Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?
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And get wisdom about marriage because if you act thoughtlessly and without counsel from your church leaders and first without asking God, there won’t be marriage for long. It will be a burden and bad things can happen, i suggest first grow your relationship with God here is a plan too
I'm reading the @YouVersion plan 'Getting Closer To God'. Check it out here:
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/11004
I'm reading the @YouVersion plan 'Getting Closer To God'. Check it out here:
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/11004
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brother get to know Christ more, don’t look at yourself like this, try and get help from God, just talk to Him. As you would to your closest relationships. And read scriptuee and try get help from your brothers and sisters. in Sites like needHim,chatnow,chataboutJesus. But if you have a true Church that you can go please make sure to go. God loves you brother, read scripture and now that the hills may move mountains may disappear but His faithful love for you will remain. God loves you. True love and He is perfectly loving you, unconditionally regardless of how you see yourself or who you are, and no one nor anything no power of hell no fear no worry nothing can separate your from God’s love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord, you are valuable. Your life is precious to God, and ask God for help, tell Him about everything Mark 9:23 the man here told God that he believes but also asked for help against his unbelief, God is there to help, and He is willing to help you. God loves you brother, He sees you, calm down, He knows you, you struggle struggle and struggle but He can help. Trust Him.
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yep that's right and also having a gf/wife seems to also give you what I sense you do not get from interactions with other people in life on a whole.
Having a gf/wife would mean you would be accepted,valued,would have emotional intimacy,social interaction,a kind of reason to live,Loneliness will be no more,You would have somebody who expresses care towards you,someone to make you feel validated,'understood and so much more...which judging by your previous comments here...these are things you are not experiencing in life on general...right?
So part of the desperate desires you have is seeking forfillment via a partner which life hasnt actually give you.
Tell me..have you been emotionally wounded by life?Have you felt like a loner...undervalued,rejected perhaps?
Yes or no??
Dreaming of a dream girl is actually a fantasy based projection of your need to be loved,give love and also to feel loved..iam sure you gain much pleasure from day dreams and fantasy of how she will be with you..it must warm your soul.
Yet in real life she doesn't actually exist in the way that you imagine..
It seems that your desire for someone is mixed with a deeper desire to be loved,feel loved and to be able to love back..
How to calm down these passions?
The 1st thing is to break those patterns of deceptive thinking that's fuelling the idolic perspective you have about her and allowing God to heal you of any deep wounds you have ...and ask God to help you develop a realistic mindset of how females actually ARE.
As you are enjoying daydreams about the dream girl which is actually making the 'idea' of her more important to your lifes foundation than God himself....God could say...you foolish man.....tonight I am taking your life back..
The question would be this...what would you say to God when he reveals the deceptive thought life you had and didnt even know it and it was blinding you with deceitful desires to the fact that there is No dream girl like that in real life and that you were worshipping an image you created in your own heart because all you really wanted was to be loved...
It would shatter your mindset and you would realise how blinded you had become.
God looks at what drives our longings and he knows the real root to all this.
So having the right mindset is the key for overcoming these intense passions..
Having a gf/wife would mean you would be accepted,valued,would have emotional intimacy,social interaction,a kind of reason to live,Loneliness will be no more,You would have somebody who expresses care towards you,someone to make you feel validated,'understood and so much more...which judging by your previous comments here...these are things you are not experiencing in life on general...right?
So part of the desperate desires you have is seeking forfillment via a partner which life hasnt actually give you.
Tell me..have you been emotionally wounded by life?Have you felt like a loner...undervalued,rejected perhaps?
Yes or no??
Dreaming of a dream girl is actually a fantasy based projection of your need to be loved,give love and also to feel loved..iam sure you gain much pleasure from day dreams and fantasy of how she will be with you..it must warm your soul.
Yet in real life she doesn't actually exist in the way that you imagine..
It seems that your desire for someone is mixed with a deeper desire to be loved,feel loved and to be able to love back..
How to calm down these passions?
The 1st thing is to break those patterns of deceptive thinking that's fuelling the idolic perspective you have about her and allowing God to heal you of any deep wounds you have ...and ask God to help you develop a realistic mindset of how females actually ARE.
As you are enjoying daydreams about the dream girl which is actually making the 'idea' of her more important to your lifes foundation than God himself....God could say...you foolish man.....tonight I am taking your life back..
The question would be this...what would you say to God when he reveals the deceptive thought life you had and didnt even know it and it was blinding you with deceitful desires to the fact that there is No dream girl like that in real life and that you were worshipping an image you created in your own heart because all you really wanted was to be loved...
It would shatter your mindset and you would realise how blinded you had become.
God looks at what drives our longings and he knows the real root to all this.
So having the right mindset is the key for overcoming these intense passions..
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Pursue other passions? Focus on building a better me, making yourself more marketable to the opposite sex, and when you reached a point where you are doing really well for yourself, woman will be knocking on your door. At that point, you will probably have a do not disturb sign on your door.
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there’s some solid advice here. Read through it and apply it. Take a cold shower while you’re at it. Go take a jog to calm yourself down. Stop thinking about what you don’t have. Appreciate what you do have. God could give you terminal cancer at any time, and then you would realize you have wasted time. Every day is precious. Look we all want the best for you. No one is your enemy here. But you have to want to try to help yourself. Instead of obsessing about a fantasy. Reality is never as good as fantasy. Many of us speak from real life experiences of being married, having been married, having been in difficult relationships with the opposite sex. Just quiet your mind and listen to the wisdom that is here.
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Thank you for clarifying 
I am lusting after shoes right now
Something like this would do
I am lusting after shoes right now
Something like this would do
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Are you sure that's the right color for you?
Because colors on monitors can be so different from the real thing
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All three of those can be changed... I was getting a bit chubby, but I started biking to my job. I know a few people who used to be jerks until they learned how much nicer life is if they do it a different way. As for drinking, that's an easy way to run away from life. If you start meeting life head-on you won't need drinking.
About not going to church because you don't feel like it... I can't help you there. I do a lot of things I don't feel like doing, but I do them anyway because I value the effects they have. If I didn't do stuff just because I didn't feel like it, my life would be a lot worse.
Maybe that's why you need alcohol. Maybe if you started doing stuff even when you didn't feel like it, your life would be good enough that you wouldn't want to run away from it.
About not going to church because you don't feel like it... I can't help you there. I do a lot of things I don't feel like doing, but I do them anyway because I value the effects they have. If I didn't do stuff just because I didn't feel like it, my life would be a lot worse.
Maybe that's why you need alcohol. Maybe if you started doing stuff even when you didn't feel like it, your life would be good enough that you wouldn't want to run away from it.
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Exactly and i bet the fantasy and idolising of the 'idea' of a female is also coming out partly from having his own desires meet within the projection of these daydreams and longings ect and nothing to do with how he would actually treat a female in real life.Most fantasies ect and projections of fulfilling just what we want for ourselves and nothing more...They are self forfilling mental images tailor made to suit our own needs and nothing more.
This thread does highlight one aspect of singleness that isnt often discussed...'How to deal with the constant yearning be have someone special so they one can experience all the things associated with having someone such as romance,emotional intimacy,having someone special in you life that makes ones life kind of come alive with a specialness that only having someone can only bring?
Some people are just dying to be hugged...
.be told they are lovely...would do anything to just have someone miss them..find them attractive ect...Some people are really struggling also with sexual desires,temptations and all sorts and feel almost tormented by such things...
These things do happen for many single Christian's at times...some more than others..
Food for thought 🤔👍🏻
This thread does highlight one aspect of singleness that isnt often discussed...'How to deal with the constant yearning be have someone special so they one can experience all the things associated with having someone such as romance,emotional intimacy,having someone special in you life that makes ones life kind of come alive with a specialness that only having someone can only bring?
Some people are just dying to be hugged...
.be told they are lovely...would do anything to just have someone miss them..find them attractive ect...Some people are really struggling also with sexual desires,temptations and all sorts and feel almost tormented by such things...
These things do happen for many single Christian's at times...some more than others..
Food for thought 🤔👍🏻
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