Need family advice

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
L

Liverpool

Guest
#21
There is therefore now no condemnation to them that are in Christ Jesus.
Romans 8:1
Amen. Thank the Lord for the Cross. Thank you Jesus for your precious blood that you shed for me. I will forever be grateful and forever serve you as long as I have breath in my lungs and, even after✝️✝️✝️
 
Mar 1, 2023
13
3
3
#22
So my family keeps reminding me of my past and making me feel guilty. When I’ve changed since I got closer to Christ, and I’m trying my best moving forward. I know in the Bible it says “forgive and you will be forgiven”. So I’ve forgiven them, but I just feel guilt. Like my past is always haunting me. I’m not up to “their standards”. I’m kinda like the black sheep of the family so to speak. (If I get into the details it’ll probably take up like 3 pages lol). So I’m trying my best to “win their approval”. And pretty much trying to restore my relationship with them. But it’s just taken a toll on me. Sometimes I feel like I’m not worthy to be in the family :(
I assure you, you are worthy of being in a loving family! Your family aren't the people who birthed you they're the people you choose to spend your life with!
 

Edify

Well-known member
Jan 27, 2021
1,569
661
113
#23
So my family keeps reminding me of my past and making me feel guilty. When I’ve changed since I got closer to Christ, and I’m trying my best moving forward. I know in the Bible it says “forgive and you will be forgiven”. So I’ve forgiven them, but I just feel guilt. Like my past is always haunting me. I’m not up to “their standards”. I’m kinda like the black sheep of the family so to speak. (If I get into the details it’ll probably take up like 3 pages lol). So I’m trying my best to “win their approval”. And pretty much trying to restore my relationship with them. But it’s just taken a toll on me. Sometimes I feel like I’m not worthy to be in the family :(
Is your family saved? Do they go to church?
 

Godsgirl1983

Well-known member
Feb 2, 2023
1,801
1,103
113
#24
they have every right to be mad at me, cause In the past I’ve broken their trust, and have deceived them. (Like I said I used to be very different person). So I have to recognize my mistakes. I have to try to make peace and forgive and love them, regardless of how they’re treating me. Because they’re my family and God says so. I mean nobody’s perfect. My family are Christian too.
Ah shoot! Looks like I missed you since you turned "guest", but on the off chance you come back by and check I'll post this thought anyway. (And who knows, maybe it will help someone else)

Focusing on the underlined parts (and I say this with love and concern):
You say they are christians too, but you also mentioned earlier that they bring things from the past up.
perhaps there are things that happened in the past that you need to go to them about, and ask for their forgiveness.
 

shittim

Senior Member
Dec 16, 2016
13,945
7,857
113
#25
If they are truly Christian they will not seek to bring you pain.:unsure::)