If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it

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rachelsedge

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*Beware - if you have some phobia of hands, skip my post. There are pictures galore of my hands. :p

The topic of rings in the Streams thread has me intrigued.

I like rings. I don't wear one every day, but I like them. Many have meaning to me, so while I try to watch what hand/finger I wear it on, since it has meaning to me I won't STOP wearing it just because it may give off the wrong idea to men.

So, men, does a ring have to look a certain way for you to feel she is taken? On a certain hand? Finger? A diamond ring on the ring finger on the left hand is a giveaway. But what about something like this? I sometimes wear this on my left hand ring finger (or various other fingers, it's adjustable), because on my right hand, it gets stuck on my pocket when I take out my phone. BUT, since it isn't a typical "engagement-y" ring, would you still assume?

Here is one that is more dainty but does not have an obvious stone.

Finally, I just took took these for this thread (hence I don't have links like the ones above from my Facebook, just uploads). These are more typical "engagement" style with the band and main stone. Would you assume that, no matter hand or finger, I was taken? One is from my sister, one from my friend, so I wear them anyway. I'm just curious.

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Fellas - What do you think when you see a ring on a woman's hand? Does it matter what it looks like/what hand it's on/what finger? Does it make you approach her differently?

Ladies - Are there certain fingers/hand you won't wear a ring on? Do you care, even a little bit?

Also, you know how a word starts to sound funny the more you say it? That's how I felt with my hands, looking at pictures of them. The longer I looked and when I took the pictures I posted above, I just thought "...my hands are weird. Hands are just...weird."
 
melita916

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i use to wear a ring on my left ring finger because i didn't think it looked like a wedding band. but my friends kept telling me to switch it to my right hand because i was giving guys the wrong idea. i didn't care at the time (since it didn't look like a wedding band to me! lol) until a few patients at my office would ask me about my husband, and i would tell them i'm not married. "but.. you have a ring..." so i switched it to the right hand after that lol and here it is. i like it because it's simple :)

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rachelsedge said:
*Beware - if you have some phobia of hands, skip my post. There are pictures galore of my hands. :p

The topic of rings in the Streams thread has me intrigued.

I like rings. I don't wear one every day, but I like them. Many have meaning to me, so while I try to watch what hand/finger I wear it on, since it has meaning to me I won't STOP wearing it just because it may give off the wrong idea to men.

So, men, does a ring have to look a certain way for you to feel she is taken? On a certain hand? Finger? A diamond ring on the ring finger on the left hand is a giveaway. But what about something like this? I sometimes wear this on my left hand ring finger (or various other fingers, it's adjustable), because on my right hand, it gets stuck on my pocket when I take out my phone. BUT, since it isn't a typical "engagement-y" ring, would you still assume?

Here is one that is more dainty but does not have an obvious stone.

Finally, I just took took these for this thread (hence I don't have links like the ones above from my Facebook, just uploads). These are more typical "engagement" style with the band and main stone. Would you assume that, no matter hand or finger, I was taken? One is from my sister, one from my friend, so I wear them anyway. I'm just curious.

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TL;DR

Fellas - What do you think when you see a ring on a woman's hand? Does it matter what it looks like/what hand it's on/what finger? Does it make you approach her differently?

Ladies - Are there certain fingers/hand you won't wear a ring on? Do you care, even a little bit?

Also, you know how a word starts to sound funny the more you say it? That's how I felt with my hands, looking at pictures of them. The longer I looked and when I took the pictures I posted above, I just thought "...my hands are weird. Hands are just...weird."
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Although they all look nice, I'd say the leafy ring is the best... with the second link one is a close second. They both seem unique. Either way Rachael, you're very very very beautiful... ring or no ring. :D
 
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I wouldn't approach women with rings on their ring fingers.

I wouldn't approach either of you. Even though you are both attractive.

Rachelsedge, your first pic looks like a promise ring.

Melita916, your ring looks like a celtic wedding band.
 
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I love the sweet little bow ring! so pretty! The silver leaf one is gorgeous too :) I love rings :D May I ask where you got the bow one? I adore it! :)
 
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Oh pretty! It's like an infinity band! infinity forever.
 
blue_ladybug

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i LOVE rings..I have an Irish claddagh ring on my left ring finger, a ring with a blue stone in it on my left middle finger and a ring with a black stone in it on my left index finger. On my right middle finger, I wear a ring with an Egyptian ankh on it. Sometimes I wear rings on all ten fingers..lol.. :)
 
Test_F_i_2_Luv

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*Beware - if you have some phobia of hands, skip my post. There are pictures galore of my hands. :p

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...OHHHHHHHHHHHH NoOoOoOoOoOoO...HEAVEN HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
:: exhale :: ...Ok, I done with that now...

:: tightening imaginary tie ::


The topic of rings in the Streams thread has me intrigued.

Ok. Got it.


I like rings. I don't wear one every day, but I like them. Many have meaning to me, so while I try to watch what hand/finger I wear it on, since it has meaning to me I won't STOP wearing it just because it may give off the wrong idea to men.

Hmmm...WON'T stop or won't STOP?

Take me, for example. I won't STOP carrying on with my bad self. Or, maybe I WON'T stop carrying on with my bad self. :confused:


So, men, does a ring have to look a certain way for you to feel she is taken? On a certain hand? Finger? A diamond ring on the ring finger on the left hand is a giveaway. But what about something like this? I sometimes wear this on my left hand ring finger (or various other fingers, it's adjustable), because on my right hand, it gets stuck on my pocket when I take out my phone. BUT, since it isn't a typical "engagement-y" ring, would you still assume?

If the ring is on the ring finger, I rule her out. It's the ring finger! To me, it means she's married OR she's involved(dating, engaged) OR she's totally single but wants the world to think she's taken(as in "just lemme alone!"). What it looks like is irrelevant to me when it's on the ring finger. That also means it doesn't matter to me whether it looks like an expensive diamond or it looks like a old corroded Lincoln cent that had the center punched out. If it looks expensive, I assume she's married to some rich dude. If it looks like a flee-market item, I assume her man doesn't have much money or that she's one of those "just lemme alone!" gals. :)


Here is one that is more dainty but does not have an obvious stone.

Well dog gone. Looks like a mini bow-tie. The late Senator Paul Simon would probably love to have given his wife that!

It's kinda...can a guy use the word(ugh!)..."cute"?

:: clearing throat to assert masculinity ::


Finally, I just took took these for this thread (hence I don't have links like the ones above from my Facebook, just uploads). These are more typical "engagement" style with the band and main stone. Would you assume that, no matter hand or finger, I was taken? One is from my sister, one from my friend, so I wear them anyway. I'm just curious.

Let's see here...is it on the left hand ring finger? No. Is it on the right hand and looks like a wedding ring? No. Is she, then, taken? No.

We will, however, have to discuss the nail polish color before further consideration can be made. :: cringe :: :p


Aren't you fellas glad you don't have to worry about rings and ring fingers?

Good question! Thanks for asking! Oh...uhhh right...I just made up this question!

A number of years back, when I decided to start wearing an abstinence ring, I had some dilemmas to work through myself. Should I wear it on my ring finger even though it clearly has "TRUE LOVE WAITS" engraved on it and shouldn't be mistaken for a wedding ring? Are single women going to realize it isn't a wedding ring if I put it on my right ring finger? Gold or silver in color...I've seen men's wedding rings in both colors! Then there was the ring band issue. The top can be more rounded or it can be square. Is round too feminine? I originally had a square one that dug into my fingers...didn't like it. The one I have(in the picture under my user name) is rounded.

So...just letting ya know the ring stuff isn't totally a women's issue. Just mostly so. Muah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

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vs square(digs into fingers - boooo!) band 141296.jpg
 
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rachelsedge said:
*Beware - if you have some phobia of hands, skip my post. There are pictures galore of my hands. :p

The topic of rings in the Streams thread has me intrigued.

I like rings. I don't wear one every day, but I like them. Many have meaning to me, so while I try to watch what hand/finger I wear it on, since it has meaning to me I won't STOP wearing it just because it may give off the wrong idea to men.

So, men, does a ring have to look a certain way for you to feel she is taken? On a certain hand? Finger? A diamond ring on the ring finger on the left hand is a giveaway. But what about something like this? I sometimes wear this on my left hand ring finger (or various other fingers, it's adjustable), because on my right hand, it gets stuck on my pocket when I take out my phone. BUT, since it isn't a typical "engagement-y" ring, would you still assume?

Here is one that is more dainty but does not have an obvious stone.

Finally, I just took took these for this thread (hence I don't have links like the ones above from my Facebook, just uploads). These are more typical "engagement" style with the band and main stone. Would you assume that, no matter hand or finger, I was taken? One is from my sister, one from my friend, so I wear them anyway. I'm just curious.

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TL;DR

Fellas - What do you think when you see a ring on a woman's hand? Does it matter what it looks like/what hand it's on/what finger? Does it make you approach her differently?

Ladies - Are there certain fingers/hand you won't wear a ring on? Do you care, even a little bit?

Also, you know how a word starts to sound funny the more you say it? That's how I felt with my hands, looking at pictures of them. The longer I looked and when I took the pictures I posted above, I just thought "...my hands are weird. Hands are just...weird."
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I find your OP very creepy, in some sense you're thoughts seem to reach out and smother me.
 
Lynx

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One ring to rule them all
One ring to find them
One ring to bring them all
And in...

Wait, wrong book. Never mind.


In current USA society wearing a ring on the "ring" finger means you are taken. If you want to wear a ring on that finger even though you're not even dating, that's up to you. It will be assumed you are married or engaged. If you don't care about that, or if you for some reason even want to deliberately be misleading, that is up to you. If you just like wearing the ring, there are seven other fingers on your hands. Whichever, it's all up to you. But if you wear a ring on that particular finger it will be misconstrued.
 
p_rehbein

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What concerns me are the two horrid examples of "hand selfies." Have we not all been told that selfies are a sin?
Oh, wait........wrong Forum......sign
 
Fenner

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Rachel, I love both rings.
 
blue_ladybug

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I like the one with the purple stone..
 
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Lynx said:
One ring to rule them all
One ring to find them
One ring to bring them all
and in the darkness bind them.

Wait, wrong book. Never mind.


In current USA society wearing a ring on the "ring" finger means you are taken. If you want to wear a ring on that finger even though you're not even dating, that's up to you. It will be assumed you are married or engaged. If you don't care about that, or if you for some reason even want to deliberately be misleading, that is up to you. If you just like wearing the ring, there are seven other fingers on your hands. Whichever, it's all up to you. But if you wear a ring on that particular finger it will be misconstrued.
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I don't know what Aussie society says about such things, but I even get confused when women wear rings on any of their fingers and aren't engaged or married. Of course, the most confusing ones are those who wear rings on their ring finger on their left hand. But to be truthful, I don't really look closely at people's hands. I look them directly in the face when I talk to them. Besides, anyone who knows me, knows I'm not the most observant person (that said, I'm improving). Finally, I'm not really one to go up to strangers and introduce myself, even at parties. Or should I say, especially at parties?
 
p_rehbein

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Tintin said:
I don't know what Aussie society says about such things, but I even get confused when women wear rings on any of their fingers and aren't engaged or married. Of course, the most confusing ones are those who wear rings on their ring finger on their left hand. But to be truthful, I don't really look closely at people's hands. I look them directly in the face when I talk to them. Besides, anyone who knows me, knows I'm not the most observant person (that said, I'm improving). Finally, I'm not really one to go up to strangers and introduce myself, even at parties. Or should I say, especially at parties?
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Hmmm, must be some really tall women in Australia.......
 
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Hi Rachel!

You and I have so much in common! :) I love your taste in rings. I admire women who can wear bolder designs but being a smaller person, I love delicate designs that are almost unnoticeable unless someone is really observant or the light catches the piece of jewelry just the right way.

On the other hand, I also have a penchant for super-sparkly stones. :D Once upon a time, I had contemplated buying myself a diamond ring for my 40th birthday, just because I love the look of certain gems. I later decided that if I did, I'd just buy a crystal ring instead because it seemed silly to me to pay that much money. I had reasoned to myself that I could wear it on my right hand.

Rings used to be my favorite type of jewelry but over the years, my hands have gotten so beaten up at work, I never bother wearing them. I only own one ring now because all the others I used to have were associated with past relationships.

I'd love to get into rings again but as you've pointed out... I generally only feel comfortable wearing rings on the fourth finger of each hand--obviously, I can't wear anything on my left hand that might say "taken" or "spoken for", and now days... people make all kinds of assumptions if you wear certain rings on your right hand as well!!! (The most obvious thing now--at least in places I've lived--is that certain rings on your right hand means you are part of the LBG community. I've also read interpretations that it can mean you're straight, married, but practice an "open" relationship... UGH.) It's almost a no-win situation...

I guess if I do get into rings again, I'll just have to do what I'm gonna do and hope people will find me worthy enough to get to know as a person, and THEN they can find out if my rings mean anything! ;)

In the meantime, Rachel, I would love to go shopping with you! :D
 
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Hey Rachel, first of all I gotta say that you've got very pretty fingers. :)

Personally, if I see a woman wearing a ring in either ring finger, it's enough to sow doubts in my mind. In India, a girl who is engaged would wear the ring on her right hand, while a girl who is married would wear it on her left hand. So, it doesn't matter whether the ring is diamond or gold or silver, a woman who has a ring on one of her ring fingers is a strict "NO" for me. I don't mean to say that single women should not wear rings, but it would be better if they avoid wearing one on the ring finger. :)

Coming to the second part of your question - I sometimes interpret a woman by the ring she wears. A finely crafted ring with a diamond stud means that she comes from a rich background. A worn-out ring means that the ring either holds some sentimental value for her or she picked it up from the local market. I would reserve my questions about the ring until the third 'hangout'.

Lastly, I MAY change my approach depending upon the ring on a woman's finger. I do not mean to say that I will treat her differently. By 'approach' I mean, the ice-breaker - the first few sentences that we exchange, will change depending on the kind of ring she wears. But it is all hard to say for certain. It finally boils down to the circumstances surrounding the encounter. So I can never answer this accurately.

In my opinion, I think my lady would deserve a beautiful ring. I am thinking of something like this -

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It is not as pricey as the other rings which are made of platinum and studded with precious stones. It's elegant and graceful and I think it would suit her fingers well (hopefully!). :)



For all you girls who want to buy rings for yourselves, you may want to try online jewellery stores. They are cheaper and they will even let you try out the ring before you pay for it.
 
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rachelsedge said:
TL;DR

Fellas - What do you think when you see a ring on a woman's hand? Does it matter what it looks like/what hand it's on/what finger? Does it make you approach her differently?

Ladies - Are there certain fingers/hand you won't wear a ring on? Do you care, even a little bit?

Also, you know how a word starts to sound funny the more you say it? That's how I felt with my hands, looking at pictures of them. The longer I looked and when I took the pictures I posted above, I just thought "...my hands are weird. Hands are just...weird."
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It makes me approach differently. Usually when talking to a woman I just stay at eye level the whole time, but if I'm interested at all, a quick scan of the hands is in order. If it's on the finger that the genuine article is supposed to go on I'll remember that and we'll continue whatever conversation we're having, but I immediately shut the door on the possibility of ever asking her out in my mind. Others will come along, and I'm not going to be a creep.

A nice looking ring like those two are even on the right hand ring finger can still be a bit confusing. There's a 50-80 percent chance it's a promise ring, and again, asking out a woman with a promise ring on falls into creeper territory.

They look really nice for the record, it's just hard for us guys to ask for clarification what they mean. Even asking the question in the form of a statement like "oh, that's a nice promise ring" could most likely back fire, as if it isn't a promise ring, cue the embarrassed looks on a woman's face.

My advice is wear them if you want to, but if you're going to a social event where you'll get exposure to new people, but this exposure is limited (say 2-5 minutes a piece), consider leaving them at home that night. Social events are great places to meet new people, and some guys will ask a woman out because 2-5 minutes isn't enough time to make a determination about whether or not someone is interesting. It doesn't mean we hear wedding bells, it means we want to know more.

I know, I know, this flies in the face of "but I want him to be my best friend before we start dating" logic, but I never understood how that's possible if one party doesn't take a risk at the beginning and ask a stranger if they would like to spend some time together on a gasp date. Once you've exhausted the pool of potential best friends, strangers are all that are left. But that's probably a topic for a different thread.
 
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