So, the fact that I called myself a nerd and a geek when I was in 7th grade, proudly, when it wasn't cool...when I knew more about the Bible and Star Trek at the time than anyone else at my junior high, I was doing it because I thought it would somehow raise my social standing?
I obviously did it to look awesome, because I kept doing it despite the fact that I got called gay and shoved into the lockers after P.E. Because that was obviously working for me, right? Like when the our basketball and baseball team's superstar player said he would try to snap my neck, and proceeded to try (showcasing his lack of anatomical structure). Or when one of my classmates said if he heard one more word about Quantum Leap or Star Trek, he would punch me in the face (this was in the classroom, with a teacher nearby not really paying attention). I replied, "Phasers!" And he right hooked me in the cheek.
Because that's hip. That's cool. That's why I OBVIOUSLY do it. Oh, wait, NO. I do it because it's who I am. I live in a blessed age now where it happens to be chic...right NOW. It wasn't before Big Bang Theory came along. I did it because I stay true to who I am, and your little analysis, while it has some merit in your age group's concept of nerdery, is a rather shallow conclusion to draw just because geekiness is en vogue. Some of us here HAVE paid for title of nerd, geek, or dork. Newsflash - I earned my title of nerd BEFORE YOU WERE BORN.
I know what the words were MEANT for. They were meant to hurt and to bully and to demean. And some of us WHO ACTUALLY GOT BULLIED for our unpopular pursuits solved the problem BY OWNING THE WORDS. You call me a dork? Instead of being hurt, I say, "Thank you," earnestly, happily. Boom! The power of your words just got wiped. That's how some of us dealt.
I know what a geek poseur is - I watch my students do it all the time, and I'm the first to educate them. They put on their punched-out 3Ds, and say (all the while forgetting that I wear corrective lenses), "Look, Mister! I'm a nerd!" And I tell them, "No, you're not. A pair of glasses doesn't make you a nerd, it just means you have lousy eyes." Nerd chic exists now, and you think people should blow it off? Some of us actually think, "FINALLY!" So the jocks and bullies decided to take the word and make it cool...AFTER I did that for myself? So...I should stop doing what I did first, because someone else is doing it now? No. I'm not giving them that victory now.
If you have a problem with the term, fine, don't use it. I use it on myself, because I embrace it, and I only use it for others if they embrace it. Words mean different things to different people, and if I choose to turn it from a derogatory remark to a badge of honor, then I will do so, just as I've done since the fifth grade.
Post Script:
I'm defending use of the term. I'm not interested in turning this thread into a who was bullied/who was a bully thing. I don't want or need any comments of reassurance about my childhood; it's over, it's behind me, I've moved on. My point is that WE DO KNOW WHAT THE WORDS MEAN. We've lived it. And some of us proudly own it, and for you to try and take that away just because you hate how it's currently fashionable seems just a little unreasonable.