Would you be willing to wait for the person you like/love for 10 years?
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That’s a difficult situation. Especially when interest goes both ways. I was in a similar situation with who desired to spend their life with me. My return to God altered everything.
He didn’t give up on me. Not in my time away or after my return. It’s a quagmire. But humbling nonetheless. He affirmed the same over the years. To know you’ve touched someone’s soul (and they yours) to that degree is unforgettable.
There is a peace in knowing you found the one you sought. To be aware it wasn’t an idea you created in your head. But flesh and blood that breathes and longs for you.
I’ve always liked this poem by Rumi. It is a treatise love bathed in spirit.
From the beginning of my life
I have been looking for your face
but today I have seen it
Today I have seen
the charm, the beauty, and
the unfathomable grace
of the face that I have been looking for
Today I have found you
and those who laughed and scorned me yesterday
are sorry they were not looking as I did
I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty
and wish to see you with a hundred eyes
My heart has burned with passion and has searched forever
for this wondrous beauty I now behold
I am ashamed to call this love human
and afraid of God to call it divine
Your fragrant breath like the morning breeze
has come to the stillness of the garden
You have breathed new life into me
I have become your sunshine
and also your shadow
My soul is screaming in ecstacy
Every fiber of my being
is in love with you
Your efflugence has lit a fire in my heart
for me the earth and sky
My arrow of love has arrived at the target
I am in the house of mercy
and my heart is a place of prayer
He didn’t give up on me. Not in my time away or after my return. It’s a quagmire. But humbling nonetheless. He affirmed the same over the years. To know you’ve touched someone’s soul (and they yours) to that degree is unforgettable.
There is a peace in knowing you found the one you sought. To be aware it wasn’t an idea you created in your head. But flesh and blood that breathes and longs for you.
I’ve always liked this poem by Rumi. It is a treatise love bathed in spirit.
From the beginning of my life
I have been looking for your face
but today I have seen it
Today I have seen
the charm, the beauty, and
the unfathomable grace
of the face that I have been looking for
Today I have found you
and those who laughed and scorned me yesterday
are sorry they were not looking as I did
I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty
and wish to see you with a hundred eyes
My heart has burned with passion and has searched forever
for this wondrous beauty I now behold
I am ashamed to call this love human
and afraid of God to call it divine
Your fragrant breath like the morning breeze
has come to the stillness of the garden
You have breathed new life into me
I have become your sunshine
and also your shadow
My soul is screaming in ecstacy
Every fiber of my being
is in love with you
Your efflugence has lit a fire in my heart
for me the earth and sky
My arrow of love has arrived at the target
I am in the house of mercy
and my heart is a place of prayer
That’s a difficult situation. Especially when interest goes both ways. I was in a similar situation with who desired to spend their life with me. My return to God altered everything.
He didn’t give up on me. Not in my time away or after my return. It’s a quagmire. But humbling nonetheless. He affirmed the same over the years. To know you’ve touched someone’s soul (and they yours) to that degree is unforgettable.
There is a peace in knowing you found the one you sought. To be aware it wasn’t an idea you created in your head. But flesh and blood that breathes and longs for you.
I’ve always liked this poem by Rumi. It is a treatise love bathed in spirit.
From the beginning of my life
I have been looking for your face
but today I have seen it
Today I have seen
the charm, the beauty, and
the unfathomable grace
of the face that I have been looking for
Today I have found you
and those who laughed and scorned me yesterday
are sorry they were not looking as I did
I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty
and wish to see you with a hundred eyes
My heart has burned with passion and has searched forever
for this wondrous beauty I now behold
I am ashamed to call this love human
and afraid of God to call it divine
Your fragrant breath like the morning breeze
has come to the stillness of the garden
You have breathed new life into me
I have become your sunshine
and also your shadow
My soul is screaming in ecstacy
Every fiber of my being
is in love with you
Your efflugence has lit a fire in my heart
for me the earth and sky
My arrow of love has arrived at the target
I am in the house of mercy
and my heart is a place of prayer
He didn’t give up on me. Not in my time away or after my return. It’s a quagmire. But humbling nonetheless. He affirmed the same over the years. To know you’ve touched someone’s soul (and they yours) to that degree is unforgettable.
There is a peace in knowing you found the one you sought. To be aware it wasn’t an idea you created in your head. But flesh and blood that breathes and longs for you.
I’ve always liked this poem by Rumi. It is a treatise love bathed in spirit.
From the beginning of my life
I have been looking for your face
but today I have seen it
Today I have seen
the charm, the beauty, and
the unfathomable grace
of the face that I have been looking for
Today I have found you
and those who laughed and scorned me yesterday
are sorry they were not looking as I did
I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty
and wish to see you with a hundred eyes
My heart has burned with passion and has searched forever
for this wondrous beauty I now behold
I am ashamed to call this love human
and afraid of God to call it divine
Your fragrant breath like the morning breeze
has come to the stillness of the garden
You have breathed new life into me
I have become your sunshine
and also your shadow
My soul is screaming in ecstacy
Every fiber of my being
is in love with you
Your efflugence has lit a fire in my heart
for me the earth and sky
My arrow of love has arrived at the target
I am in the house of mercy
and my heart is a place of prayer
I don't think its as simple as that. No one not even God wants someone to be miserable for a lifetime with an unloving man, alcoholic, drug user, rude and arrogant etc. it serves no purpose to her or any children that come along later. This is the mistake the Pharisees made, telling everyone to live by the law. It cant always work that way in this messed up world.
then. that person needs to obtain a divorce. I thought it only took two years, not TEN to get one.
if someone is being criminal and abusive that person needs to admit that she was wrong in marrying and go to the police and get lawyers in sorry.
Otherwise, you are just comitting adultery.
a vow is a vow and must be paid. By both parties. or they are deceiving each other.
if someone is being criminal and abusive that person needs to admit that she was wrong in marrying and go to the police and get lawyers in sorry.
Otherwise, you are just comitting adultery.
a vow is a vow and must be paid. By both parties. or they are deceiving each other.
God will shake up things for certain. But it’s challenging if you develop an attraction to someone tied to another. And the likelihood of them doing the same is stronger when your behavior opposes their norm.
This is especially true in marital or relational challenges. The outsider is seen through rose colored lenses. Hands-on support is best administered through pastoral care and those of the same gender. But all can pray nonetheless.
This is especially true in marital or relational challenges. The outsider is seen through rose colored lenses. Hands-on support is best administered through pastoral care and those of the same gender. But all can pray nonetheless.
I grew up with a dysfunctional family, believe me it isn't a good environment for children to grow up in. I have also witnessed aunts and uncles who live together only for the children, you can see the animosity between the spouses. I cant see Jesus expecting people to grow up in such an environment for long.
Having raised a child, I’m aware of the importance of stability and a healthy environment and the impact its omission has on everyone involved. While I never married, I was very fastidious about the people I allowed in our life and home for the reasons you’ve shared and others too.
I’ve also witnessed the problems errant connections can create and the difficulty many have in walking away. In each scenario, the individual had to reach a point where self-preservation and regard exceeded the fear and hell they endured.
I couldn’t bring them to that point. Only God can. I could love and support them throughout. But I don’t have the liberty of transgressing His word for the greater good in that case. And when it relates to the opposite sex you have to acknowledge your motives and what you gain by taking a stand.
It is one thing to get involved to free them from their clutches. And another to do the same so that we can build a future together. I would be lying to myself if I didn’t see the benefit of the second to my person and believed I was justified, altruistic and wholly innocent.
I’ve also witnessed the problems errant connections can create and the difficulty many have in walking away. In each scenario, the individual had to reach a point where self-preservation and regard exceeded the fear and hell they endured.
I couldn’t bring them to that point. Only God can. I could love and support them throughout. But I don’t have the liberty of transgressing His word for the greater good in that case. And when it relates to the opposite sex you have to acknowledge your motives and what you gain by taking a stand.
It is one thing to get involved to free them from their clutches. And another to do the same so that we can build a future together. I would be lying to myself if I didn’t see the benefit of the second to my person and believed I was justified, altruistic and wholly innocent.
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I think arranged marriages can work if both are yielded to God and have a shared mission they’re working towards. Derek Prince is a good example.
But few would marry someone they’re not attracted to solely on the belief they’re being led by God. There’s usually a combination of mutual interest and spiritual comfort. The idea is easier for those reared in cultures where the practice still exists.
Nevertheless, Ravi Zacharias shared these words in I, Isaac, Take Thee Rebekah that I’ve never forgotten, “Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion. And if you will to love somebody, you can.”
This OP boils down to will and the depth of our commitment to God and the other person. Only He could enable us to stand for a lengthy duration for a hope that will not disappoint. If our flesh is leading the charge there's no guarantee we’ll receive the spoil we expect.
But few would marry someone they’re not attracted to solely on the belief they’re being led by God. There’s usually a combination of mutual interest and spiritual comfort. The idea is easier for those reared in cultures where the practice still exists.
Nevertheless, Ravi Zacharias shared these words in I, Isaac, Take Thee Rebekah that I’ve never forgotten, “Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion. And if you will to love somebody, you can.”
This OP boils down to will and the depth of our commitment to God and the other person. Only He could enable us to stand for a lengthy duration for a hope that will not disappoint. If our flesh is leading the charge there's no guarantee we’ll receive the spoil we expect.
