Okay, so one of my facebook friends (I don't know her very well, personally anymore), just broke up with her boyfriend because he wouldn't let her take their BABY to an adult party. On top of that, she's being ridiculously dramatic about it.
It made me think about how most people now, deal with relationships. She has a kid with this guy, and she freaks out because she's not allowed to take the baby to a party. That's a child, who now has parents who aren't together, for a petty dispute that —from what I know of this girl— was blown WAY out of the water.
There are other relationships like this. One dispute, and everything is done. One problem and they fall apart. My generation doesn't put things back together again, they find a shiny, new toy.
I didn't grow up in a generation that fixes things, but I was taught by the generation that did.
Yes, I've been divorced, but that was not until after he did some things I couldn't help him fix. I couldn't do anything else, he had to do it himself, because I had done everything I knew how to do, and I had a baby to protect from his abuse. That's beside the point.
Because I got divorced, a lot of people believed I didn't know how to hold on to a relationship. Maybe I don't. But I've held on to the one I have now, and believe me, I've been through a lot in the two years I've been married. I've grown a lot. But mostly, I've fought with him. I've yelled at him, I've blown up about things that probably didn't need to be blown up about. The point is, I've broken and so has he, and we fix it.
Maybe it's because, my whole life, I've taken on responsibility for everything, even if it wasn't mine; and I was always taught to be responsible for my actions, my stewardships, etc. So any time something went wrong, I felt like, in some way, it was my fault and I had to do something to fix it. In a way, it is my responsibility. My relationships are something I need to take care of as best I can, so if it gets broken, I'm going to fix it.
Then you throw kids in the mix and it just gets more essential to make stuff work as best you can. I can't help but feel sorry for this girl's kids, because her oldest is 2, and has had 3 or 4 different men in her life. Her baby just had her parents break up because of a party.
If you seriously believe that in your relationships, there will never be fights, your heart will never break over something, you'll never have to worry again, you're never going to disagree, you're never going to feel like they've done something totally wrong; you will never have a lasting relationship.
One of the biggest things that let's me know for sure, that I'm who I belong with; is that when I have bad spirits, they ALWAYS make me mad at him. They're ALWAYS pointing out something wrong with him. My bad spirits hate him. That's how I know the devil doesn't want us together. If the devil doesn't want us together, then we must be dangerous to him, together. Whether I hate him at the moment, or not, I will always fix all that I can.
Sorry, long rant, but it was on my mind, so I'm saying it.