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You're not a terrible person. I don't know the whys and hows of your relationship with your dad, but I know that you are a sweet, caring young woman, and that a lot of people are kind of distant from one or both of their parents. Plus, I would guess that what your family has gone through is serving to highlight your lack of closeness with your dad. It's normal, and it doesn't reflect poorly on your character.
So, a guy I work with recently was turned down by a woman that he had been crushing on for quite some time. I was a bit disappointed for this friend of mine, there's really nothing wrong with him that would make him any less viable an option than the next guy. In fact he probably had a lot of qualities that most of us don't have.
Now, my friend made the mistake of internalizing that rejection, so he manufactured the idea in his head that there was something wrong with him which caused this young woman to turn him down.
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No.
The simple fact of the matter is, some people in the world just have different taste in their romantic partners. Different strokes for different folks. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, so if you happen to have the problem of internalizing a rejection and reasoning out that it happened on behalf of your own shortcomings... you are wrong. Just knock the dust off and move on.
Now, my friend made the mistake of internalizing that rejection, so he manufactured the idea in his head that there was something wrong with him which caused this young woman to turn him down.
...
No.
The simple fact of the matter is, some people in the world just have different taste in their romantic partners. Different strokes for different folks. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, so if you happen to have the problem of internalizing a rejection and reasoning out that it happened on behalf of your own shortcomings... you are wrong. Just knock the dust off and move on.
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I made my decision. I will keep my position as a support worker, not take the job as manager, instead take HCA program by corespondence. I will have more flexible hours, I can work a day less if need be. Not be stuck in the job if I find doing both too stressful. In the end, I can look for work in hospitals pays up to $19/hr, more than I would get here. Then pay off debt quicker, finally start making a life for myself, not live payday to payday hoping that my car won't break down. Maybe by this time next year, I'll be graduated. And it all can begin.
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no matter what decision you make Sister, adversity follows always to try to derail you off the path, and brings regrets to us all. So whatever decision you make, stand up through all the tidal waves trusting God to keep you up on your surf board
God never forsakes anyone, people unfortunately do though
God never forsakes anyone, people unfortunately do though
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People have funny reactions to how I've got my apartment set up.
One person said that just going by the books, movies, and pictures/knickknacks, they'd assume a soulless teenage girl lived here.
Another said they kinda hate me because this place is "cool" and they don't think their own house is.
My mom said "it's like a little girl's dream house".
A couple people shuddered at the girliness.
You know what though? I like it. I like my bright colors and my odd mishmash of book and movie genres. I like my mediocre paintings, and my fairy-themed knickknacks and all the other random mirrors and vases I've painted. Yeah, it's girly- so am I. So what if my decorations and paintings seem like something a soulless, pre-teen girl would be into? Give me a few bucks and a little time, and I'll have the living room ceiling covered in yards of tulle and tiny white lights, and a pile of bright, fluffy pillows and blankets to replace the futon. I might even buy a fuzzy pink chair and glitterize more stuff.
I spent a lot of years trying to compromise with someone on how the house could be decorated- things had to be dark, they had to be streamlined, they had to make sense. The house had to look like mature, dignified people lived there, people who read the classics and watch movies with deep meaning. Heaven forbid anything silly or imperfect was displayed.
Everything I own/make/paint is silly and/or imperfect. You know what? So am I.
...I didn't really intend to go off ranting...
One person said that just going by the books, movies, and pictures/knickknacks, they'd assume a soulless teenage girl lived here.
Another said they kinda hate me because this place is "cool" and they don't think their own house is.
My mom said "it's like a little girl's dream house".
A couple people shuddered at the girliness.
You know what though? I like it. I like my bright colors and my odd mishmash of book and movie genres. I like my mediocre paintings, and my fairy-themed knickknacks and all the other random mirrors and vases I've painted. Yeah, it's girly- so am I. So what if my decorations and paintings seem like something a soulless, pre-teen girl would be into? Give me a few bucks and a little time, and I'll have the living room ceiling covered in yards of tulle and tiny white lights, and a pile of bright, fluffy pillows and blankets to replace the futon. I might even buy a fuzzy pink chair and glitterize more stuff.
I spent a lot of years trying to compromise with someone on how the house could be decorated- things had to be dark, they had to be streamlined, they had to make sense. The house had to look like mature, dignified people lived there, people who read the classics and watch movies with deep meaning. Heaven forbid anything silly or imperfect was displayed.
Everything I own/make/paint is silly and/or imperfect. You know what? So am I.
...I didn't really intend to go off ranting...