Do you ever pray for your future husband or guys do you pray for your future wife?

[setapart]

its hard to believe that God has control but praying is the best thing one can do. I have been praying for a while and was ashamed of asking for someone and having standards. I use to think their must be other more important things we should pray for, but this is important so just pray God always listens.

 

[MahogonySnail]

They DON'T.
Marriages DON'T NEED LOTS OF MONEY, They need God & to pray together in order to have a healthy good relationship.
God will provide for them. Money can buy things but not happiness & a place with God.

I disagree - what do you buy things with, food, shelter? Money! Money is a need. So we can pray for it. Financial difficulties is one of the main reasons people get divorced. It makes no sense to me to be praying for that perfect future husband, without praying for a lot of money as well.

 

[NoTearsShed]

I disagree - what do you buy things with, food, shelter? Money! Money is a need. So we can pray for it. Financial difficulties is one of the main reasons people get divorced. It makes no sense to me to be praying for that perfect future husband, without praying for a lot of money as well.

No you DONT need

a lot of money as well.

People get divorced for many reasons NOT just money. people get tired of each other & so on, WHY do they get tired of each other because they are so busy with theyre own lifes & dont go to church or pray together.
If you dont have God in your marriage then for sure you are going to have MANY arguments/problems & might end up divorced. If you don't believe in God or don't have God in your relationship then of course you might not care to cheat on each other or to even get divorced.
Yes of course you can pray for money BUT You DONT Need LOTS of money. What YOU need is to pray and have faith in God, for him to give you ENOUGH NOT Just LOTS of money BUT ENOUGH to be able to pay the bills & for food or just enough.

You can have LOTS of money but whose to say that a lot of money wont be enough?

 

[MahogonySnail]

If God gives you a lot of money you will probably have enough that's why we can pray for it.

If you're praying for that perfect future husband why wouldn't you pray for a sound and good financial situation as well?

You do need lots of money eg it costs half a million to raise a child these days so they say on the news. Then you've got a house, car, living expenses etc etc.

 

[Pheonix]

In proverbs it talks on several occasions of finding a wife and numerous variations of such. My belief is this. instead of praying that God will bring us a spouse, perhaps we should pray that God will give us the wisdom to choose the proper spouse from among the numerous men/women that we run into every day. We should also pray instead that we will be ready for that person when we find them and are capable of being the spouse that person deserves. Remember, our spouse is also our brother/sister in Christ.

We must answer to God for the way we treat our brother/sister when we arrive in heaven. So instead of praying for a wife/husband, pray that God will work to help us become ready for that responsibility.

 

[MahogonySnail]

We could pray for enough money to be able to buy one.

 

[Liz01]

If God gives you a lot of money you will probably have enough that's why we can pray for it.
If you're praying for that perfect future husband why wouldn't you pray for a sound and good financial situation as well?
You do need lots of money eg it costs half a million to raise a child these days so they say on the news. Then you've got a house, car, living expenses etc etc.

I agree with that God gives us all the things, but I think that we must focus on Him and not in our future financial situation as in Luke 12:29-31 says :

"And do not set your heart on what you will eat or drink; do not worry about it. For the pagan world runs after all such things, and your Father knows that you need them. But seek his kingdom, and these things will be given to you as well."

 

[Pheonix]

We could pray for enough money to be able to buy one.

I hope you aren't suggesting what it seems like. Never mind the fact that human trafficking is illegal, that is a bad way to start a marriage.

 

[MahogonySnail]

There are places where you can buy wives. It is nothing in some countries.

 

[Wug]

When my friend was in Iraq, he said that many Iraqi men were shocked that he was single considering that he made almost $1000 a month. Because over there, you can buy a wife for much less than that. He said there were wives for sale for less than $100. He explained to the Iraqi men "American wives cost over $10,000, and that's just the down payment. After that you have to pay for upkeep."

I don't think you need money to have a good marriage, you just have to be financially wise. There are many married couples living in poverty that are doing just fine marriage wise. There are even more that are not, but it's not because of their poverty, it's because of their folly. If a man (or woman) is foolish with money, they're most likely foolish in other areas of their life.

I don't think it's unwise, however, to pray for financial security when entering marriage. Just like I would pray for my wife's health. Our marriage could be just fine if she gets ill, but I still want her to be healthy.


"for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health"

 

[setapart]

wow. sometimes you can be thinking about one thing and it leads away when you realize how others interpret. thank for your thoughts.

 

[setapart]

In proverbs it talks on several occasions of finding a wife and numerous variations of such. My belief is this. instead of praying that God will bring us a spouse, perhaps we should pray that God will give us the wisdom to choose the proper spouse from among the numerous men/women that we run into every day. We should also pray instead that we will be ready for that person when we find them and are capable of being the spouse that person deserves. Remember, our spouse is also our brother/sister in Christ.

We must answer to God for the way we treat our brother/sister when we arrive in heaven. So instead of praying for a wife/husband, pray that God will work to help us become ready for that responsibility.

thanks! i agree with you, have you ever been hurt by anyone, i've dated christian guys, and what i mean by a christian guy is a man devoted to God it always seems right at first. You think they would be different because they love God as much as you do or appear to love him more than you, but then it hits you, no their the same as everyone out there! nothing is special about them, they live a lye and bring you into it. sometimes you can be ready but the other person isnt. wisdom, sometimes you are being wise but that won't prevent you from getting hurt.

 

[living2love]

Evening all I hate to jump into someones conversation however, Ya'll might want to hear this.
After a 17year mishap and in the middle of a nasty devorice, I would stop by a church and pray (on the steps at midnight working seconds ) And almost 25years of being away from the Lord I rededicated my life to him. Well one of my worst nights I had been on those steps close to an hour, asking the Lord to help in all my pain. At 1:00am I heard a door shut from in side, quikly I tryed to dry my eyes and head for my truck when the Preacher stepped out and said "Buddy can I help you"? Well I gave that man everthing but sleep, after talking till three, I assured him I'd be in that church Sunday, and was. After meeting all and being welcomed in I found myself there every chance I got. (By the way the preacher gave me a door key that Sunday so I could use the Alter anytime.) Well on my third Sunday there the preacher's wife got up and sang. I bowed my head listening to her grace, reverance and willingness to lay her life down for the Lord. And I said, "Lord if and when I ever remarry please send me one that loves you like her."
Now I've heard people say they "heard" God, but let me tell you he was sitting right beside me. I heard "Son be patient". And I was , often lonely,often confused, but patient. Never ever seeking or looking for myown but waiting on the Lord. Eight months after my first sunday there The guy calling himself Preacher stood and announced he'd been haveing an affair and would be leaveing the church.Very Gracefully his wife sit with her head down in hurt and fear of where to turn. They had moved here from Ill.and she had nowhere to turn. Now 24months into my new Christain walk, I have an Angel to walk with. So don't EVER think he's not listening or it does no good, because he is. BTW the little church I go to. My decessed Father founded in 1968. And those people had no idea until almost six months of me attending.Sorry so long but I can tell that ten times a day!! PTL

 

[Jennifleur]

Wow, that is an awesome testimony, living2love. Thank you so much for sharing; it is an encouragement to see God answer prayers. My prayer recently hasn't been so much for God to bring a guy into my life, but to mold me and work on me so that when He finally does bring that person into my life, I will be prepared to be the kind of wife I should be, a godly wife. Beyond that, my prayer is for God to bring someone to me who loves Him more than anything, and who will challenge me in my faith, while loving me the way that a man should love a wife - the way that Christ loves the Church. I know that the person I marry will not be perfect, but with God at the center of His life, that is a great starting point. I hope to start with a friendship, because I feel the best relationships start there, and I have asked God to allow it to start with a friendship for me. I feel you get to know the other person more naturally that way, no pressure to pretend to be what you are not. And when things get rough as you are dating or married, the friendship you have helps to get you through it.

But, I truly believe it's more important to pray that I be a godly wife, and ask God to mold me, and allow Him to give me wisdom for making decisions.

 

[calvina]

im praying that GOD will bless me and my hubby to be...

 

[nobadee]

I was just wondering if you prayed for your future husband and if you guys pray for your future wife.... Like I pray that my husband is a man after God's heart and just trusting in Christ in everything.... and like I also am praying that he is praying me... and I hope when he mets me it is not becuase of the way i look but rather.... 9I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. 1 Timothy 2:9-13 I hope he can see Christ in me first then my beauty second( not trying to get a big head and saying i am pretty do not get the wrong idea) And i also hope that when he is praying he can see that i am a proverbs 31:30 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. person

just wondering if you prayed about your future husband or wife

Nope; matter of fact, I don't really put much thought or effort into it. I've bumped into a lot of incredible people in my life just by chance or maybe it was orchestrated by God; but, I didn't plan on it or expect it. I just let things happen in my life as they are meant to happen. I live so worry free it makes most people sick.

 

[CatWoman]

I once prayed for a man. I wanted him tall, dark hair and glasses. Cause I think glasses are sexy. I did meet him and we dated. The only thing is I forgot to ask for a man that was single. And from that experience I never prayed for a man again.

 

[QuestionTime]

its hard to believe that God has control but praying is the best thing one can do. I have been praying for a while and was ashamed of asking for someone and having standards. I use to think their must be other more important things we should pray for, but this is important so just pray God always listens.

I used to pray for my future husband... I mean wife... but now I realize that I need to pray for me instead, that I will be someone worthy of a godly woman.

I assure you SetAPart (I like that nickname) that if your focus lies where mine does, potential mates will start seeking after you.

Quest

 

[QuestionTime]

I once prayed for a man. I wanted him tall, dark hair and glasses. Cause I think glasses are sexy. I did meet him and we dated. The only thing is I forgot to ask for a man that was single. And from that experience I never prayed for a man again.

Quest

 

[Narn]

I have prayed for that someone I know that she is out there. I really need to pray for her more especially knowing that one day she will have to deal with me.
I don't pray for what I want her to look like I know that she will be a fine and good Christian lady.