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Richie_2uk

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I agree most of this passage deals with divorce. Though in the 5th verse we can see reference back to Genesis 2:18. Also verses 10-13 seem to be relevant to the topic of marriage and singleness.
Yes I can see the revelence but my question to seed was were in the new testiment as we live by the new testiment, does it say that God says its not good to be alone. and thats what I was more on about. but yes I can see some relations in that verse, though it still dont mean what the question I opposed to seed.
 

Lynx

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1 Corinthians 7:28 - ..."Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh..." :rolleyes:
 
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I am single because I have chosen to avoid relationships thus far. I don't yet feel ready, and I'm not sure when I will be ready, or if I will. For now I am doing alright single, and I have a lot of learning and growing. I'm currently struggling a bit with things relating to my beliefs and faith, so I really need to get that sorted out before I even think about these things anyway.
 
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Nope... Just kidding. Just wondering as I am a worth fighting for. I always fight for my love but I was always the one left. I, never been a cheater. But maybe I was just being involved with some cheaters, that's why.
In the outside you look pretty! Maybe you got blind gentlemen around and, besides, God has a better plan and you trust you too much... One thing I re-learned this week: Those I pretend have to be liked by me, same way I have to be liked. Those who went away had their own plans, same way I could be doing mine and those who are worth fighting are those you really loved and appreciated, even not knowing -for sure- we were apprecaited enough, otherwise, they could be around us.

Time is passing by! This is not to be wasted, less when people are unsure when life leaves us all alone in a tomb.
 

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I am single because I have chosen to avoid relationships thus far. I don't yet feel ready, and I'm not sure when I will be ready, or if I will. For now I am doing alright single, and I have a lot of learning and growing. I'm currently struggling a bit with things relating to my beliefs and faith, so I really need to get that sorted out before I even think about these things anyway.
A wise decision for one so young.
 
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Because God gives the desires of the heart according to his will right? Well my heart desires no one in my life, I desire to be single. and to support that, it says in the bible in 1 Corinthians 7: 8. " To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am" So I am blessed either way.
I wish I knew the real reason Paul has to remain that way! I have encountered very pleasant to enjoy women as cammarades, friends, yet I´m unwilling to remarry, since I see many of them changed their mind so quickly and many (too) are frequently been lured away by other men (it doesn´t matter they could be fat or ugly) unbelievers or "believers" have liked to spoil other´s people´s joy or homes so, in my own limitations, I try to enjoy a day after another, trusting nothing too much, except that I tried my best, within my limits. What a sad thing with those who invested more (emotionally and economically) to be used, abused and utterly left: Blessed be the men (women) who trusted God!
 
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relientkchick_4

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haven't found my other half yet
 
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I'm single because its what I want at the moment

If I did want to pursue a relationship, then I think it would only be distance stopping me - I'm not a big fan of girls in my country and there are certain girls given the chance I was in the same country as them I would definitely go for it.
 

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I'm single because its what I want at the moment

If I did want to pursue a relationship, then I think it would only be distance stopping me - I'm not a big fan of girls in my country and there are certain girls given the chance I was in the same country as them I would definitely go for it.
Just noticed your signature. Why do you have a quote from Ali Ibn Abu Talib? I mean, isn't he the Imam of Shia Muslims? :confused:
 

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I disagree with the quote too. I'm not EVER going to dive straight into the middle of a bonfire. Nope, nope, nope, nope. :p
 
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Just noticed your signature. Why do you have a quote from Ali Ibn Abu Talib? I mean, isn't he the Imam of Shia Muslims? :confused:
Indeed, his martyrdom lead to the establishment of Shia Islam.

(I am not Christian, by the way)


I disagree with the quote too. I'm not EVER going to dive straight into the middle of a bonfire. Nope, nope, nope, nope. :p
Xaxa :D


A lonely moth towards the light made his flight
In his love for the candle faced his plight
Flying to the fire would bravely display
His love for the candle in his own way
Hovering around the flame in love's name
He played a risky game no one to blame
Noticing candle's tears he just had to ask
I am the one in love, why this tearful mask?
Don't you see I am the one burning his wings
Yet for love, to his life, no moth clings
You don't need to shed tears for my life
In this love, my only hope is my strife.

The candle steadily burnt with constant flame
Amazed at the ignorant moth's lack of shame
Since the day my sweetheart left my wax
Separated and apart, I can't relax
This flame that you see upon my head
Is the fire that my love's light may spread
To the whole world. My honey perhaps by chance
May see my longing, in a distant glance.

You may fly, hover, even singe your wing
I will stand on fire, bearing its sting
Love is not to frit and fret and display
Love is to quietly burn night and day
Love is not to burn a wing and then fall
Love is to be on fire standing tall.
You may burn your wing, yet you'll never know
What it means to burn from your head to toe
Fault me not if I shed a tear or two
It is for my sweetheart not the likes of you.

At this point the gathering stirred about
The hostess, with a blow, put the candle out
The smoke rose from the blackened wick
Spreading its odor throughout, quick
The candle with a quiet sigh simply said
Though my light is out, my love is not dead
This smoke that is coming from my head
Is aroma of my love that I spread
Then I just will sit here, patiently wait
For the next night's gathering, and my fate
This may give me a chance with the flame's dance
To shine my light for a glance, my dream romance
I'll continue this till the end of my time
Spread my love to every land and clime
Either with my beloved become one
Or spread so far and wide till I'm gone.

This was candle and moth's love story
A tale of bravery and quiet glory
True love is not for the strong and the brave
True love is lasting, testing to the grave
In your life if it is love that you must taste
Patiently, quietly burn, make no haste
If it's the ocean of love you must sail
Be willing to navigate and then fail
Because love has no size and no form
Be willing to lose your ship in the storm.

© Shahriar Shahriari

 

Lynx

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Cute, but riddled with fallacies. A moth is not drawn to a candle because he's in love with it.

And I'm also not jumping overboard into the sea, or running into the middle of a pack of wolves on the hunt.
 
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Chey60

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Can you quote the scripture to back up what God says its not good for a man to be alone? Please dont get confused with Genesis 2: 18 because that was in the beginning,. and its in the old testament.


ohhhh this is super super super bad statement.

The old Testament shows us who GOD IS... God never changes.. the NEW TESTAMENT says that woman was made for man... and not man for woman.. that is 1 corinthians 11:8..
Also written by PAUL BTW..
1 Cor 7:8-9
If they cannot contain let them marry as it is better to marry than to burn (with desire/lust etc)
Paul just tells us that it is better to remain single because marriage is difficult..
there are troubles..
My pastor always said that getting married would make you christ like..because of all the trials you will face and have to work through...definitely will make you more like Jesus if you focus on Him together..

You have to be very careful about saying things like you did "that was in the beginning and in the old testament"..
as if that means those ideas are obsolete.

Just because you enjoy being single and have chosen to remain single doesn't mean that it is good for man to be alone..
at least not all men or MOST men..
You have just chosen to be a Eunich for the kingdom of heaven
as in Matthew 19:12
For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others--and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.

There..I gave you plenty of scriptures.. to support that God did make them male and female not just for procreation... but for companionship for a man...and a helpmeet for him..
as well as a covering for a woman..among other reasons!





 
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Chey60

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That's not being obedient to God though it sounds religious. It's also why so many Christians become senior singles. "...and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it.'" Gensis 1:28.

Are you being "fruitful and multiplying?"
whoa whoa whoa now..

You can't just go out all willy nilly and multiplying.. you HAVE to wait on God to put the right people in your life..
if you are a woman, you wait on God for the right man to find you.
if you are a man you wait on God for the right woman to be placed in front of you.

I didn't wait.. God was taking too long in my opinion... but then again, I Wasn't living for Him in the right way, I wasn't ready for marriage and I wasn't surrendered to Him.. so how could I complain..
nonetheless I wanted to get married and I chose the first man that came along when I was about 23 ... I thought I was an old maid, and I actually did chase that one..
we got married and 6 months later he left me cause he thought he was gay.. And then he ended up dying at age 26...after we had divorced..later at age 27 , I then AGAIN didn't wait on God.. and though I didn't chase the next husband.. I let him chase me and just because he was good looking and loved my son (that I had had through a relationship that ended shortly before)
I let him in my life.. HE drank, did drugs.. but I didn't look past that he wanted me...and wanted my son who had been abandoned by his bio dad... so...Though there may have been some good times.. it was really a bad marriage.. 4 kids later and 18 years.. he left for a younger woman when I was age 45.
I am now 55 years old and single..
I look back and honestly!! Wish I had waited on God instead of taking matters into my own hands with a few Ishmael relationships..
the worst that might have happened is that I was still single at my age now without having gone through the awful things that my sons and I have been put through... without my sons having these generational curses from their father etc... and my choices... etc....
the best that might happen is that maybe I would have "found the one that my heart loves" and be with him to this day..with stable children and in a stable marriage.. and finally having experienced a life with someone who loved God..

So... this young lady waiting on GOD is what we should ALL be doing..
IT isn't religious and it isn't disobedient and in fact, ... the bible says "WAIT ON GOD" several places..
NOT waiting on God is why so many christians are senior singles and divorced!
 
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Deliver

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It is enjoyable to be single!
 
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Nemakiza

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I am just single because I am too shy, but I won't live like this forever. I will look someone who lives thousand miles to marry me.
 

Jay_too

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Because I haven't met the right woman yet.