How Long Has Everyone Here Been Single?

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How Long Has Everyone Here Been Single?

  • I have been single my whole life--I have never had a significant other.

    Votes: 37 26.4%
  • A few weeks.

    Votes: 4 2.9%
  • A few days to 3 months.

    Votes: 5 3.6%
  • Over 3 months to 6 months.

    Votes: 7 5.0%
  • Over 6 months to 9 months.

    Votes: 3 2.1%
  • Over 9 months to a year.

    Votes: 7 5.0%
  • Over a year to 2 years.

    Votes: 11 7.9%
  • Over 2 years to 4 years.

    Votes: 18 12.9%
  • Over 4 years to 6 years.

    Votes: 6 4.3%
  • Over 6 years to 8 years.

    Votes: 9 6.4%
  • Over 8 years to 10 years.

    Votes: 5 3.6%
  • Over 10 years.

    Votes: 5 3.6%
  • Over 10 years to 15 years.

    Votes: 6 4.3%
  • Over 15 to 20 years.

    Votes: 11 7.9%
  • I have been single for over 20 years.

    Votes: 12 8.6%
  • Other--I have something to explain in my post.

    Votes: 6 4.3%
  • My definition of being single is... (please share in your post.)

    Votes: 3 2.1%

  • Total voters
    140
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Practice-English

Guest
I'm single
and it's not evident
because my Family is not Christian
and for them it's not normal ETC...
 
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Bate

Guest
I hope singleness would be "having never been married";
Well, having never been in any intimate relationship too, can count.
So, it's been for the whole of my life lol! :)
 
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Jay-Dee

Guest
Maybe try dating someone you don't see yourself with:p who knows, something wonderful might come out of it.
 
May 3, 2013
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After the poll and the research...

[h=2]View Poll Results: How Long Has Everyone Here Been Single?[/h]Voters 218. This poll is closed

  • I have been single my whole life--I have never had a significant other.


    5525.23%
  • A few weeks.


    41.83%
  • A few days to 3 months.


    125.50%
  • Over 3 months to 6 months.


    125.50%
  • Over 6 months to 9 months.


    94.13%
  • Over 9 months to a year.


    104.59%
  • Over a year to 2 years.


    219.63%
  • Over 2 years to 4 years.


    2712.39%
  • Over 4 years to 6 years.


    135.96%
  • Over 6 years to 8 years.


    125.50%
  • Over 8 years to 10 years.


    62.75%
  • Over 10 years.


    62.75%
  • Over 10 years to 15 years.


    83.67%
  • Over 15 to 20 years.


    156.88%
  • I have been single for over 20 years.


    177.80%
  • Other--I have something to explain in my post.


    73.21%
  • My definition of being single is... (please share in your post.)


    41.83%



What actions are going to be taken to sort that out?
 
May 3, 2013
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I'm single
and it's not evident
because my Family is not Christian
and for them it's not normal ETC...
I hope you get concerned when you get 27 or 37. At those ages it is NOT normal (although I know several ppl who loved to stay with their mom or dad).

Christians or not in your family, they will help you jump out of that nest, little bird... I know it by experience:

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liverlover

Guest
feels like its been my whole life mann.
 
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skylove7

Guest
Since Reaganomics!

Lol...I'm kidding....I'm kidding :)
 
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setapartgirl

Guest
Hey everyone,

I was just curious about as to how long everyone here has been single.

For instance, someone who's been single for 6 months is in a different place than someone who's been single for 6 years. In the poll (which is anonymous), I included the category, "I've been single my whole life and have never had a significant other," because that's a little different from someone who's been single 20 years but was once married or in a long-term relationship.

I am also interested in everyone's definition of "single": I have known some people who identify as themselves as Christians and consider themselves to be single when they are non-married. In other words... they could be intimately involved with someone or living with someone, but they still consider themselves single.

I know others who casually "see" people (and know them intimately) but yet still insist they are single. I realize they are technically not married and I'm not sure what classification that would be, but for my own definitions, I don't view someone who is sleeping with another person as being "single."

I have even known some people who say they are Christians who are intimately involved with married people but claim they are single because it's the married person that's committing adultery, not them, since they are not married.

For me, "single" means not dating someone exclusively, not being married (as in, not just being separated but officially and legally divorced--I once saw a person describe herself as a "single married Christian", which had me scratching my head; but these are just my own beliefs), not being intimately involved with anyone for any reason, and not being in a relationship. I occasionally go on dates, but only a few times a year and nothing has ever lasted beyond a dinner conversation (except in one case, where we went out a few times, but he soon went back to his ex-girlfriend without mentioning anything to me--I found out through a friend.)

This spring, I will have been single for 10 years. I'm thinking I should probably celebrate somehow (the lessons God has taught me and the fact that He's been with me) but guess I have some time to plan.

What about the rest of you? What is your definition of "single" and how long have you been in that state?
Well i've been single for 4 years now... like techically, i just started looking around just this year, went online dating, meet 1 or 2 guys, but nothing progress, i don't know why, been inlove online and all, but when i say being together like as a couple, like really you both know you are together, technically its been 4 years and i think it will get longer hahaha, but as i read the comments here seems being single is not a bad idea after all, just you envy some couples sometimes and well the fear of growing old alone..,but hey i am just 28...right?!? Haha
 
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Pretty much since my spouse died around a decade ago. Single in pretty much all the major respects, excepting a single one night stand during that period - which I don't count as any major break in it.
 
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setapartgirl

Guest
Pretty much since my spouse died around a decade ago. Single in pretty much all the major respects, excepting a single one night stand during that period - which I don't count as any major break in it.

Its fine sir, atleast you experienced how to be loved and to loved, big respect for you!sometimes being single is fine.
 
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setapartgirl

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I hope you get concerned when you get 27 or 37. At those ages it is NOT normal (although I know several ppl who loved to stay with their mom or dad).

Christians or not in your family, they will help you jump out of that nest, little bird... I know it by experience:

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Awww im 28 and single...awwww im not normal then?!? Tick tock tick tock hahaha
 
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LiJo

Guest
I've been separated since 2009 but my divorce wasn't finalized until May 2014. I've just been focusing on God and my children and work......just this year I've been serving in a ministry.
 

melita916

Senior Member
Aug 12, 2011
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Apparently, I never posted here lol

Never married. I've only had one relationship. I've been single for 5 yrs.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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I wrote this poll in 2012 and it's interesting to see how many times it's been revived over the years... But seeing as the poll is closed (I never put a closing date on my polls--I'm guessing the system or mods chose to do this because of the age of the thread), I may have to rewrite this for our current crowd if interest persists.

(Just saw Shine's post.)

At the time I wrote this, we had a lot of younger members here who were posting that they were going through breakups, which is why I decided to include options with such short intervals of time.
 
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Stewart

Guest
Just saw this thread..intresting topic!!
 
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CaptainGoat

Guest
Me? Not long. Just since I was born.