I will never be in a relationship and it makes me sad
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How do u know what women really want? Perhaps u just havent met the woman who wants other things than those u wrote... Youre not asking, but personally, a bit of the first is fine, but i neither want any of the others=). You dont even need to live up to what others want! What should matter most is that you and she are God-fearing, seeking His kingdom and righteousness... and all the rest shall be added unto u.
Yes, ok. Then here's something for u:
Jeremiah 32 17Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee:
Yes, ok. Then here's something for u:
Jeremiah 32 17Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee:
Well I'm not sure whether to be nice or to just be stern and brutally direct with you. You have a perception problem (add that to your list of flaws and then move it to the top of things to work on if you want); and reality simply is not how you think it is. You also have an incredible amount of self-debasing pride. That's the kind of pride that won't let you believe anything good about yourself and believing you are way worse than you are is just as much pride as believing that you are way better than you actually are. And pride is just plain sinful and needs to be repented of (which means you bring your thoughts and opinions into alignment with God's not that you just add that to your list of things to feel bad about).
On the hopeful side though, I'm reminded of Jesus and the lame man at the pool of Bethesda (you can read the story for yourself in John 5). Guy's been there for decades. Then one day Jesus walks up and asks him "Do you want to get well?". The guy basically says, " I don't have anyone to help me get into the pool when its time, so that's never going to happen" Jesus just tells him to get up and walk. And the guy does.
Do you want to get well, regardless of how impossible that seems in your situation? Find something where God's telling you to get up and walk and do it. Personally I found it helpful when I was in a very negative frame of mind to enforce a discipline of thanksgiving on myself and find things to be thankful to God for (and if you've got enough to eat, a place indoors to sleep, and a change of clean clothes then you have something ( 3 somethings even) you can be thankful for).
On the hopeful side though, I'm reminded of Jesus and the lame man at the pool of Bethesda (you can read the story for yourself in John 5). Guy's been there for decades. Then one day Jesus walks up and asks him "Do you want to get well?". The guy basically says, " I don't have anyone to help me get into the pool when its time, so that's never going to happen" Jesus just tells him to get up and walk. And the guy does.
Do you want to get well, regardless of how impossible that seems in your situation? Find something where God's telling you to get up and walk and do it. Personally I found it helpful when I was in a very negative frame of mind to enforce a discipline of thanksgiving on myself and find things to be thankful to God for (and if you've got enough to eat, a place indoors to sleep, and a change of clean clothes then you have something ( 3 somethings even) you can be thankful for).
people see me all the time when i go out, i also had facebook with profile picture and several dating sites, and i posted my face on other websites. no woman ever "fall madly in love with me", even in threads where everyone got a comment (selfie thread) i got ignored. and i got several bad comments about my looks on internet. the worst comment was when one women told me that if she looked like me should would never go out.
yes and i am happy about god, but now we are talking about humans. why i care about what humans think about me is rather eazy, because i want to have friends and a wife just like many other wants. god can not force anyone to like me, it has to be people themself that have to accept me for who i am.
i am not negative like this all the time, everyone is complaining sometimes. girls with bad attitude have husbands, friends, boyfriends, how strange. it does not matter even if i have the best attitude possible, my flaws will still be there. go and read my first post again and be honest, why would anyone want a guy with that many and severe flaws? people feel ashamed to be with me, they dont want me with them, i am draging down their social status.
i tried everything to change my flaws, but nothing can be fixed.
meh, some say otherwise. you have not meet right one i think. we are all different and want different things.
well i am still not your brother, we are different persons, maybe i am even worse than him. i think you are being a little bit to critical of your brother, he can not be that bad if he has a gf. i meet people all the time, but nobody is intrested in a guy who is so ugly that they get repulsed by looking at me + i have no social skills so what do i have to offer? people should be with me because they feel sorry for me? nah.
i can not make a woman smile and laugh, i am boring and weird. and even if can do it it does not mean she wants to be friends or have me as a husband, there is other guys than me, almost all guys are better than me so why choice me.
hard to smile when i looked pissed off in a natural way, its how my face is, nothing i can change even thought i do smile alot.
women are shallow, almost all guys who are ugly, boring, geeks etc are alone and many of them will remain so. a guy with not much money, no cool clothes and non-attractive face and body will never be a liked as a guy with much money, cool clothtes and a hot body and face, thats a fact. why would a woman choose me when she choose a hot funny guy with 100s friends and much money? what i am saying is common sense.
i am not alone because of "attitude" but beccause i am very ugly and boring.
i am serious, there is zero good things with me. i am useless for others.
because i see and listen to what women say. and i look at couples in the street, i never say a guy with my flaws with a gf. sometimes someone who is almost as bad as me can have a gf but they are rich or famous and its 1 in thousand chance its happen so its pointless for me to have hopes to meet a woman. i can not be loved, its not possible for a woman to fall in love with me.
what woman want a guy who is poor, very ugly, boring as heck? i am introvert too btw. yeah a bit of the first, i can not live up to that, thats the problem. ofcouse i must live up to what others wants, why would they want someone they dont find intresting? woman do not marry guys just because the guy is god fearing, women also want guys to have deecent looks, good job, many friends, funny personality etc.
yes god can do anything that does not mean he will do anything, god could destoy hell and let everyone go to heaven, will he do that, nope. god do what he wants, he is in charge, i can ask him for a wife and friends, will he do it? perhaps no, perhaps yes. no where in the bible does it say that getting friends and a wife is some sort of "right" and that it will happen for everyone.
yes and i am happy about god, but now we are talking about humans. why i care about what humans think about me is rather eazy, because i want to have friends and a wife just like many other wants. god can not force anyone to like me, it has to be people themself that have to accept me for who i am.
i am not negative like this all the time, everyone is complaining sometimes. girls with bad attitude have husbands, friends, boyfriends, how strange. it does not matter even if i have the best attitude possible, my flaws will still be there. go and read my first post again and be honest, why would anyone want a guy with that many and severe flaws? people feel ashamed to be with me, they dont want me with them, i am draging down their social status.
i tried everything to change my flaws, but nothing can be fixed.
And being in a relationship is NOT all it's cracked up to be. I'm much happier being single. 
well i am still not your brother, we are different persons, maybe i am even worse than him. i think you are being a little bit to critical of your brother, he can not be that bad if he has a gf. i meet people all the time, but nobody is intrested in a guy who is so ugly that they get repulsed by looking at me + i have no social skills so what do i have to offer? people should be with me because they feel sorry for me? nah.
i can not make a woman smile and laugh, i am boring and weird. and even if can do it it does not mean she wants to be friends or have me as a husband, there is other guys than me, almost all guys are better than me so why choice me.
hard to smile when i looked pissed off in a natural way, its how my face is, nothing i can change even thought i do smile alot.
women are shallow, almost all guys who are ugly, boring, geeks etc are alone and many of them will remain so. a guy with not much money, no cool clothes and non-attractive face and body will never be a liked as a guy with much money, cool clothtes and a hot body and face, thats a fact. why would a woman choose me when she choose a hot funny guy with 100s friends and much money? what i am saying is common sense.
i am not alone because of "attitude" but beccause i am very ugly and boring.
i am serious, there is zero good things with me. i am useless for others.
because i see and listen to what women say. and i look at couples in the street, i never say a guy with my flaws with a gf. sometimes someone who is almost as bad as me can have a gf but they are rich or famous and its 1 in thousand chance its happen so its pointless for me to have hopes to meet a woman. i can not be loved, its not possible for a woman to fall in love with me.
what woman want a guy who is poor, very ugly, boring as heck? i am introvert too btw. yeah a bit of the first, i can not live up to that, thats the problem. ofcouse i must live up to what others wants, why would they want someone they dont find intresting? woman do not marry guys just because the guy is god fearing, women also want guys to have deecent looks, good job, many friends, funny personality etc.
yes god can do anything that does not mean he will do anything, god could destoy hell and let everyone go to heaven, will he do that, nope. god do what he wants, he is in charge, i can ask him for a wife and friends, will he do it? perhaps no, perhaps yes. no where in the bible does it say that getting friends and a wife is some sort of "right" and that it will happen for everyone.
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perception problem? no i dont. i know myself the best. my family confirms my belif, and so does other people. the fact that no woman has ever liked me even as a friend is another proof and also the fact that i have no friends irl and not had for a long time. i am not insane, this is reality 100 %. is this a forum? yes. are you a christian? yes. is the sun hot? yes. see, i am not insane, i know what is going on.
i can not work on my flaws, thats the reason why i am so negative, i am stuck with these flaws. does not matter how good self-esteem i have, my flaws will not go away. i already had great self-esteem for long time, i fooled myself that i was good, and guess what, nobody liked me.
jesus helps with a lot, but he will not change my face, body and make me smart and funny, god does not work like that and you know it and neither will he make someone like me, there is no support in the bible for this kind of stuff.
it doesent seem, it is. just like its impossible for me to fly to the moon.
Well shoot, I've been called ugly over the internet and I'm single too. Doesn't mean I should wallow in self-pity. Self-pity is self-centeredness, and none of us are called to be self-centered.
You're right; having a significant other is not a right. So stop acting like something is wrong because you don't have one; you're not being denied a right.
Live your life, stop being so self-centered, and stop abusing yourself. I would imagine that you wouldn't start a thread to list anyone else's flaws and insist that they have no good qualities, so why do that to yourself? You're being vicious to your own self. Be humane.
You're right; having a significant other is not a right. So stop acting like something is wrong because you don't have one; you're not being denied a right.
Live your life, stop being so self-centered, and stop abusing yourself. I would imagine that you wouldn't start a thread to list anyone else's flaws and insist that they have no good qualities, so why do that to yourself? You're being vicious to your own self. Be humane.
its just that it makes me sad to be this lonely and that i have to live like this my whole life....and see others having friends and relationships makes it even worse...i know 98 % or something have or will have friends, relationship...i am one of the few who will live alone my whole life....i have hard time accepting it. btw i have been called ugly many times not only on internet, and boring too i have been called.
and you are right just beccause i dont have a relationship it does not mean that something has to be wrong with me...but still there is something wrong with me....i cant even get friends.
and you are right just beccause i dont have a relationship it does not mean that something has to be wrong with me...but still there is something wrong with me....i cant even get friends.
Quote for the day: "It's alright to sit on your pity-pot once in a while. Just be sure you flush when you get up."
So jovanovic, we get it. You are determined to be depressed about yourself. Far be it from us to try to force you to be optimistic. It is time to cut the cable and let you sail on through your Sea of Despair. Bon voyage.
When you get tired of self pity we will be here, but right now there is nothing we can do for you. You are just too stubbornly clinging to your pity.
So jovanovic, we get it. You are determined to be depressed about yourself. Far be it from us to try to force you to be optimistic. It is time to cut the cable and let you sail on through your Sea of Despair. Bon voyage.
When you get tired of self pity we will be here, but right now there is nothing we can do for you. You are just too stubbornly clinging to your pity.