Modesty for ladies

[holly454]

sorry but i read things things and jst thought, y should there be so many rules in wat girls wear!!! i mean, god created human body&its beautifull to him! hiding our bodys is jst teachin us to be ashamed of who we r&to hav a lower self image. if we hav a good quality, wats wrong wiv showin it off? its good to appretiate wat god has given us and blessed us with! every1s beautifull, though not every1 relizes they r. i belive every1 has at least 1 good quality!! im not sayin we should all strip off, lol. i think bein provocative is mostly about the way u present ureself&how u come across to other ppl, not wat ure wearin!! i mean, personality is more important& we shouldnt judge cos of wat ppl wear, whether christian or not!! ppl judge ppl for lookin ugly&coverin their bueaty, yet ppl also judge for wearing less!!hmm, sorry for bein difficult x

 

[timjim]

But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which beleive in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

 

[Kathleen]

sorry but i read things things and jst thought, y should there be so many rules in wat girls wear!!! i mean, god created human body&its beautifull to him! hiding our bodys is jst teachin us to be ashamed of who we r&to hav a lower self image. if we hav a good quality, wats wrong wiv showin it off? its good to appretiate wat god has given us and blessed us with! every1s beautifull, though not every1 relizes they r. i belive every1 has at least 1 good quality!! im not sayin we should all strip off, lol. i think bein provocative is mostly about the way u present ureself&how u come across to other ppl, not wat ure wearin!! i mean, personality is more important& we shouldnt judge cos of wat ppl wear, whether christian or not!! ppl judge ppl for lookin ugly&coverin their bueaty, yet ppl also judge for wearing less!!hmm, sorry for bein difficult x

You say God created the body and it is butifull - hiding our body is jst teaching us to be ashamed of who we are and to have a lower self image.

But evern unbelivers know to wear clothes -
When Adam and Eve ate of the tree of knowledge they knew they were naked and were ashamed.

And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
Genisis 3:10

Also God made clothes of animal skins to cover their nakedness - surely this is a fine example - not to mension Noah, Samson, Moses, Jesus

 

[oopsies]

I love girls that dress modestly! It says they care for themselves, their families, and the guys that they meet. My ideal woman wears dresses and long skirts, simple jewelry (if any), and avoids makeup. When a girls does all that, and still radiates beauty and femininity, you know she's a keeper.

- Topher

Me too! She just needs to make an appearance.

Personally I think that girls should be pretty conservative in what they wear. As a guy, I can say that I really enjoyed my experiences swimming at Christian events where people are required to wear a darker shirt (and shorts sometimes) along with their bathing suit. Not just because there is so much less temptation, but just because it is so much easier to hang around with girls. At other times, it's just awkward for me to be around all these girls that are wearing bikinis. Not sure why it is so psychological..but yeah...maybe a little has to do with the perception that some posters mentioned before?

Clothes are not some little deal. As a guy, I don't think that there is any bigger battleground than there is with lust. I hope that all girls (and us guys too) do our best to help one another out, and just be brothers and sisters in Christ--without the weightly temptations.

That's a pretty good idea. It's the reason I avoid certain church events - don't know what other people would wear and I tend to avert my eyes away if they aren't wearing much.

 

[Leilaii425]

Me too! She just needs to make an appearance.



That's a pretty good idea. It's the reason I avoid certain church events - don't know what other people would wear and I tend to avert my eyes away if they aren't wearing much.

That really says alot about you.....

 

[oopsies]

That really says alot about you.....

To each their own. But that comment says a lot about you too.

 

[Acce]

Wow.. OK.. Sooo I just read all of this, and I think a lot of the way you dress depends on what you want to get out of it.

Like ok, I will talk about me personally, not a teen, Im 24, just btw. BUT like when I dress I kinda just follow my own guidelines such as.. I rarely wear a skirt above the knee, even in summer, cos I like the hippy style. If I do wear skirts above the knee, its not by much, and I usually have stockings or something, cos Im too scared haha. Also, I think its ok, for shorts to be a little shorter than say a skirt, I mean.. You cant bend over, you cant do anything, and I just dont like the look of the oversized belts/skirts. I personally sometimes wear shorts, but they are JUST abover the knee.

As for the top.. well.. I struggle sometimes with keeping all cleavage away, just because.. of my body shape, Im a curvy type girl. SO, I always wear an undershirt, just cos, I feel more comfortable, and I dont want to have people oggling me. I cant always help it, I mean.. sometimes if I look down, and I feel like i see lots to show, but really its not haha.

I dunno if that helped any, don't be too obsessed with the fashion and the style, and wanting to look like everyone else thing. Its totally overrated. Just think with God in mind, NOT if your friends/bf/randoms on the street are gonna like you and think your totally cool to look at.

Cause for me, a persons personality gets me everytime, I dont even care if they look frumpy or 'unfashionable', being so focused on outer appearance is way to important to some and we should try to change that, not to say that I wear old grungy clothes or whatever, I actually enjoy clothes, but rarely buy them, because unless i have a REAL need, its a waste of money, that could go to better things. Oh and for my when I swim, I wear a Tankini, with some shorter boardshorts ( the boardshorts are above the knee, mid-length because too long and I find they take forever to dry, and I cant walk properly or swim properly in them) and the tankini is like a tank top style one you know the ones. And I go for darker colours, just because I feel it hides more, and doesn't show off every curve and stuff!


What a rant, probably didnt help much, just be modest, dress appropriately for your body, and don't dress with anybody in mind, other than, Jesus, you, and where you are heading to.

 

[Christianrkchk89]

that was great! thanks Acce!

 

[steven7c]

As a guy it is hard to not let imagination get to out of hand with the way women look. God created women to be beautiful, but he made you with a very high sence of wanting to be atractive as well and there is should always be in a woman's mind a balance to what is to far and what is not. With that said any skin being shown anywhere (little leg, alot of leg or clevage little or alot) is more than enough to ANY man fall into temtation.

 

[Vidy]

Being a teenage guy myself, I think steven (the above poster) is actually closer to the mark.

To the people saying "What you wear depends on why you wear it." Now, let's look at the example from holly (top of page 3)- She says that the body is beatuiful, and she doesn't want to cover up what God has made. Does that mean she should walk around nude? Heck no.

Likewise, if you dress in revealing clothing, whether you're being flirty or not a guy will fall into temptation. I try to watch my girlfriend in this- She normally wears a low-cut shirt with a tank over it, and while that's fine in most ideal situations, I have to remind her that... Well, she's short and very well-built, so taller guys (like me), can easily see more than they need to... Especially me, since cuddling on the couch or something (with others in the room) is something we like to do XD

As for specific guidelines- Your legs... Really shouldn't go above mid-thigh, though the LIMIT if you just HAD to wear something because it "goes with that and nothing else does" or whatever... My first recommendation is go buy something longer to go with it. The second is the extreme would be like 3/5 up. As for make-up, I honestly don't care. If you have to wear it to look decent, go ahead. If you just wanna look nice, go ahead. As a guy, I hardly notice make-up anyway, and any attraction it gives is more of a maturity factor than a sexual factor. And for cleavage... There shouldn't be ANY. Sorry for the well-developed ladies, but any skin in the chest area is too much. I'm not sure how accurate this measurement is since I don't really measure girls, but I think that probably 2-3 inches below the neckline would be the limit (maybe less).


As for the whole summer argument, there is NO time EVER where you have to wear practically nothing. I myself wear jeans and a T-shirt year-round, with a jacket in the winter. I have nothing against shorts (though I don't wear them myself), but I can assure you there is relatively no (temperature) difference between shorts above mid-thigh and shirts at the knees.

As for the whole "fashion" thing, I'm sorry it limits you. My girlfriend is into fashion, and today's fashion... Well, it's just too much for the average guy. She finds ways to still be fashionable while being modest though, so I know it's possible. Can't give you any specific tips on that, but I'm sure other places have that =)

 

[tryingtofindhim]

You say God created the body and it is butifull - hiding our body is jst teaching us to be ashamed of who we are and to have a lower self image.

But evern unbelivers know to wear clothes -
When Adam and Eve ate of the tree of knowledge they knew they were naked and were ashamed.

And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
Genisis 3:10

Also God made clothes of animal skins to cover their nakedness - surely this is a fine example - not to mension Noah, Samson, Moses, Jesus

That was after they sinned though they didn't realize that til after they sinned.

 

[Kathleen]

every one sins - therefore everyone should wear clothes
so ur post was a bit pointless imo

 

[tryingtofindhim]

every one sins - therefore everyone should wear clothes
so ur post was a bit pointless imo

I was just stating a point.

 

[Christianrkchk89]

Being a teenage guy myself, I think steven (the above poster) is actually closer to the mark.

To the people saying "What you wear depends on why you wear it." Now, let's look at the example from holly (top of page 3)- She says that the body is beatuiful, and she doesn't want to cover up what God has made. Does that mean she should walk around nude? Heck no.

Likewise, if you dress in revealing clothing, whether you're being flirty or not a guy will fall into temptation. I try to watch my girlfriend in this- She normally wears a low-cut shirt with a tank over it, and while that's fine in most ideal situations, I have to remind her that... Well, she's short and very well-built, so taller guys (like me), can easily see more than they need to... Especially me, since cuddling on the couch or something (with others in the room) is something we like to do XD

As for specific guidelines- Your legs... Really shouldn't go above mid-thigh, though the LIMIT if you just HAD to wear something because it "goes with that and nothing else does" or whatever... My first recommendation is go buy something longer to go with it. The second is the extreme would be like 3/5 up. As for make-up, I honestly don't care. If you have to wear it to look decent, go ahead. If you just wanna look nice, go ahead. As a guy, I hardly notice make-up anyway, and any attraction it gives is more of a maturity factor than a sexual factor. And for cleavage... There shouldn't be ANY. Sorry for the well-developed ladies, but any skin in the chest area is too much. I'm not sure how accurate this measurement is since I don't really measure girls, but I think that probably 2-3 inches below the neckline would be the limit (maybe less).


As for the whole summer argument, there is NO time EVER where you have to wear practically nothing. I myself wear jeans and a T-shirt year-round, with a jacket in the winter. I have nothing against shorts (though I don't wear them myself), but I can assure you there is relatively no (temperature) difference between shorts above mid-thigh and shirts at the knees.

As for the whole "fashion" thing, I'm sorry it limits you. My girlfriend is into fashion, and today's fashion... Well, it's just too much for the average guy. She finds ways to still be fashionable while being modest though, so I know it's possible. Can't give you any specific tips on that, but I'm sure other places have that =)

good stuff! thanks for posting!

 

[timjim]

I think "Christian" women today dress more imodest the the prostitudes of the 50's.. We are truly living in the great apostacy that the Bible prophecy's

 

[Vidy]

In school today, this thought hit me-

To you people saying "Guys will look at you inappropriately anyway"- Listen to this. YES, it is true that many guys will STILL look at you lustfully. However, to the Christian men that do NOT want to look at you lustfully, it makes it nearly impossible to avoid for them.

Bad actions with a good intention are still bad.

 

[tryingtofindhim]

I think this is all based on people definition of modesty and how you carry yourself. I mean some people say wearing a skirt that is above your knees is immodest or wearing a bikini is immodest. I think the most important thing is how you carry yourself. Even if you are covered up but walking in a slutty manner you are going to draw the wrong kind of attention.

 

[tryingtofindhim]

I love girls that dress modestly! It says they care for themselves, their families, and the guys that they meet. My ideal woman wears dresses and long skirts, simple jewelry (if any), and avoids makeup. When a girls does all that, and still radiates beauty and femininity, you know she's a keeper.

- Topher

was the long skirt and no makeup a joke?!

 

[Christianrkchk89]

No, he's serious

 

[tryingtofindhim]

No, he's serious

oh............. ok. lol he has a right to his opinion