Awe, your own sin nature causing you to reject what is good for you and be attracted to what is not good for you. Maybe puck one of the good guys that teject porn and be happy with him instead of letting your addiction to "fem porn" run you. Fem porn is the stupid dime store romance clap trap that is so pervasive in the messaging to women.
I'm not sure if you are responding to me specifically or women as a whole, but for myself, I am not addicted to fem porn or porn in general and that's why I hope to find someone else who isn't, either.
I had my few curiosities when I was in college and wondering what all the fuss was about, but almost immediately it to be boring and unrealistic. I hate "romance" or "romantic comedy" shows and movies. I was always the girl wanting to see the latest Stallone, Arnold, or Van Damme action flick instead.
So no, "fem porn" doesn't, in your words, "run me" at all. I'm not perfect, of course. We all get exposed to or curious about questionable things. i subscribe to a few magazines like Good Housekeeping and usually they're pretty safe, but the first thing I do when I get a new issue is casually flip through and rip out any ads or headline articles I know I won't want to see.
My own personal addiction, and I'm very open about it, is sugar and certain types of foods, though I maintain a healthy weight -- just not always through the most healthful ways, but we're all working on something.
As for "not being run by fem porn" and deciding to marry a good guy who rejects porn but is just a friend, there can be a myriad of reasons why marrying someone you see as just a friend might not be a very good idea.
First, let's consider the flip side of this. I know a lot of guys who know very nice, virgin, Christian girls -- but they don't meet the standards of looks the guys want (for instance, being overweight,) and so the plenty of nice girls sit on the sidelines as well.
Next, some the reasons I haven't settled down with a nice guy I just saw as a friend have been:
1. He only saw me as a friend too! Not everyone you see as just a friend is pining over you. It can be a very mutual feeling.
2. Distance, with neither of us being able to move (family needs, careers, etc.)
3. Family issues in all forms -- racist relatives (from either side,) large cultural differences and expectations, spiritual differences (how children should be raised, etc.)
We hear all the time about "nice guys and girls" friend-zoning each other, and sometimes people will say, "Well if you'd all stop being so picky/insisting on societal standards, no one would have to complain about being single.
But sometimes people who see someone as a friend have very good reasons for not marrying that person.
I had a guy friend in school who once said if we didn't find someone later on in life, we could get married because we were best friends at the time.
We grew into very different people, in about every possible way. I'm very thankful we didn't decide to get married just because we were best friends.
And of course, there can be just as many issues with the ones we DO have a romantic interest in... Which is part of why I'm a long-time single.
We all know we'll never find perfection, and we'll never be perfect ourselves. But I'd like to think that time and a lot of heartache has taught me not to rush any decisions, to always prayfully and patiently think them out carefully, and sometimes the best thing to do is to just stay single and keep praying it out.
