Is it ever good to break up with someone over a text message?

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Susanna

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Many years ago the actor Sylvester Stallone broke up with a model writing a six page goodbye letter that he had shipped to her via FEDEX.
I think the irony is on the "EX".
Later, they got back together. And to this day they have been married more than 20 years.

No, I think a text breakup is quite frankly cowardly. If someone can face the person when the relationship was good, at least have the decency to face them when you want it to be over.
Lol... I think the “FED” part is hilarious irony wise😂.
 
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Susanna

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I never have broken up with Him over a text message. He never has sent me one that would make me want to break up with Him.
God doesn’t send an SMS. He is using a BBS (Burning Bush Service).
 

Mel85

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But if its face to face wouldnt you run the risk of being slapped because that is how some people feel about breakups like its a slap in the face.
Stop seeing me. Whack!
Well, if he slapped me then that’s a whole different situation.

I do understand that it’s a “big slap on the face” if things turned sour and didn’t work out, but here’s hoping that we’d be two grown adults able to have a civilised conversation.

Like I mentioned before in my previous post, different people have different preferences of communication. Mine happens to be face to face (given that he’s no real threat to me physically).
 

Lanolin

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Well, if he slapped me then that’s a whole different situation.

I do understand that it’s a “big slap on the face” if things turned sour and didn’t work out, but here’s hoping that we’d be two grown adults able to have a civilised conversation.

Like I mentioned before in my previous post, different people have different preferences of communication. Mine happens to be face to face (given that he’s no real threat to me physically).
Haha I dont think thats the case with a lot of people these days when things dont work out. The being civilised part I mean.

Also in Matthew ai think it says if you have adisgreement and they dont listen you meant to take another witness with you. And if they still dont listen you can then tell it to the church and then treat them as an unbeliever. Meaning basically you arent friends with them anymore.

Excommunication. Why ex, because this means you NO LONGER communicate with each other.
 
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Nope, nor is it ever good to ask them out in txt message (imo).

But everyone is different and have different methods of communication. My preference would be face to face.
Im okay with initial communication via text as an ice breaker or whatever, you most likely haven't built up a relationship with them at that point. If you're breaking up with someone, I'm assuming that this is someone you've spent time with and have some sort of relationship with, and in that case you should show them the respect of doing it face to face or at the very least with a phone call (depending on the length and depth of the relationship). People shouldn't be thrown away like trash, that's just another symptom of our throw away culture.

Or you can just do what the Amish do and tell her it's over after you drop her off at home in your horse and carriage :)
 

Mel85

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Im okay with initial communication via text as an ice breaker or whatever, you most likely haven't built up a relationship with them at that point. If you're breaking up with someone, I'm assuming that this is someone you've spent time with and have some sort of relationship with, and in that case you should show them the respect of doing it face to face or at the very least with a phone call (depending on the length and depth of the relationship). People shouldn't be thrown away like trash, that's just another symptom of our throw away culture.

Or you can just do what the Amish do and tell her it's over after you drop her off at home in your horse and carriage :)
Agree, it all depends on how long and invested I would be with the man - but out of respect I would prefer to do it in real time.

And I didn’t know that’s what the Amish do? I always thought they had arranged marriages via their parents.
 
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Agree, it all depends on how long and invested I would be with the man - but out of respect I would prefer to do it in real time.

And I didn’t know that’s what the Amish do? I always thought they had arranged marriages via their parents.
Amish youth date and find marriage partners during the youth period known as Rumspringa, or “running around”. Both parties are required to be members of the Amish church to be married.

Their courtship process is pretty endearing actually. During Rumspringa, relationships will start to develop SLOWLY and when it is clear a couple like each other, the man will ask to pick the woman up in his horse and buggy for events, and things will go from there.

https://amishamerica.com/when-do-amish-get-married/