I agree, I was watching a Mark Driscoll sermon the other day, and he pointed out that girls come up to his wife all the time asking how they got together and how they found each other...
So then he pointed out that the biggest audience population was in Male 20-25 year olds... And that the girls should have no problem finding a Godly man...
The women retort, went like so "yes they are Godly, but they are still children..." Which made Drsicoll preach on one of my most favorite sermons... (here is the link in case you are interested.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYBovk6MBEg
I personally find that the hardest thing for me to do at the age of 19 is to grow up, If I move out of my mothers house I don't even make enough to cover the rent by myself so I would have to have at least 2 other friends with me... Which sounds grown up in the short sight, but in the long run I see this happen with my old friends... They end up making it into a clubhouse and expect to live like that for the rest of their lives... No ambition to move on... In today's society everything makes it soo hard to become mature... The movies that are popular always showcase a stay at home son in his 30's - 40's living the fun life... Our economy is so inflated that a job between too kids can not rent a trailer with working utilities in my oilfield town (Which is extremely pathetic IMO).
But my biggest beef with the whole ordeal is that teens are brought up to be children, playing x-box, hanging with friends, running around with a allowance from mom's credit card. So instead of weaning the child off of the mom, we put cocaine into the formula then take it away at a heart beat... (taking out of personal experience for this whole reply)
Mark Driscoll is just trying to make the primarily female church going audience feel good - notice how guys are the only ones he ever tells to improve their life
Many pastors sat that young women don't have to do anything but apparently be a daughter of Christ. They're beautiful and perfect and it's not their fault that anything bad happens in their life. God will bring them "a tall, dark, handsome, rich, intelligent man who's just like Christ"
They tell them Jesus should be their boyfriend until God "brings them the right man"
Do you see men calling Mary Madgalene their girlfriend? No... because its rightfully ridiculous. Christ shouldn't be reduced to being a "boyfriend" - He's the Savior of all mankind and allowed us to have a choice to live with God Almighty up in heaven if we repent and let Him work in our life.
On the other hand, young men apparently HAVE to have a high-paying job, move out of their parents house, look at all women 1000% purely whether they're Mother Theresa or Miley Cyrus, have short hair, no facial hair, a nice house and car - basically everything in order to be dating material. Where's such restrictions on Christian girls?
None of these pastors ever mention that women should have a job, an education, a house or car before they're marriage ready- girls naturally are perfect so no criticism there.
As a Christian, I am concerned that in the eyes of many church leaders, women apparently just have to sit and look pretty in order to be dating/marriage material, while men have to jump through a million hoops to even remotely be considered "first date" material
No job (applied to over 100 over last 2.5 years since I turned 16), no car, no money, 5'3.5", pale, socially awkward, introverted - very much one of those people who apparently has to "man up" according to the guy who flipped out over his wife getting her hair cut short as she's reached a certain age/motherhood (middle aged women tend not to have really long hair - same goes for a lot of moms)
Why should I have to jump through so many hoops when women get a free pass from Mark Driscoll?
Okay rant done...