I find many people want to insist something is of God, even as it doesn't work out. So your suggestion is that God purposefully and willfully put you, and your daughter, in a situation to be degraded and permanently damaged, because his will was that you are to be with this man? I'm not following that logic. Did God somehow not know that things would go this way?
Obviously God allows people to go through things, but when people want to claim something like a marriage that God put together, that ends in abuse and possibly divorce, i find myself doubting. I see it all the time (and have been guilty of it myself) convincing myself something was from God, because that's the answer i most wanted to believe. But eventually i had to accept that it simply was not true.
God didn't 'put you' anywhere. You made a choice. You even say yourself 'God will not force him' yet when it comes to the decision you made it's 'God put me here'? No. You put you there.
Really, it's not confusing at all, your emotions are merely making it hard for you to see. Removing the emotion that you feel, and making the idea much clearer... You chose to be with this man, God did not make you. He turned out to be a bad guy. Now you and your daughter are being damaged and broken. It's up to you to decide to Act on the statement that your daughter means more, and not just say it. It's not at all your fault that things happened this way, or that your husband turned out the way he did. But there comes a point where the blame falls squarely on you for not choosing to remove yourself and your daughter from it. Either you choose to protect the child God has entrusted you with, or you take the consequences of the results of what happens to her in the long run.
And i don't mean to sound harsh, but when strong emotions are involved it takes strong words to cut through them for people to see the reality of things. I am 100% on your side. And your daughters. If i wasn't i wouldn't have said anything at all.
Obviously God allows people to go through things, but when people want to claim something like a marriage that God put together, that ends in abuse and possibly divorce, i find myself doubting. I see it all the time (and have been guilty of it myself) convincing myself something was from God, because that's the answer i most wanted to believe. But eventually i had to accept that it simply was not true.
God didn't 'put you' anywhere. You made a choice. You even say yourself 'God will not force him' yet when it comes to the decision you made it's 'God put me here'? No. You put you there.
Really, it's not confusing at all, your emotions are merely making it hard for you to see. Removing the emotion that you feel, and making the idea much clearer... You chose to be with this man, God did not make you. He turned out to be a bad guy. Now you and your daughter are being damaged and broken. It's up to you to decide to Act on the statement that your daughter means more, and not just say it. It's not at all your fault that things happened this way, or that your husband turned out the way he did. But there comes a point where the blame falls squarely on you for not choosing to remove yourself and your daughter from it. Either you choose to protect the child God has entrusted you with, or you take the consequences of the results of what happens to her in the long run.
And i don't mean to sound harsh, but when strong emotions are involved it takes strong words to cut through them for people to see the reality of things. I am 100% on your side. And your daughters. If i wasn't i wouldn't have said anything at all.
I agree what you are saying, but i dont think its that easy...its not black or white. We can bring verses from the bible and make both sides valid according to the bible. Yes, i should not be in a relationship where we are getting emotionally hurt, but the bible says that we are responsible for our other half and we can be accounted for them in front of God.
You are right......i put myself in this situation, but because i was under the impression that we want the same things. I saw many many christian marriages where they both believed that the relationship is from God (which was brought to the pastor who agreed) , but then the individuals changed and it turn out to be a disaster. Or in fact, i should say most of the time that what i saw. I still stand on the ground that i know in my heart and my soul that it was God's will..........would he put me in an abusive relationship? No! But my husband was the one who changed, who went back to his old ways and turned away from God. God will not force him to change, he has to make that step. And yeah, i have to make my step if he is not willing to change or commit himself to God again. As only he can change this situation for better. I will not waste my time any longer letting him walk all over us....trust me! At this point, i believe i did my part physically, spiritually and mentally......now its his choice.
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