How long did your first relationship last?
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I'm not a doctor but can tell you with certainty that it can only spread that way if one or both parties are at risk of spreading sexually transmitted diseases. It is best not to enter into such a relationship, disease not withstanding, but also because there will be serious trust issues. Without trust there is no foundation to build a relationship on.
My first was about 6 months. I learned that being overly possessive and insecure pushes women away. Who knew right? At that point what I took away from it is that you can't trust ANY woman at all with your heart ever. My mom took off when I was one, my step mother treated me as a second class irritation in my own home, then my first girlfriend "my first first", leaves me to go play the whore at the bars with her sister. Yep I can't lie, after that I didn't have a very high view of women after that, for a very short while. Then God sent me the woman that would become my wife right after her. So I wasn't able to hate women too long, even though it was kind of rough for her in the beginning. Now 23 years later we've been married almost 15 years.
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Other than the puppy luvs, my first relationship lasted 8 yrs and married 7. We divorced bc he wanted us to be free of responsibility. He had a change of heart later but I had remarried. Both hubbies are now in Heaven. My son's dad I booted out bc of drugs and is roaming around LAngeles.
Lesson, find someone who loves God more than you, then you second.
Lesson, find someone who loves God more than you, then you second.
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No, it would not be anyone's fault. As I have mentioned previously quite a few times, deciding to pursue a relationship that may lead to marriage is a calculated risk. Yes, in the instance you described this may indeed result in a broken heart.
This is my thought on deciding, after calculating the risk and weighing the pro's and cons, to pursue a relationship - nothing ventured nothing gained. I am a firm believer in the saying, 'better to have loved and lost than to never to love at all. That's how I roll 'em in regards to relationships. I will also add, once again, two main reasons for not pursuing a relationship are fear of rejection and fear of commitment.
The game of love is not for the feint of heart. That's just the way that it is.
This is my thought on deciding, after calculating the risk and weighing the pro's and cons, to pursue a relationship - nothing ventured nothing gained. I am a firm believer in the saying, 'better to have loved and lost than to never to love at all. That's how I roll 'em in regards to relationships. I will also add, once again, two main reasons for not pursuing a relationship are fear of rejection and fear of commitment.
The game of love is not for the feint of heart. That's just the way that it is.
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I remember the name but I don't remember the memories anymore 😁
What I do remember is... I was desperate,unwise and inexperienced about that thing called love 😅
What it taught me...
Always include God in everything and listen...I didn't ask Him from the very start and was very stubborn to listen.
Second, Make sure you both want the same thing because even if he thinks you are amazing,even if he keeps you around...even if he keeps on coming back to you... but he has no vision of where the relationship will go...let him go...because you, staying and waiting for him won't change his mind...
I am no saint I have had my fair share of flaws also but the red flags were too much to ignore already...I waited 5 years to finally end it (sighs*) didn't know that much 😁
One of my biggest flaws I communicate poorly . I was the master of silent treatment...I am still but I am trying to change slowly 😅
Thank God for giving me another chance and also for the lessons I learned from my past relationship. I'll do better 😊
What I do remember is... I was desperate,unwise and inexperienced about that thing called love 😅
What it taught me...
Always include God in everything and listen...I didn't ask Him from the very start and was very stubborn to listen.
Second, Make sure you both want the same thing because even if he thinks you are amazing,even if he keeps you around...even if he keeps on coming back to you... but he has no vision of where the relationship will go...let him go...because you, staying and waiting for him won't change his mind...
I am no saint I have had my fair share of flaws also but the red flags were too much to ignore already...I waited 5 years to finally end it (sighs*) didn't know that much 😁
One of my biggest flaws I communicate poorly . I was the master of silent treatment...I am still but I am trying to change slowly 😅
Thank God for giving me another chance and also for the lessons I learned from my past relationship. I'll do better 😊
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