what should i do?

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Elisabet

Elisabet

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I have a friend. We're really close that we often share things. We text each other everyday and we discuss everything. We don't have lots in common but it was fine... for a moment.

But there are several days where we realize that we don't get along well. Yesterday, she asked me what my favourite Bible verse is. I answered but then she said that her favourite Bible verse is harder to do. (Is that how we study about Bible?)

And today, i sent wrong emoticon to her. I said that it was miss typed, but she didn't believe me and she started to make her own opinion without listening to me. She said that i don't believe her, which i think is wrong. Shouldn't a relationship base on trust?

But besides, she is a great friend. She often encourages me. Just sometimes she concludes thing too fast. Not to forget the fight that we are arguing, what should i do?
 
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Elisabet said:
I have a friend. We're really close that we often share things. We text each other everyday and we discuss everything. We don't have lots in common but it was fine... for a moment.

But there are several days where we realize that we don't get along well. Yesterday, she asked me what my favourite Bible verse is. I answered but then she said that her favourite Bible verse is harder to do. (Is that how we study about Bible?)

And today, i sent wrong emoticon to her. I said that it was miss typed, but she didn't believe me and she started to make her own opinion without listening to me. She said that i don't believe her, which i think is wrong. Shouldn't a relationship base on trust?

But besides, she is a great friend. She often encourages me. Just sometimes she concludes thing too fast. Not to forget the fight that we are arguing, what should i do?
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All relationships are based on learning, if the both of you aren't learning from each other you don't have a relationship.
 
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I do agree, but how..? It's hard to learn from each other when we don't have respect, right? And at this moment, i don't think we both are respecting each other. Because she thinks that i am the wrong one (although it's just misunderstood)
 
I think real friends accept you for who you are and a real friend will agree to disagree on different issues. Let's face it we will have different opinions and won't agree with another person 100% of the time.... So you agree to disagree on certain issues. It doesn't mean one is more right than the other but your own personal opinion...

This is how I would handle it... I'd say I value our friendship and I believe we have had a misunderstanding and I know that we won't agree on everything 100% of the time, but I feel you are too good of a friend to let this misunderstanding get in the way of our true friendship and see how it goes from there and then if you are both Christians ask if it is o.k. with her to say a prayer and ask God to help you iron out any misunderstandings that you have because you value the friendship and want it to continue....

If you were my friend I'd say o.k. to this if she doesn't then maybe time to move on and just pray for her....We can only control ourselves with God's help we can never control another person.... God does not even do that it's called power of choice or free will.... Hope things work out for the best for you.....God Bless
 
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I think real friends accept you for who you are and a real friend will agree to disagree on different issues. Let's face it we will have different opinions and won't agree with another person 100% of the time.... So you agree to disagree on certain issues. It doesn't mean one is more right than the other but your own personal opinion...

This is how I would handle it... I'd say I value our friendship and I believe we have had a misunderstanding and I know that we won't agree on everything 100% of the time, but I feel you are too good of a friend to let this misunderstanding get in the way of our true friendship and see how it goes from there and then if you are both Christians ask if it is o.k. with her to say a prayer and ask God to help you iron out any misunderstandings that you have because you value the friendship and want it to continue....

If you were my friend I'd say o.k. to this if she doesn't then maybe time to move on and just pray for her....We can only control ourselves with God's help we can never control another person.... God does not even do that it's called power of choice or free will.... Hope things work out for the best for you.....God Bless
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Thanks for the advice. I'll try to work things out with her. She's a Christian indeed, but i am not sure if she will accept the advice of praying together if it's from me.
 
You have all grades of friends and I don't know about you but I show slightly different sides of me depending on who I am with. Some friends you like 100% - they are your super close ones - I have two of these. They could tell me I smell like a pig and I'd laugh and laugh because I know they are not trying to hurt me ever - I trust them totally. Then there are others who I like but I wouldn't disclose anything too personal to them - the trust isn't as high. Then there are others that I get along with, but I don't have a super amount in common.

So you decide where your friend sits with you as a friend. If its not super close then well...don't get all super upset when u don't agree. If she fires a shot at you, you can choose to get all upset about it OR.. u can think oops she got that wrong but I'll let her cool off before you get into an argument.

If its a super close friend and I truly upset her, I'd be horrified and would be like OMG sorry sorry sorry and do anything I could to make her understand I didn't mean it.

Anyway that's my way - you have to find your own.
 
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You have all grades of friends and I don't know about you but I show slightly different sides of me depending on who I am with. Some friends you like 100% - they are your super close ones - I have two of these. They could tell me I smell like a pig and I'd laugh and laugh because I know they are not trying to hurt me ever - I trust them totally. Then there are others who I like but I wouldn't disclose anything too personal to them - the trust isn't as high. Then there are others that I get along with, but I don't have a super amount in common.

So you decide where your friend sits with you as a friend. If its not super close then well...don't get all super upset when u don't agree. If she fires a shot at you, you can choose to get all upset about it OR.. u can think oops she got that wrong but I'll let her cool off before you get into an argument.

If its a super close friend and I truly upset her, I'd be horrified and would be like OMG sorry sorry sorry and do anything I could to make her understand I didn't mean it.

Anyway that's my way - you have to find your own.
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I think i can't classify what type of friend she is, because sometimes she can understand me but sometimes she doesn't trust me at all. I don't think that one of us has to say sorry because it's just a missunderstanding. I guess i should talk to her and figure out things in her way. :|
 
Finally she trusts me and she said sorry for the missunderstanding. Now we're back as usual :) just wondering how fast something can change :D
 
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