How to trust?
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Thanks. Please don't regret starting the thread; it's a really good topic for discussion, even if we're not discussing your particular situation. 
Most of us have been hurt in relationships. Trust is a complicated issue and despite the wishes of others at times, we don't simply "trust completely" or "not trust at all". Rather, it's a continuum. Our expectations of others should consider this.
Most of us have been hurt in relationships. Trust is a complicated issue and despite the wishes of others at times, we don't simply "trust completely" or "not trust at all". Rather, it's a continuum. Our expectations of others should consider this.
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Four months is neither long enough to give up on relationships nor is it long enough to say you don't know how to trust. Your nerves are still raw.
After you have settled down and it no longer hurts to think about the relationship you lost (or better yet, when you realize how lucky you are to be rid of that person) THEN you can decide whether you can still trust.
After you have settled down and it no longer hurts to think about the relationship you lost (or better yet, when you realize how lucky you are to be rid of that person) THEN you can decide whether you can still trust.
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You are very welcome, I do pray it helps.
If you need to talk, just leave the @BlessedByGod sign in the Chat Thread. Like I said, I do my best to get back to people in a timely fashion. Deeper questions usually take me longer, as I do want to make sure to have adequate time to answer well. With God all things are possible and with trusting people it is not always happiness and joy, sometimes we also find pain. But Time can heal all wounds, or time can wound all heals. But I truly believe it is worth it and we can only truly serve God if we trust in God first share his love with others.
May God Bless you and keep you close. 🙂
If you need to talk, just leave the @BlessedByGod sign in the Chat Thread. Like I said, I do my best to get back to people in a timely fashion. Deeper questions usually take me longer, as I do want to make sure to have adequate time to answer well. With God all things are possible and with trusting people it is not always happiness and joy, sometimes we also find pain. But Time can heal all wounds, or time can wound all heals. But I truly believe it is worth it and we can only truly serve God if we trust in God first share his love with others.
May God Bless you and keep you close. 🙂
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Four months is a blip if you were married for twenty years. On the other hand, if your relationship only lasted three weeks, your response to the breakup is out of proportion.
Regardless of the length of the relationship, the solution is to take your hurt to Jesus, invite Him into it, and ask His healing. Don't make any decisions regarding the future; it's just the wrong time to do that and any decision made in the midst of pain will be rash.
As Jesus brings you nearer to full healing, ask Him for two things: that He would give you wisdom and discernment so that you can trust appropriately, and that He would use your experience for His glory.
Regardless of the length of the relationship, the solution is to take your hurt to Jesus, invite Him into it, and ask His healing. Don't make any decisions regarding the future; it's just the wrong time to do that and any decision made in the midst of pain will be rash.
As Jesus brings you nearer to full healing, ask Him for two things: that He would give you wisdom and discernment so that you can trust appropriately, and that He would use your experience for His glory.
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Please remember that we don't know much at all about you, so it's unreasonable to expect completely relevant comments in response.
It may be prudent to consider surrendering the desire for having your own kids, but that is not the only "future" there is. My marriage ended when I was 43. Seven years later, I still have not re-married, and though I hope to, there are no prospects. However, I haven't given up, and probably wouldn't for another couple of decades.
It may be prudent to consider surrendering the desire for having your own kids, but that is not the only "future" there is. My marriage ended when I was 43. Seven years later, I still have not re-married, and though I hope to, there are no prospects. However, I haven't given up, and probably wouldn't for another couple of decades.
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Please remember that we don't know much at all about you, so it's unreasonable to expect completely relevant comments in response.
It may be prudent to consider surrendering the desire for having your own kids, but that is not the only "future" there is. My marriage ended when I was 43. Seven years later, I still have not re-married, and though I hope to, there are no prospects. However, I haven't given up, and probably wouldn't for another couple of decades.
It may be prudent to consider surrendering the desire for having your own kids, but that is not the only "future" there is. My marriage ended when I was 43. Seven years later, I still have not re-married, and though I hope to, there are no prospects. However, I haven't given up, and probably wouldn't for another couple of decades.
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Blacklilly that is a pretty name. Trusting people comes easy to some and hard for others, I am too trusting and have to be wary and learn discernment and it tends to make it where people take advantage of me.
Some people cannot seem to trust others at all but while that can be a good way to not get hurt by others it also secludes you from really knowing and forming a relationship.
They say love is a risk but a risk worth taking and I tend to agree. If you want to learn to trust people first focus on your trust in God, seeking him first in everything we do eventually makes everything else follow. He will form your heart in the way that no advice from others ever could, the issue you are dealing with is a matter of the heart and the only one who can change and mold a heart is God.
Some people cannot seem to trust others at all but while that can be a good way to not get hurt by others it also secludes you from really knowing and forming a relationship.
They say love is a risk but a risk worth taking and I tend to agree. If you want to learn to trust people first focus on your trust in God, seeking him first in everything we do eventually makes everything else follow. He will form your heart in the way that no advice from others ever could, the issue you are dealing with is a matter of the heart and the only one who can change and mold a heart is God.
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