What is the biggest age gap you would consider when dating someone?

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BrotherMike

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Age is just a number if you have great chemistry with them (not talking about the physical cause we all will get old and have wrinkles 😉)

However general ballpark 10 years younger, 10 years older.
 

Butterflyyy

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I have a few cougars trying to get their claws into me, I won't lie if I'm thinking about if they are wealthy or not. That's definitely one factor involved in big age gap relationships.
Hey Blackbeard I was thinking.... there's a problem with your reasoning🤔....the Bible says money has wings and it flys away... you have no guarantee she will remain wealthy......
 
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Hey Blackbeard I was thinking.... there's a problem with your reasoning🤔....the Bible says money has wings and it flys away... you have no guarantee she will remain wealthy......
Sure, there's really no guarantees in life except death and taxes lol but good point that is biblically supported I agree
 

Butterflyyy

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Sure, there's really no guarantees in life except death and taxes lol but good point that is biblically supported I agree
Well I'm hoping to be raptures before death😁👌but we better not go there lol... as for taxes I agree ugh
 

BenFTW

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I don’t believe in dating, I believe in destiny. Which destiny is really just God’s providence in your life. So when asking for a wife that you will love all the days of your life, and God provides, that is simply destiny now. I will be God’s providence in her life, and she too is God’s providence in my life.

As for age, it’s not so much an age gap as a time frame. Ever since I was in my late teens, the women I found attractive were around thirty years of age (give or take a couple years). So I’ve waited for God’s providence, knowing that I am in the sweet spot (I am now 29).
 

Butterflyyy

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I don’t believe in dating, I believe in destiny. Which destiny is really just God’s providence in your life. So when asking for a wife that you will love all the days of your life, and God provides, that is simply destiny now. I will be God’s providence in her life, and she too is God’s providence in my life.

As for age, it’s not so much an age gap as a time frame. Ever since I was in my late teens, the women I found attractive were around thirty years of age (give or take a couple years). So I’ve waited for God’s providence, knowing that I am in the sweet spot (I am now 29).
I know some lovely Christian women around your age who are waiting on the Lord....I will pray you find her in His time... God bless🙂
 

Deade

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I don’t believe in dating, I believe in destiny. Which destiny is really just God’s providence in your life. So when asking for a wife that you will love all the days of your life, and God provides, that is simply destiny now. I will be God’s providence in her life, and she too is God’s providence in my life.

As for age, it’s not so much an age gap as a time frame. Ever since I was in my late teens, the women I found attractive were around thirty years of age (give or take a couple years). So I’ve waited for God’s providence, knowing that I am in the sweet spot (I am now 29).
Oh my, I thought I was in the sweet spot, I am 73. But I won't date anyone over 100, you must draw the line somewhere. 1-shocked-smiley-gif.gif
 

Subhumanoidal

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10 younger or a few older. With a willingness to stretch a little if someone is special enough.
But also it seems that the older you get the less relevant a bigger age gap becomes.
Years back someone much younger than myself, and well past my 10 year limit, expressed interest. I was probably mid-30s and they 21. It just seemed 21 was so young, it was uncomfortable.
But at my current age going that roughly 14 year difference doesn't feel so drastic. Mid-30s dating a 21 year old seemed awkward. Mid-30s dating a 31 year old seems more feasible. So your current age can affect who falls into your levels of approval.
 

Subhumanoidal

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The ideal is of the same age or small age gap like 2-3 years. Because huge age difference becomes a problem as the couple gets older. One problem is that the energy levels don't match anymore. This problem is more common if the husband is much younger than the wife. It is less common if the husband is much older.
Doesn't seem like a real problem. Its rare I ever hear about this issue. People are commonly likely to pick someone with matching interests. People big into fitness will pick someone similar. People who are homebodies will pick someone similar. And on and on the various types.
Typically unless the age gap is a bit more extreme, or simply poorly matched from the start, this doesn't seem something you hear about often.
I've not dated anyone that close in age to me since I was a teenager. Yet it's never been a problem for me.
 

Tinkerbell725

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Doesn't seem like a real problem. Its rare I ever hear about this issue. People are commonly likely to pick someone with matching interests. People big into fitness will pick someone similar. People who are homebodies will pick someone similar. And on and on the various types.
Typically unless the age gap is a bit more extreme, or simply poorly matched from the start, this doesn't seem something you hear about often.
I've not dated anyone that close in age to me since I was a teenager. Yet it's never been a problem for me.

Maybe you are still young that you did not have that problem yet. The problem arises when the couple with huge age gap gets older and the other will have an affair because, the partner cannot keep up with the physical needs anymore.
 

Butterflyyy

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Maybe you are still young that you did not have that problem yet. The problem arises when the couple with huge age gap gets older and the other will have an affair because, the partner cannot keep up with the physical needs anymore.
Sorry Tink but, if someone is unable to keep up physically with their spouse it is not justification for having an affair x
 
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Just cause I'm bored, my wife is 40 and I'm 53.....the rule I heard that I'm sure is mentioned on one of these five pages of messages is to take your age, divide in two and then add 7. So for me that makes my low end 33....My 53 years in half = 26.5 + 7 = 33.5
 

Tinkerbell725

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Sorry Tink but, if someone is unable to keep up physically with their spouse it is not justification for having an affair x

Yes sadly it is their justification. It is one of the reasons why so many people divorce and they blame their spouse for their infidelity. It happens, that is why when people say age does not matter, I am not really sure. When you are not satisfied physically, the temptation to find someone else is strong.
 
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MegMarch

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Just cause I'm bored, my wife is 40 and I'm 53.....the rule I heard that I'm sure is mentioned on one of these five pages of messages is to take your age, divide in two and then add 7. So for me that makes my low end 33....My 53 years in half = 26.5 + 7 = 33.5
I’ve heard of this. I don’t think an age gap is generally a big deal with maybe the exception of kids. If one wants to have kids and the other is past that phase, maybe that’s a deal breaker?
 

BrotherMike

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I’ve heard of this. I don’t think an age gap is generally a big deal with maybe the exception of kids. If one wants to have kids and the other is past that phase, maybe that’s a deal breaker?
Definitely a deal breaker! That can cause a lot of arguments and frustration.
 

Dino246

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All frivolity aside (for a short moment!), I suspect that for most of us, age is less of a factor than faith and character, but it is still a factor.

Another factor that I have to deal with is distance. Most women who might otherwise be interested simply balk at having a long-distance relationship. I haven't met any local single ladies who are interesting, interested, and Christian.

We now return to our regularly-scheduled joking and fun-poking.
 
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Locoponydirtman

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I had to chime in even though I am happily married. I am glad I don't have to think about dating and such, because at my age it word be like trying to find the least broken thing in the dump then trying to wash it up and glue it back together. What's worse is that folks start loading up baggage at younger and younger ages.
If I found myself suddenly single I would just move out into the forest far from anywhere.