Ive seen that most people's responses to thread like this stems from their own experiences w/ the rod. I'm one who was spanked in love, w/ calm reassurance why it has to be done. Today i just attended a class where our teacher explained biblical use of the rod.
When God's word says it has to be done betimes, there is a purpose. Grounding, yelling, hitting, pinching may be the way, or only way some parents have learned to teach or discipline. But if we humbly ask to learn how and why God disciplines those He loves this way, actually w/ reproof and the rod, i see nothing amiss. Spanking was never meant to be done in anger, wc isnt easy, esp when parents have little or not yet developed self control by the time they have children. Sure, there were times i hadnt that control we so yearn to have with curious, active, careless and just immature children, but God loves us thru our rebellious ways, whether we were passive rebels (quiet but boiling inside), or more active needing to speak back or even bang a door on our parents.. but even if i cannot do it perfect, ive learned that we are to speak in love, just as our Lord did and does. He also let His gentleness be evident to all.
How parents need empowerment of the Holy Spirit, as well as praying for our children and ourselves, that we not commit mistakes in nurturing and rearing our children esp when young, and it is difficult to correct our faults when these have consequences for them.. Like a teen may consider running away w/ her boyfriend, thinking that is the best way to get away from either physically or verbally abusive parents. Sometimes underdisciplining may come when we decide to leave our kids w/ a carer or governess, for the sake of our careers which we cannot give up. This may be esp difficult for mothers, but with biblical guidance, we can give up many 'selfish' needs and wants and instead care for children instead of relying on day care or even schools or tv.
When God's word says it has to be done betimes, there is a purpose. Grounding, yelling, hitting, pinching may be the way, or only way some parents have learned to teach or discipline. But if we humbly ask to learn how and why God disciplines those He loves this way, actually w/ reproof and the rod, i see nothing amiss. Spanking was never meant to be done in anger, wc isnt easy, esp when parents have little or not yet developed self control by the time they have children. Sure, there were times i hadnt that control we so yearn to have with curious, active, careless and just immature children, but God loves us thru our rebellious ways, whether we were passive rebels (quiet but boiling inside), or more active needing to speak back or even bang a door on our parents.. but even if i cannot do it perfect, ive learned that we are to speak in love, just as our Lord did and does. He also let His gentleness be evident to all.
How parents need empowerment of the Holy Spirit, as well as praying for our children and ourselves, that we not commit mistakes in nurturing and rearing our children esp when young, and it is difficult to correct our faults when these have consequences for them.. Like a teen may consider running away w/ her boyfriend, thinking that is the best way to get away from either physically or verbally abusive parents. Sometimes underdisciplining may come when we decide to leave our kids w/ a carer or governess, for the sake of our careers which we cannot give up. This may be esp difficult for mothers, but with biblical guidance, we can give up many 'selfish' needs and wants and instead care for children instead of relying on day care or even schools or tv.
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