And I am a 32 yr old virgin, never dated a woman, nor held her hand or even kissed one! Feels terrible sometimes, but my hope and belief that the grace of God is more powerful than my present fleshly troubles and frustrations.
stay a virgin until marriage .
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I'm a 37 year old one. Also never been on a date. You ain't alone.
Wow! How did you manage that my friend? Would you not want to marry, or are you waiting on the Lord?
Just ain't been looking. If I meet someone and a relationship happens, yay! In the meantime I have lots of other stuff to do. If it never happens, I will not consider my life a failure.
It's not a matter of avoiding anything, or consciously waiting on the Lord. It's just I haven't bothered looking.
Get yourself a rear view mirror.
OBJECTS IN THE MIRROR ARE CLOSER THAN THEY APPEAR.
That sentence might have contributed to a few accidents.
Come on girls. Clearly there are good guys still out there. But you have to let them know that there are good girls out there to. I know I am not the only virgin out there. Come on don't be shy. Let these boys know that there are other girls who are virgins and plan to stay that way until marriage. Come on girls speak up. Show these boys that I am right that their are other girls out there.
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ServantStrike
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Actually, I'd recommend that a woman never broach this subject with a man - even if he says he's a Christian. Not for a long time. She'll find herself the object of conquest instead of affection. It's the wrong kind of attention.
Don't get me wrong, some of us would find it really attractive (been waiting 29 years here), but we aren't the kind trying to get in your pants. You don't need to impress us to begin with.
I think that still counts.
Abstinence is really the word in play here.
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ServantStrike
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I missed this before.
[video=youtube;PrzAtvpOlLA]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PrzAtvpOlLA[/video]
Irony is a way of life on CC. We've got all these quiet women on here who say they've never been on dates before, but if you go on an actual dating website, you get scary women or women that ignore you. I mean scary too, and I'm not usually afraid of anything.
Be patient bookworm, but maybe try and get out of the house a bit more often. You'll get taken off the market pretty quickly. Just don't go telling them you're a virgin, and just don't trust a single man you talk to for like... at least a couple of months.
Guys, I'm not sure what we should be doing differently (assuming you dudes are in fact getting out of the house), other than I've read several of Jane Austen's books and they offered absolutely no insight. Even the beloved Mr Darcy was a plodding moron for half of Pride and Prejudice.
I think I'll just read more Charles Dickens (okay I lied, I'm actually reading Louisa May Alcott right now). Yeah. I went there. I'm reading little women.
Thread derail in 3... 2... 1...
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Shouryu
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Indeed.
I had mentioned it in another thread (also possibly started by MR101) that VIRGINITY is NOT the issue. The issue is following God's commandments. We are commanded to NOT engage in fornication (sex outside the confines of marriage). Does this mean that if you have sex before you marry, you have broken God's commandment? YES. Is your sin that you are no longer a virgin? NO. Your sin is the same as adultery: you had sex outside of marriage. It just has a different name for unmarried people than it does for married people, but it's the SAME THING, and virginity has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with.
Now, don't get me wrong; if you're lifelong single, and still a virgin, good for you. Keep on keepin' on. Having made it to the age of 28 myself, I know that can be a tough and lonely road to travel. But make no mistake, you're not granted some kind of special status. Sin is sin is sin. So you haven't had sex; have you sinned in other ways? Of course you have. I was drowning in sin before I gave up my virginity, but hey, who cares, I'm still a virgin, so I'm still good, right? Of course not! We just happen to have this special term for someone who hasn't engaged in a particular sin, and then we make a big deal about it. Granted, we are also taught sexual sin is a double strike (as you sin not only against God, but His temple...namely, yourself), but in the end, you can die as a drug-dealing, money-laundering, tax-cheating virgin and still have Hell as your eternal home.
Virginity, in and of itself, means NOTHING.
WHY do you still have your virginity?
Because God commanded that we are not engage in sex outside of marriage, and you are not married, and you have chosen to follow God's commandment rather than follow the way of the world.
THAT means EVERYTHING. Not the virginity in and of itself, but the choice to please God rather than yourself.
So in the end, forget about the virginity. Harping about virginity puts the focus on YOU, on US. That's not where our focus should be. Our focus should be on HIM. Pleasing GOD first is what matters. Bragging about what you are doing takes the glory from God and puts it on you. Keep your perspective straight.
Now, this is a topic I have felt the need to write a substantial post on, as the topic of virginity seems to be popping up again (not that this is a bad thing). However, as it is the end of the school year, I am basically at my wits end (UIL on Friday, Beginner Fest next week, field trips, end-of-year concerts, EVERYTHING), so I probably won't get around to posting my much more POSITIVE thoughts on virginity until June rolls around. But I do have ideas I think many of you would find worthwhile. But in the meantime, I should point out this, so that no one misunderstands what I am trying to say with this particular response. I will use myself as an example.
Neither Angie nor I are virgins, of which we have made no secret. (Her, OBVIOUSLY, as she has two daughters.
) Yet, we have made it a point of agreement between us to follow God's command to not engage in sex before we marry each other.Does God see us in a lesser light than two virgins who have made the same promise? Or does not the blood of Christ cover all of our sins equally?
(Before anyone goes nuts, NO, Angie and I are not engaged or betrothed. But we have discussed the future, as well as what we should do and NOT do during the present.
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Shouryu
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Sweetie Belle is best Cutie Mark Crusader for this one scene alone. ^_^ Thanks for the reminder, Chris.
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ServantStrike
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Dangit Shour, your thread derail made my thread derail look tame.
[video=youtube;8cVDk7My3ZM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cVDk7My3ZM[/video]
But way to go bro (the Angie thing, not the losing your virginity one).
[video=youtube;8cVDk7My3ZM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cVDk7My3ZM[/video]
But way to go bro (the Angie thing, not the losing your virginity one).
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Tintin
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Indeed.
I had mentioned it in another thread (also possibly started by MR101) that VIRGINITY is NOT the issue. The issue is following God's commandments. We are commanded to NOT engage in fornication (sex outside the confines of marriage). Does this mean that if you have sex before you marry, you have broken God's commandment? YES. Is your sin that you are no longer a virgin? NO. Your sin is the same as adultery: you had sex outside of marriage. It just has a different name for unmarried people than it does for married people, but it's the SAME THING, and virginity has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with.
Now, don't get me wrong; if you're lifelong single, and still a virgin, good for you. Keep on keepin' on. Having made it to the age of 28 myself, I know that can be a tough and lonely road to travel. But make no mistake, you're not granted some kind of special status. Sin is sin is sin. So you haven't had sex; have you sinned in other ways? Of course you have. I was drowning in sin before I gave up my virginity, but hey, who cares, I'm still a virgin, so I'm still good, right? Of course not! We just happen to have this special term for someone who hasn't engaged in a particular sin, and then we make a big deal about it. Granted, we are also taught sexual sin is a double strike (as you sin not only against God, but His temple...namely, yourself), but in the end, you can die as a drug-dealing, money-laundering, tax-cheating virgin and still have Hell as your eternal home.
Virginity, in and of itself, means NOTHING.
WHY do you still have your virginity?
Because God commanded that we are not engage in sex outside of marriage, and you are not married, and you have chosen to follow God's commandment rather than follow the way of the world.
THAT means EVERYTHING. Not the virginity in and of itself, but the choice to please God rather than yourself.
So in the end, forget about the virginity. Harping about virginity puts the focus on YOU, on US. That's not where our focus should be. Our focus should be on HIM. Pleasing GOD first is what matters. Bragging about what you are doing takes the glory from God and puts it on you. Keep your perspective straight.
Now, this is a topic I have felt the need to write a substantial post on, as the topic of virginity seems to be popping up again (not that this is a bad thing). However, as it is the end of the school year, I am basically at my wits end (UIL on Friday, Beginner Fest next week, field trips, end-of-year concerts, EVERYTHING), so I probably won't get around to posting my much more POSITIVE thoughts on virginity until June rolls around. But I do have ideas I think many of you would find worthwhile. But in the meantime, I should point out this, so that no one misunderstands what I am trying to say with this particular response. I will use myself as an example.
Neither Angie nor I are virgins, of which we have made no secret. (Her, OBVIOUSLY, as she has two daughters.
Does God see us in a lesser light than two virgins who have made the same promise? Or does not the blood of Christ cover all of our sins equally?
(Before anyone goes nuts, NO, Angie and I are not engaged or betrothed. But we have discussed the future, as well as what we should do and NOT do during the present.
Shouryu, my dear brother. I'm looking forward to your more positive posts on virginity, but I have to say this post is excellent. Apart from Christ, we have nothing. With Christ, we have everything. Thanks for sharing, mate.
That... that's some crazy colors on those horses. Ignoring the one with the rainbow mane, I still have never seen any horses with those skin/mane color combos. The dark orange one looks most normal of all, except for the three red dots on its backside.
Methinks those are tattoos. She's a hipster and so she got herself some tattoos on her hips.. er, I mean... backside.
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skylove7
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Why can't she ask a man about his past/history if she herself has not touched or been touched by any man? Is that an illegal and most unacceptable thing to ask? (especially in her case/situation)
Do you not know that the act of sex creates a soul-tie? How does she know that the man she is going to marry has broken off all those past ungodly soul-ties? Why do you think God forbids fornication before the marriage ceremony? Is he a sadist, or could there be a real spiritual reason behind it?
The fact that she just mentioned/shared her state of existence/virginity doesn't necessarily mean that she is trying to lure you or other single men into marrying her lol
Her post attracted myself and a few others to also express their state of existence, whether virgin or state of celibacy.