Date or court?

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
tourist

tourist

Senior Member
#41
Mar 13, 2014
42,569
17,032
113
69
Tennessee
#41
TabinRivCA said:
I wouldn't make it complicated, just step out in faith and get on with it. Of course getting to know them through Christian sites first goes without saying. Btw you mentioned you like the goodies your ma made in another Thread well have you noticed there's some ladies around here who specialize in cooking sweets? 🙏👩‍🍳 (ok, what are you waiting for then?😂)
Click to expand...
I like your style. :)
 
T

Talljake

Well-known member
#43
Jul 17, 2022
2,249
1,200
113
36
#43
TabinRivCA said:
You're right, thinking of yourself as shy, will only stop you from progress, and it's not a word used in the KJV. Try this on instead, 'be a confident man in the Lord' 👍
Click to expand...
Yes amen❤️
 
melita916

melita916

Senior Member
#44
Aug 12, 2011
10,464
2,692
113
#44
My husband says our daughter isn’t dating until she’s 30. We’ll see how that goes 😂
 
G

Gojira

Guest
#45
#45
Talljake said:
Hi everyone 🙂

I have a question for you all. So let's say you found someone your interested in. You would like to get to know them, find out who they are and see if they have faith.

You finally muster up the courage to ask them out do you

A) ask them to go out on a date, witch most likely means just the two of you?

Or

B) ask them to court then witch most likely indicates there being a third party with you?

Like I have said before, there is no one that I'm currently trying to see. Yes I do believe the lord is who chooses who we are to be with if he chooses us to marry. This is just to see where people stand in their opinion. Please don't turn this into an arguing situation. This is just a question of me wondering.

Thank you for your response in advance
God bless❤️
Click to expand...
Hmm... good question.

Ya know, in the OT, I'm not sure there was even such a thing as dating. I think they just married! Does anyone know more about this to correct me if I'm wrong?

I think they decided if a person was decent and worthy as a spouse, they would then pursue marriage with them.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

Well-known member
#47
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,188
113
#47
How about both. A court date. Someone needs to act as judge and serve a summons. We can all be the jury on CC.
 
K

Karlon

Well-known member
#48
Mar 8, 2023
2,539
1,140
113
#48
Talljake said:
Hi everyone 🙂

I have a question for you all. So let's say you found someone your interested in. You would like to get to know them, find out who they are and see if they have faith.

You finally muster up the courage to ask them out do you

A) ask them to go out on a date, witch most likely means just the two of you?

Or

B) ask them to court then witch most likely indicates there being a third party with you?

Like I have said before, there is no one that I'm currently trying to see. Yes I do believe the lord is who chooses who we are to be with if he chooses us to marry. This is just to see where people stand in their opinion. Please don't turn this into an arguing situation. This is just a question of me wondering.

Thank you for your response in advance
God bless❤️
Click to expand...
now-a-days, neither! if i was interested in knowing a woman i would ask if she would like a conversation, most likely about the Bible at a fine classy establishment. i would choose a coffee shop, snacks too. remember, this is not a date. another title would be "a get together".
 
victoriangent1961

victoriangent1961

Member
#49
Sep 14, 2021
40
38
18
#49
In the OT, most marriages were arranged by parents. Except for in the case of Jacob, he had to work for 14 years to acquire the wife he wanted. I might have given up after the 1st month and moved on.
I may be old school, but to me, a date is getting to a person by spending time over coffee or a meal. To some, a date has to be specific mentioned as a date, or the time is only getting to know the other person to see if they are compatible for dating. Courtship, to me was going steady or being in a relationship with someone. This does not mean however, that there is a commitment for marriage. Courtship is a learning process to determine if they are the right person to marry without lowering standards. They say the average relationship is 2-3 years before discussing marriage. A lot depends also on the age.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

Well-known member
#50
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,188
113
#50
Build a little playhouse on your playdate. Start young, maybe from age 3 and you be ready by age 12.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.