your name for help, and rejoice that you know all. Father, you know I get alot wrong, so I thank you for your patience with me. If I pray incorrectly, I ask your forgiveness, as I have alot to learn. Lord, you know I'm a kinda lonely guy, and your Word says it's not good for man to be alone. I don't yet know what this means for me, but since there are so many beautiful single women who may have the same feelings, I pray that it's your will that you have one for me, and I pray that you make me the man you want me to be, right for her, her right for me, and that you bring us together in your time, in love with each other, to love each other the way you love us, and that as one we can serve you with JOY and help others and bring glory to God in Jesus' name. Amen. And Father, please help us be content in you, whether single or with another. I pray this for all single ppl who are hoping for a partner from you, as I believe less lonliness can benefit all, but help us all to know that there isn't one status that is 'better' than the other, it's your will we ask for to be done, single or married. And, oops, I guess I did it without meaning any harm, so I hope this prayer (that you have one woman for me, at least one!, HUMOR! HAR HAR! Lord, thank you for humor) does not offend anyone. And Father, I ask Lord, please help us remove the self-righteous broomstick out of our own ..... eyes, so we can help remove the splinter of misunderstanding out of our brothers and sisters. Thank you, Jesus, in your name I pray, amen.
I had so much more, but I'm sorry for tying things up too much already, So For The Last Time ..... I WAS NOT 'LUSTING' AFTER SHINEY! IT WAS A JOKE ABOUT HOW ANY WOMAN LAYING FACE DOWN IN HER OWN DROOL IS SUCH AN APPEALING IMAGE WHAT MAN WOULDN'T LUST AFTER THAT?! AND THAT IS OBVIOUSLY A JOKE, AND HOW ANYONE COULD TAKE ALL THE OTHER THINGS SAID AS LITE-HEARTED SINGLES HUMOR AND LIFT ONE STATEMENT OUT OF IT ALL AND TURN THAT INTO A SUDDENLY SERIOUS STATEMENT IS BEYOND ME. I do not 'go after' women in the way you seem to imply, i have no desire for anyone half my age, and I'm real weary of that tired old accusation, and I bet a lot of other decent guys are as well. I've lost a half day on this, I'm 5 to 6 weeks new to this whole chat forum thing, still learning how to work this stupid tablet with one digit or a stylus, can't even enter live chat rooms, and this has gotten silly. And if someone is interested in someone else, and it's God's will, and they love each other, I'm not about to judge them by age, it's none of our stinkin business. What God joins together, let no one tear apart. A little more love and a little less oppression would probably do us all good. So for now, I'm done with this, but I'm sure there'll be more 'offended posters' attacking me for this as well. Father, forgive them, forgive us all, for Jesus' sake, in Jesus name. Amen. Now, I have a whole lot of post-reading to try to catch up on. If my wife tried to propose to me in one of them, and I missed it, I'm gonna be Ssoooooo Mmaaaaaaddd!