Deal Breakers: Pagan, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, Too short, Too Fat, Cutter, Drug addict, pot smoker, Alcoholic, Bi-polar, Borderline Personality Disorder, Rage-aholic, Militant Feminist, Schizotypal, Jealous, Disloyal, (real) OCD, germaphobe, Vegan, Stripper, Drug Dealer, Abusive to Animals.
Red Flags: MBTI-"S" type, Horse Lover, Homeopath Enthusiast, Liberal, Smoker, Lots of Tattoos, Lives with Ex-boyfriend, Mountains of Debt, Charismatic, Daddy Issues, Poor Hygiene, Wants truckloads of Kids, Can't Swim, no Diploma, Convicted Felon, Convicted Sex Offender, Voluptuous, Smarmy, Blonde, Hello Kitty, Controlling, Manipulative, Unreasonable, Violent, Afraid of Everything, Crunchy, Obnoxious, Sexually aggressive, Passive aggressive, Lies consistently, Lacks Passion for anything, More than 2 Cats, PTSD, Anxiety, Vegetarian, Masseuse, Cold, Truther.
Must Haves: Christian, Literate, Objective, Honest, Loyal, Trustworthy, Patient, Gracious, Curious, Adventurous, Unselfish, Open, Empathic, Forgiving.
Wish List: Athletic, Tall, Quick Witted, Bi-lingual, Spontaneous, Romantic, Deep, Expressive, Creative, Singer, Poet, Professional, Generous, Well Read, Can Pee Outdoors, Unafraid, Prayer Warrior, Intuitive, Understanding, Well traveled, Competitive, Silly, Cries during sad movies, Prefers a Manual Transmission, Her Father's Favorite, Fisher(wo)man(?), Hiker, Skier, Conversational, Enjoys Running with others, Negotiator, Emotionally Stable, Loves to Laugh, Foodie, Optimist, Musician.
I tend to overlook Red Flags, when the wish list gets long, but eventually this too will pass.
I haven't been around much. I've been busy working and having fun again.
I admit this list isn't fair. But I know that when I don't make lists, I tend to compromise or ignore things about people, because I want to believe the best about people. I can hope in one hand and count the red flags in the other, just to see which one fills up faster.