Dating Apps & Websites - Yay or Nay ?

[Sculpt]

1. Yep- match and marriage. Been married for 11 years and have 2 kids.

So yes it can be done. Met a lot of creeps on there as well. I believe my husband and I had a 60% compatability rate or something very low. 😆

My friend talked me into it. She met her guy online (they're married now for about the same about as me.) I went on to try it out and"just for fun." Didn't expect anything to happen with it.

Great! Which date site did you, and your friend, use?

 

[Sculpt]

We’ve all known people or experienced it ourselves on what it’s like to use a Dating App or website, whether it’s Christian based or not.

I would like to know or hear of any first hand experiences or if you want to share of any that you know of which resulted in:

1. A successful match and marriage
2. A failed match and bad experience
3. Any other experience

Additionally, is this new form of dating a good thing for us a Christians and what advice would you bring or suggest if others are considering trying it out.

Thanks in advance!

Many years ago I tried about 4-5 dating sites.

Regarding eharmony, i appreciated the matching folks who are alike. However, at the time, they wanted you to go through the long messaging Q&A back and forth. That was not worthwhile to me because I found both of us got tired of this and stopped communicating.

I also found some women who, apparently, just wanted a penpal, but wasnt going to say so.

So, I would suggest to everyone, if you find someone you like, just ask them out immediately -- for a drink or coffee or dinner or an activity. Because some, for whatever reason, won't meet you in real life. So don't waste your time being a "penpal". They dont want to meet, move on.

That they may never want to meet you is a good enough reason to stop messaging. But besides that, I personally don't think you can know if you're a match until you meet.

I went on quite a few dates. Nothing worked out... but that had nothing to do with the website.

 

[Sculpt]

I hate them.

* All the nice Christian girls ignore you unless they're interested. If a woman messaged me and I was not interested -- which was every time, BTW -- I would respond politely, just to acknowledge her reaching out to me. It's rude not to respond -- unless your spidey senses are tingling with an individual in question.

* It's amazing to me how many Christian women look for younger men on those things, sometimes by 10 years. I'm going to estimate about 25% of them. And they judge us men???

* I tried about a dozen sites, some more than once. From the cheap free ones all the way up to the now laughable eHarmony. Nada. Niente. No dice. No responses. I didn't write lude messages. I wrote nice messages expressing an interest and a desire to chat.

I did have one woman respond to me, and we met. We agreed it would platonic only, however. Okay, well that's fine. Just sitting across from a female at a restaurant to talk would be a nice change of pace from my predominantly male social life.

Regarding not getting responses - and giving responses...

Some people literally don't have time to reply to everyone. Therefore, if you don't get a reply, don't take it personally. Some don't check it regularly, or they only have time to reply to dates they can/will do. It's like sending out resumes... you aren't going to get 100% replies, so dont expect it.

I started out replying nicely to every inquiry... until I started spending my entire allotted time replying nicely. I didn't have time to look and contact peeps I would actually date. I'm sure the obvious snooty response would be "If you don't have time to reply to every inquiry than you shouldn't be on the site!" It's a nice perfect world judgmental thought, just not applicable to reality.

Regarding older women contacting me...
... and older/younger whatever... just my take: I just don't care. I'm never, never, never insulted by an inquiry. I'll contact older or younger, or whatever anyone thinks is too old or too young... I don't care what others think about that; I handle case-by-case.

Regarding "desire to chat"...
Some peeps are interested in chatting, or consider that a bad sign, cause some peeps don't want to meet. So that may be why you didn't get some replies.

 

[Sculpt]

I've been on a few so-called "Christian dating websites" in the past (not recently), but, even then, I chose the options which said that I was looking for a "friend" or "activity partner".

Why'd you do that (looking for a "friend" or "activity partner")? You didn't want to find a mate? Or for some other reason?

 

[Live4Him3]

Why'd you do that (looking for a "friend" or "activity partner")? You didn't want to find a mate? Or for some other reason?

In all honesty, I believe that friendship is foundational to any real relationship. I'm perfectly okay with being in the dreaded "friend zone", and, in fact, I prefer it because it takes all of the pressure off of both parties. If something develops out of that, then great. If not, then great, too.

 

[cinder]

Well for a very brief time I thought maybe I should give online dating a try. But it was expensive, I wasn't really that interested in finding someone immediately, there are plenty of horror stories out there, and I got really stuck when trying to write up the what I'm looking for in a guy or what kind of guy would make a good match for me for my profile...... so that never happened and I got a dog instead and yes I tell the dog I love her multiple times a day and she makes sure I get out for walks and playtime more so it seems to be a good match so far (and committing to her for the rest of her life isn't as big of a commitment).

 

[tourist]

If I recall, all of west auckland was bought for some dry goods and a yacht. (a schooner)

Good trade eh

Manhattan was bought from the Native American Indians for $24 of worthless beads.

 

[Lynx]

Manhattan was bought from the Native American Indians for $24 of worthless beads.

Yeah but have you seen what we did with the place? I sure wouldn't want to live there...

 

[Robertt]

1. A successful match and marriage

my Third Wife i met on line dating site. married for 10 yrs longest of all my marriages. But ended the same

3. Any other experience

lots of one nighters. and two nighters.

Additionally, is this new form of dating a good thing for us a Christians and what advice would you bring or suggest if others are considering trying it out.

Thanks in advance!

Hardly a new form. dating websites been around almost as long as porn websites lol and some do both activities so be careful.

 

[Lanolin]

Manhattan was bought from the Native American Indians for $24 of worthless beads.

yea thats the thing
dont think land should ever be bought or sold like a commodity
it ought to be gifted

Did the Israelites have to BUY their land off the Canaanites. No, God gifted it to them, No He just divided the land up as an inheritance. The only time they ever bought land was for their burial plots.

 

[tourist]

yea thats the thing
dont think land should ever be bought or sold like a commodity
it ought to be gifted

Did the Israelites have to BUY their land off the Canaanites. No, God gifted it to them, No He just divided the land up as an inheritance. The only time they ever bought land was for their burial plots.

Actually, God killed off the previous inhabitants. There are commodities and then there is real estate. The supply of certain commodities may rise or fall but the amount of real estate is finite.

 

[Lanolin]

Actually, God killed off the previous inhabitants. There are commodities and then there is real estate. The supply of certain commodities may rise or fall but the amount of real estate is finite.

not talking about killing people off I am talking about the actual land being GIFTED

not bought or sold

it was to be an inheritance in perpetuity
but the Isrealites were not that great in looking after it once they had it though.

 

[Lanolin]

If you have a gift you treasure it right? You keep it and you make use of it.

If you bought it yourself you could just sell it again for more money, because you dont actually value it.

 

[Lanolin]

I think likewise with people, we dont or try not to treat people as commodiities to be bought or sold, but for centuries brides had been bought or sold off to be married in just this way.

 

[Lanolin]

Thing is a virtuous woman has a price far above rubies, no man can afford her if they tried to buy her