fos-adopt would not be an option for you then
What is "fos adoption" ??
They would probably want to know why their birth mother gave them up.
I would imagine most of the time it's a mother who's in a bad situation and can't support a child so she would rather give it to someone who can rather than abort
Yes, that is correct. And it is up to the adoptive parents to inform the child with age-appropriate information about how the birth parents loved them enough to give them up...
My older brother and I were adopted. I was about a year old, and he is almost two years older than me. This was in the mid to late '50's. Our biological mother, who had one other, older child, got abandoned/divorced. She placed us in a "children's home" because she could not care for us at the time. We were kept as foster children by my adoptive parents, who then asked to adopt us. She consented, and our biological father was found so that he could sign the agreement.
We were told early on that we were adopted, and that our mother loved us enough to want us to have a better life than she could provide for us. We were told we were very special, and very loved.
As we got older, our parents told us that if we ever wanted to try to find our bio parents, they would do everything they could to help us.
Neither of us saw or felt a need to do that. We have two siblings younger than us that were my parents bio kids. We never felt "different" from them, or "less" than them. We were all just family.
I have never felt anything but love and appreciation for our bio parents, especially our mother, for loving us that much.
Interestingly, in the past 15 years or so, we have been re-united with our older half-brother who our mother kept when we were placed in the home. There are also half-siblings she had, after she remarried. Our bio mother and father had both passed before we met any of them.
We have also found, and met our bio half-brother and sisters from our father's side.
Through all of this, when I talk about "mama and daddy" , it's my adoptive parents... that's who they are. Both of them are gone home now, but they were pioneers in the whole adoption arena.
Because of our adoption, they became active in helping found and operate a maternity home and adoption agency in west Texas. This was a life-long ministry of theirs, and hundreds of girls who were pregnant and not able to keep the child (for many various reasons) were helped, and their children placed into Christian homes. It was truly a God-blessed mission.
