Big Weddings

[TyC113]

What is the deal with people and weddings that makes for insanity?

I turned on the TV one day, started flipping through channels, and I found this TV show called "Bridezillas". I am personally not a big TV watcher, and this was the first time I had seen it. I turned it on, and I was freaked out. The women on that show were absolutely insane, planning for their weddings. It was like megalomania in there. Purely psycho in my eyes. They were pretty scary, yelling, and fighting over dresses and stuff. It was not good at all. Plenty of girl fights on that show.

Then I found this other show called "Say Yes to the Dress" a little later. They were having dresses for thousands of dollars. They were so expensive. A down payment on a house isn't as much as some of the dresses on that show. Insane in my opinion.

I used to help cater weddings for my first job, and the people were so crazy with demands and all. I just feel like I'm too pragmatic to even want those expensive weddings. It's so crazy it actually makes me not want to do it at all. I'd rather do the quick elope or small church ceremony before trying that craziness. Are weddings that big a deal to everybody or is it just me that thinks this? If you're married did you have the big wedding day, with everything in it? And if you aren't married would you want the big wedding day, with all the fluff?

 

[LadyOscar]

What is the deal with people and weddings that makes for insanity?

I turned on the TV one day, started flipping through channels, and I found this TV show called "Bridezillas". I am personally not a big TV watcher, and this was the first time I had seen it. I turned it on, and I was freaked out. The women on that show were absolutely insane, planning for their weddings. It was like megalomania in there. Purely psycho in my eyes. They were pretty scary, yelling, and fighting over dresses and stuff. It was not good at all. Plenty of girl fights on that show.

Then I found this other show called "Say Yes to the Dress" a little later. They were having dresses for thousands of dollars. They were so expensive. A down payment on a house isn't as much as some of the dresses on that show. Insane in my opinion.

I used to help cater weddings for my first job, and the people were so crazy with demands and all. I just feel like I'm too pragmatic to even want those expensive weddings. It's so crazy it actually makes me not want to do it at all. I'd rather do the quick elope or small church ceremony before trying that craziness. Are weddings that big a deal to everybody or is it just me that thinks this? If you're married did you have the big wedding day, with everything in it? And if you aren't married would you want the big wedding day, with all the fluff?

Some people are obsessed with the idea of wedding...not marriage. Marriage means more than just thousands of dollars dresses, jewelries, and all those extravagant stuffs. If I want to get married, it will be just me and my future husband in front of God, in a small church with no party at all. I don't care if my parents, family and close friends are not coming. It doesn't matter to me. What matters is the promise I make with my future husband in front of God. People don't matter.

 

[Tintin]

I wouldn't want a huge wedding or one that's basically eloping; I want something different. Something that can be shared with my bride's family and friends and mine. Something that would be unique to both our personalities, characters and interests. Something that involves good food and simple fun. Something that celebrates godly marriage. So my ideal wedding would be somewhere between small and medium-sized.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

It does seem like wedding ceremonies have lost their value in the respect they should reserve for the most. Vanity has hollowed out some of the beauty of the occasion.

Bridezillas is totally the apex of exhibitionism! I'm more concerned with the long haul though; disowning marriage vows is a bigger no-no than the one dimensional stuff.

 

[Fenner]

Mine was medium sized or small compared to some. We had about 100 guests and that included us and the attendants. We paid for everything ourselves and wanted it to be a happy day that everyone could enjoy themselves. I wasn't a bridezilla I think I was the opposite, relax it's just a day type attitude. I had a pretty dress and had fun and most importantly got married.

 

[Kizzy]

I'm single and I voted not important. I'm super laid back and easy going about things and I don't see the point in extravagant weddings. Of course I would want to celebrate the occasion, but just not in super elaborate way. I value simplicity, so I would rather have a small/medium wedding.

 

[SparkleEyes]

I am uncomfortable when too much attention is focused on me. I think I would freak out if I somehow had a big wedding.

 

[DragonSlayer]

Big wedding send a very bad message to materially poor future couples : " If you can't do a big wedding, don't get married ".

This does not come from the Lord, but it comes from the world !

As a union between a husband and his wife represents the union between Jesus and His Church,

A wedding ceremony should reflect the character of great humility and modesty of Jesus !

Simplicity is best !

 

[Nautilus]

I think my sister's, who got married a couple weeks ago, wedding cost somewhere around $25,000 and thats not counting the rehearsal dinner or expenses the groom's family paid. A lot of the cost was food at the reception and open bars for 200 people.

 

[maxwel]

I think the wedding is the bride's special day.

I think it should be whatever she wants.


(I don't think you should mortgage your house for it, but I think the bride should have whatever kind of wedding she wants, as long as it can be reasonably budgeted.)

 

[Elizabeth619]

I used to want a large wedding, but now that I am in my 30s that is the last thing I would want.
All I want in a wedding is me, the groom, preacher, a couple witnesses and cake.

 

[stone8]

I dont want a large wedding I just want the important ppl in my life in the same room to watch me and my groom show our love and be there for our big day..that makes it way more special than big fancy expensive or anything else..

 

[Tintin]

I don't know where people get this idea. The groom wants some loving too.

I think the wedding is the bride's special day.

I think it should be whatever she wants.


(I don't think you should mortgage your house for it, but I think the bride should have whatever kind of wedding she wants, as long as it can be reasonably budgeted.)

 

[DuchessAimee]

I am an odd girl; I haven't pre planned my future wedding. I have a friend who has planned the wedding down to the confetti, and all she needs now is a groom.


I just don't get that.


I would want to plan the wedding with my fiancé, and I'd rather have an inexpensive wedding anyway. That way the honeymoon can be more extravagant. Maybe it's just me, but I want a marriage, not just a wedding.



I want marriage and presents. I really like presents. But please, no gravy boats.

 

[rachelsedge]

I'm not one for a big wedding. I think it's absolutely ridiculous to spend that much money on one day. I'd rather use that money for an overseas honeymoon or, even better, a downpayment on a house together. I want to be as cheap as possible with my wedding. My sister was able to do hers very frugally and it was still an incredible, beautiful, godly wedding.

I don't want very much spent on the engagement ring, either. I don't need a huge rock. I'm very simple in that way.

 

[DuchessAimee]

I'm not one for a big wedding. I think it's absolutely ridiculous to spend that much money on one day. I'd rather use that money for an overseas honeymoon or, even better, a downpayment on a house together. I want to be as cheap as possible with my wedding. My sister was able to do hers very frugally and it was still an incredible, beautiful, godly wedding.

I don't want very much spent on the engagement ring, either. I don't need a huge rock. I'm very simple in that way.

I was with ya up until you said that. I like things that glitter and shine. However, I don't care if the gem is fake. *shrugs*

 

[Tintin]

Rachel, you have a good head on your shoulders. Good on you, mate.

I'm not one for a big wedding. I think it's absolutely ridiculous to spend that much money on one day. I'd rather use that money for an overseas honeymoon or, even better, a down-payment on a house together. I want to be as cheap as possible with my wedding. My sister was able to do hers very frugally and it was still an incredible, beautiful, godly wedding.

I don't want very much spent on the engagement ring, either. I don't need a huge rock. I'm very simple in that way.

 

[isaria]

Agree.
More important is that it is mutual commitment and truly a union both want and agree upon and from there on make a holy marriage ritual wedding day.

I find it a turn off "bridezillas" or male equivalent.
Tacky and cheap some how regardless how much money one spends .
Some of them spend ridiculous amounts of money on wedding and looking perfect and it is not a true wedding because it was not mutual or one of them a gold digger to use the other or for other reasons.

One couple were to marry and wedding was literally stolen because he swapped bride.
Everything same except bride.

Another was forsed to marry and never said vowels so she said she is not married and they said yes you are because they wanted it so.
It is illegal to forse someone to marry to use as slave or be gold digger etc


I am not sure i want to marry.
I dont think i do want to marry.

Reason:
I had stalker and his wife say they marry me and they death threats and stealing from me and doing many illegal things.
After such happening for so many years.... puts me off marriage.
To many times betrayed.
Think may rather relationship with man without marriage which they say is sin but no less sin than forsing some one to marry enemies who use as slave, isolate, steal and locking them up when they sick while ravel and live wonderfully on what belongs to them.


I have had a couple thoughts only about marriage.

When people seem to think its ok to forse someone into marriage and then use them and treat them awfully then i am apposed marriage.
Nothing holy in that.

 

[Fenner]

I was with ya up until you said that. I like things that glitter and shine. However, I don't care if the gem is fake. *shrugs*

I see a nice shiny cubic zirconia in your future.

 

[DuchessAimee]

I see a nice shiny cubic zirconia in your future.

lol! fine by me. I'd prefer a dark blue sapphire, though. Or a black diamond! Have you seen those? A black diamond set in white gold. Gorgeous.








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