Unloved.

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A few months ago at a christian camp I went to, I realized something.

I have so many emotional problems with myself because I feel unloved.

I wanted a boyfriend because I don't feel loved (I never had one before, by the way)

I wanted to get closer to my dad because I didn't feel loved, but he doesn't like me clinging to him/hugging him and such. And he's so mean sometimes >_>

I try to hug my mom EVERY DAY, because I never have physical interaction but she doesn't like me clinging to her either.

I love to be embraced by guys in particular, they are just different from girls. They are more warm, there's just something about 'em that makes me feel better.

And I feel like God doesn't love me. I always felt so insignificant, like there are billions of people on this earth, why would he need me, at all? There are other people that are much more Christ-like and that dedicated their life more, and actually have a relationship with Him, and God actually speaks to them, and they hear His voice.

I feel worthless.
 
Awww, you are loved, don't ever feel that way. Though I've never met you, I will give you a big digital hug!

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Awww, you are loved, don't ever feel that way. Though I've never met you, I will give you a big digital hug!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mearna}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Theres nothing better than an internet hug by a guy named oopsies!! LOL
 
I hear ya, Mearna. This is why it's so important for us to show love toward everyone. It is hard to believe that an invisible God that we can't see or touch loves us when we aren't even receiving love from people here on earth, especially when we aren't receiving it from our own friends and family. I'm sorry to hear that your feelings of insignificance and worthlessness. I don't know that I can offer much consolation except to say that many many people struggle with the same feelings. You are not alone.
 
No matter what we accomplish in life, no matter how many friends/how much money we have, God loves us all the same. Those times when you feel lonely & unloved, pray & seek his face, God is there for us 24/7 & will never stop loving you.
 
Hey, well I'm a girl and I've gone through some similar things. I always wanted a boyfriend cuz I had this desire to be over from someone other than just friends, cuz I don't have a lot anyways. I never really found Gods love to completely satisfy me. Turns out I wasn't actually letting him. He has all this extreme wnderful love for is and sometimes we get in the way. I was looking for divine love in all the wrong places. I was obbsessing over not having a boyfriend. But it wasn't until I told god to take I all away and to show me all the incredible love for me he had, that when I found pure joy. I've been trying to always satisfy myself in Him now. It's not always easy, but it's definately worth it.
If u ever wanna talk or whatever, I'm here :)
May God bless you and overwhelem you with his amazing love!!
-Morgan. :)
And hey might as well give you a digital hug too! *HUG* sorry I'm not a guy, hopefully that could be just as warm!
 
God loves you, no matter what. He has a plan for you.
You are not worthless at all. You are one of God's children, and you are not below anyone. =]
 
i felt just like you... i actually still struggle with this sometimes but... i try to look at Gods love for me
and Hes always sayin let my love be enough... but thats easier said then done....
but why dont we try together...
you can pm me...
i would pm you but i dont know how lolz....
there is also something else i want to share with you but i dont want you to be embarrased
 
Mearna said:
A few months ago at a christian camp I went to, I realized something.

I have so many emotional problems with myself because I feel unloved.

I wanted a boyfriend because I don't feel loved (I never had one before, by the way)

I wanted to get closer to my dad because I didn't feel loved, but he doesn't like me clinging to him/hugging him and such. And he's so mean sometimes >_>

I try to hug my mom EVERY DAY, because I never have physical interaction but she doesn't like me clinging to her either.

I love to be embraced by guys in particular, they are just different from girls. They are more warm, there's just something about 'em that makes me feel better.

And I feel like God doesn't love me. I always felt so insignificant, like there are billions of people on this earth, why would he need me, at all? There are other people that are much more Christ-like and that dedicated their life more, and actually have a relationship with Him, and God actually speaks to them, and they hear His voice.

I feel worthless.
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Well, I can say I've been in your situation. What I can say is no matter what you think there is at least one person who loves you very much. I can say I love you. Also, I want to you to understand once you feel Christ's love for yourself and really experience it you will feel so loved. BTW I am so preaching to myself as I am giving you advice. :)
 
i do not know how old you are and but i want you to know you are living my life, but please believe me you are special in gods eyes, look at yourself through his eyes don't wait until you are 42 and decide to trust him......i have been told that i am one that is addicted to being in love, i believe that now because i have never felt like i made my dad proud..like he was ever happy with my destions in life......don't go through life trying to please your dad through every man you meet,,,,,,,first be able to please yourself be happy with yourself the rest will come....please believe me just be yourself and true love real true love will find you
 
Hey Mearna,

God doesn't NEED any of us...but He WANTS us. He wants to love us and us to love Him back. From what you've described here, sounds like you need some deep emotional healing. You can go to your church and ask for ministry. There is a course that some churches do, it's called Cleansing Streams. If possible you could do that. It might cost, but it's well worth it. I've just finished the last session, it was amazing! I was broken free from so much rubbish that was in my life.
You can be too.

Hugs!! :)
 
Mearna I want you to know that you are not the only one, you can't immagine how many people feel that way. Well I tell you that also if i'm a boy and usually boys tries to act strong, before accepting God's love I had inside this needing of love. That you are worthless is a big lie. In the eyes of God we are all so special and there is no difference, his loves is enought for everyone! Maybe the way you feel also doesn't help you to feel loved by God, but I think that one thing that will help you to receive his love is reading in the Bible the true personality of God :) You know, it's crazy but I can tell you that I found out that I used to think that many times God was like my natural father.. I explain better: I had a very bad relationship with my natural dad he didn't show me any love and for example when I made mistakes he was always screaming on me and telling me bad words like "you are worth anything".. So I grew up believing what he used to tell me and when I came closer to God, when I made mistakes with God I used to fear like he got angry with me like my dad did.. But I was not conscious it was wrong.. Then,during my walk with God when I searched for Jesus in my room, praying and going to church he started to show me what his personality was like and I started to receive that incredible love that changed me. !!! I tell you that the same can happen to you!
 
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Mearna, trust me.
God loves us -even much more than our fathers, mothers, girl or boyfriends and every human being in the earth planet. If you wanna know that the God loves you or not, first you should revise your feelings if you love him or not. Try to love the God mearna, then in return he will make you feel that you are being loved. Just look at in yourself, who's the biggest in your heart mearna? One day you will find a boyfriend, you will marry, you'll have children but who should be the first in your heart? God gives boy/girl friends, God gives husbands/wives, health or illnesses, birt or death, happiness or sadness, and God gives or takes everything.. Think about it. Think about the loving hierarchy. Want everything from God, because he is the closest one for everyone. And God doesn't need us, we do need the God.
I think we should revise our relationship between the God and us.
(By the way, God is God and he's unique, and Jesus is Jesus he's man at first than prophet. And when I'm saying God, I mean God not Jesus)
*Mearna, pray and want a boyfriend from God. You know everything belongs to him.. :)
 
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