Oh my gosh, this is so funny. So inorder for a woman to get a husband, she must pursue him, and when he graciously agrees to marry her, she must forget about any hopes or dreams she has and have only one ambition and that is to wait on him. This really is your idea of a perfect marriage/wife?
Well done to your son! At least he was mature enough to go against mommy's wishes and get married to the "overweight" woman who you didnt approve of. Well done indeed👍🏾💯
Well done to the beautiful blonde as well 💯. He never said why they broke up? Let me tell you why. Your son may be tall, good looking bla bla bla but Ms Blond wanted a little more in a man than just looks. Well done👍🏾
It's good to know that we have a prophet on the forum (or one who reads cards?) who can tell why one person she doesn't know breaks up with another person she doesn't know. And does so in an accusatory, snippety way to boot. Mighty Christian of ya.
No. I didn't say any of that. You did. Their relationship worked for THEM. She didn't give up her dreams - he supported her while she pursued her art career and is now joining with someone else to open some store. I pointed out that the gorgeous blonde who he dated was self-centered and the "beautiful people" aren't always the ones with the right
spirit who make the best mate. My son didn't "graciously agree" to marry his wife - she showed him L-O-V-E and it was expressed in A-C-T-I-O-N. Many young women today - western women - would likely look down on that kind of giving love. She won him over with love.
It's touched on in Peter 3:3: "
let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible,
even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price."
I think it takes wisdom and strength of character when society teaches you that you should have the trophy husband or trophy wife and you thumb your nose at them and your
friends and marry the girl who your friends put you down for. (And be honest: we know when someone rates high on the desirability score but people lie about it when it's locked within the secrets of their hearts)
I'll point out that my son wasn't the sought after class President, captain of the football team, voted Most Likely to Succeed. He wasn't the type that all the girls would flock to because they thought he was going to be the next head of Comcast and their futures would be all set. Which shows that some shallow people go after others only because they're politically connected and not even because they're physically attracted to them. A lot of weird stuff like that goes on - where people learn to bury their real feelings early on.
If we're honest we know that in high school it's all about dating the best looking, the best connected, the class President. The most likely to succeed.
Christians like to act like they eschew all that but I've found most churches are just as bad as the world with their popularity contests. I was never a politicker nor was my husband and nor were any of our children. I'll also add that my son and his wife don't attend church but they live more a "Christian" walk than most people in high positions in the church hierarchy. They did completely free work for an older man with cancer, and constantly give breaks to people down on their luck - even though they themselves aren't doing great financially. All the people I used to hold in high esteem and who I thought were these great Christians really weren't. And many things they do which look good - and when for college - they do it to look good on paper - they don't do it out of the goodness of their hearts.
It took years of seeing the inside of churches and how they work to see that they really aren't much different than the world.
So Ma'am let's see how well you do and how well your kids turn out navigating this screwed up world and screwed up church and all the wrong messages sent to them and you as you struggle to get through it.
And let's not forget all the self-appointed social justice warriors just looking to put you down for some perceived wrong they think you've committed who want to pound you into the ground for that you encounter on Christian forums...
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