In my ah hay day,I always believed a woman wanted her man to go after her with great passion!! And since i sure was, and am no any Paul Newman,or Tom Cruise it was personality that became my strong point.LOL How bad you truly wish for something to happen in ones own life depends greatly upon what one is willing to do to have it.
As a younger male,I learned how to grow out of fear rather then to dive into it,I learned that no matter what others say and think,you decide on your own worth,in or out of Christ Jesus,much better in of course! Because in Christ Jesus you also now have something you did not have before!! A firm foundation!!( psalm 40:1-3)
The Word talks about in James 2:17 Even so faith without works is dead, being by itself,which is indeed where we are without Jesus in our lives. But what is that work??The answer can be found in scripture as well!!( john 6:28-29!!!) Believing Jesus has always, and will always love,leaves room in your mind to be confident,and indeed established in his love!
People see this,they can tell by ones own body language where you are already at in your own mind,at least at present they can. So now when I look to a lady for companionship,and wisdom,I believe through Jesus I will find this. And I am happy to say i have many ladies who enjoy my company as well. hehe For it is not about the flesh, any longer with me,it is about finding a lady,who enjoys her own company as well,and is confident and established in herself!
There is purpose now,rather then need,there is peace rather then becoming anxious, there is acceptance rather then looking to change another the way you want them! There is no threat to either of us.This is called having, and building upon a relationship. Rather then looking to use each other like dish rags,just for yourself to enjoy!
This of course is just something for another to consider,but I can tell you this,that this mindset works!! It is works with faith! For to believe in Jesus, is the very work of God himself! And from belief, good fruit is born to you, and others who will really enjoy your company as well!( 1 cor 16:13-14!!)
For doing this, you will never have fear again!!( 1 john 4:17-19!!) The work of Jesus comes from belief in him!! ( luke 18:35-43) many are at verse 41, belief in Jesus gets you past verse 41 into( phil 3:12-14 in ones own mindset!! A dandy place to not only be in,but stay and rest in!! Jesus is not only concerned about ones own needs, but you wants as well!! he does not wish for you to be in want!!( psalm 23:1) ( psalm 34:10,and verses 17-18!!) and this under the law!! Think how much more in Christ Jesus we have now!! hehe