Are You Socially Awkward?

[Roughsoul1991]

There are multiple types of intelligence. Just because you have weak areas doesn't necessarily mean someone has a low IQ.

Researchers' understanding of the complexities of the human brain has evolved, and so too has the notion of IQ, what it really means, and how it is most accurately captured.

“There are multiple types of intelligence,” says researcher Adam Hampshire, PhD. He is a psychologist at the Brain and Mind Institute Natural Sciences Centre in London, Ontario, Canada.

There are at least three components that affect overall performance on tests. These include short-term memory, reasoning, and verbal recall.

Lifestyle factors count, too. For example, gamers -- or people who play a lot of computer games -- score higher on tests of reasoning and short-term memory. Smokers do poorly on tests assessing short-term memory and vocabulary, while test takers who have anxiety don't do as well on short-term memory tests, the study shows.

 

[Lon1934]

Hard on yourself?

4. They’re more self-conscious
One of the disadvantages of higher intelligence can be a higher degree of awareness of oneself and one’s behavior in social interactions. Highly intelligent people may be super conscious of themselves while socializing.
Imagine if you always had critical eyes watching and judging you while you speak. You’d feel like you were on stage and you’d be unable to act naturally. For many highly intelligent people, that critic is in their own heads.

You need a change of Self Image

 

[Godsgirl83]

Seriously social awkwardness is a symptom of self-centeredness. Once you focus on others, so stop worrying about yourself.

except that for many non neuro typical children ( who grow into adults.....) social awkwardness has NOTHING to do with being self centered.....
so please go right on ahead and try to tell the 5 year old autistic child that they are self centered because they are uncomfortable in and cannot handle a social situation like neurotypical peers can and do........
better yet, try telling the child's parent that the child is self centered for experiencing social awkwardness.........

*sits back with bag of popcorn

 

[Lanolin]

mmm popcorn.

Ya know, sometimes theres language barriers as well. Not everyone speaks english, or whatever language is the majority. Doesnt mean they are unintelligent, they just dont understand that particular language and all the customs and idioms that go with it.


Mensa does have their own social club so..I dont agree that highly intelligent people are socially awkward since they seem to form social groups themselves anyway...doesnt seem that awkward to me if they can do that.

I think its just relating to different people in general that is hard for many people. It is easier if people all think the same, but of course, we dont...

The thing is to appreciate our differences and also find things in common. adults of course do not talk to children the same way an adult would talk to an adult. One cant assume that children are not as intelligent, its just they havent experienced much of life and are still finding things out. The same as if you went to a foreign country and didnt know how things worked.

 

[kaylagrl]

I guess I must not be very intelligent because I have no anxiety at all in any social situation, infact, I feel most comfortable in all social activities.

It's something that can be learned. I was so awkward in social situations that my dear grandmother, who has passed, gave me a book called the Friendship Book. She thought it would help. Then I grew up and went into traveling ministry. Traveled all over Canada and US and now I could care less. I'd talk to anyone, anywhere,any time. Hubby has a hard time with it sometimes because I strike up convos with strangers. lol Singing in front of over a thousand people helps you get over social anxiety real quick.

 

[HeraldtheNews]

There are multiple types of intelligence. Just because you have weak areas doesn't necessarily mean someone has a low IQ.

Researchers' understanding of the complexities of the human brain has evolved, and so too has the notion of IQ, what it really means, and how it is most accurately captured.

“There are multiple types of intelligence,” says researcher Adam Hampshire, PhD. He is a psychologist at the Brain and Mind Institute Natural Sciences Centre in London, Ontario, Canada.

There are at least three components that affect overall performance on tests. These include short-term memory, reasoning, and verbal recall.

Lifestyle factors count, too. For example, gamers -- or people who play a lot of computer games -- score higher on tests of reasoning and short-term memory. Smokers do poorly on tests assessing short-term memory and vocabulary, while test takers who have anxiety don't do as well on short-term memory tests, the study shows.

Where do you get this stuff dude?

 

[HeraldtheNews]

except that for many non neuro typical children ( who grow into adults.....) social awkwardness has NOTHING to do with being self centered.....
so please go right on ahead and try to tell the 5 year old autistic child that they are self centered because they are uncomfortable in and cannot handle a social situation like neurotypical peers can and do........
better yet, try telling the child's parent that the child is self centered for experiencing social awkwardness.........

*sits back with bag of popcorn

I understand the perpetual popcorn girl, but what is a non-neuraltypical child? A normal kid who is original, creative, peaceful, protected by God, loves Jesus, and cares about their friends, and likes to play privately and gently with close friends of the opposite sex, and protect and each other from danger, and love one another, and share each other's pajamas at a sleep over, and take a nice long hot bath together in their own private hot tub.

 

[laughingheart]

It makes me think of my last birthday. The waitress said, "Have a happy birthday. Enjoy your cake". My response?
"You too".
Yup. Ms. Socially Awkward strikes again lol.

 

[Lanolin]

autistic people want to communicate too but just have more difficulty verbally expressing it, sometimes its easier to write things down, or play music, or draw.

Then you have other people who are great talkers, but their writing skills are abysmal. They repeat themselves, and its like reading someone who stutters, or uses every cliche...or they just copy screeds out a textbook and pass it off as their own. But you know its not their original thoughts.

I know someone whos always posting someone elses quotes on facebook. She does not ever post her own thoughts just other peoples. Its not really that intelligent to repeat or regurgitate someone elses ideas but I guess for some people they want to appear to be smart.

Actors and actresses do this for a living, so they pretend to be other people. Isnt that socially awkward that they just cant be themselves? I think if you can just be yourself, then its not being socially awkward cos it doesnt matter what other people think of you. What matters is what God thinks of you and He gives you the grace to accomplish it in any situation.

 

[HeraldtheNews]

It makes me think of my last birthday. The waitress said, "Have a happy birthday. Enjoy your cake". My response?
"You too".
Yup. Ms. Socially Awkward strikes again lol.

Not sure I understand... not sure about you, but I know that "you too" is what i usually say when I'm in a cluelessly non-neuraltypical region of La La land, sitting at a bar with no money, begging for coffee money, and asking a lady to buy me a beer, and she says, "no, sorry, I can't do that.". "well, I've only had one.". "No, sorry.". "well, thanks for watching out for me.". "you too."

But, I think it's how people say it... that's cute though, even though I had to read it a few times. Not sure I quite understand it, but mystery is good! Glad you had a nice birthday, and shared your birthday cake. So, it's an example of how to have cake, eat it too, and share it too...you too? I think I need help.

 

[Godsgirl83]

what is a non-neuraltypical child?

sorry, should have used the term "neurodiverse"

“Neurotypical” is a newer term that’s used to describe individuals of typical developmental, intellectual, and cognitive abilities. In other words, it’s not used to describe individuals who have autism or another developmental difference.
Individuals who live with autism, are on the spectrum, or who have other developmental differences are referred to as “neurodiverse.”


What characterizes neurotypical?
Neurotypical individuals are often described in relation to individuals with autism, so they may have:

• no problem interacting with peers or having conversation
• no noticeable speech delays as children
• no sensory issues, such as not being able to tolerate crowds, loud noises, or being too hot or too cold
• the ability to adapt to change

What characterizes neurodiverse?
The signs of autism can vary and may be different for older individuals vs. children, for example. The National Institute of Stroke and Neurological Disorders lists the following as typical signs of someone who is neurodiverse:

• a lack of babbling or pointing by the age of 12 months
• poor eye contact
• no smiling or social responsiveness
• not responding to their name
• fixation on lining up toys or objects that appears more than typical
• no single words by the age of 16 months
• no two-word phrases by age of 2 years

In older individuals, signs can include:

• low social interaction
• inability to initiate or hold a conversation
• lack of social play
• repetitive language
• intense, focused interest, usually on an object or subject
• fixation on certain routines or rituals
  Where am I getting my reference from? here

So, yeah...... popcorn girl would love to sit back and watch somebody tell the parents of these children (or the adults who fall into this wonderful diverse group) that they are
SELF CENTERED for being the way that God created them...........

 

[Godsgirl83]

sorry, should have used the term "neurodiverse"

“Neurotypical” is a newer term that’s used to describe individuals of typical developmental, intellectual, and cognitive abilities. In other words, it’s not used to describe individuals who have autism or another developmental difference.
Individuals who live with autism, are on the spectrum, or who have other developmental differences are referred to as “neurodiverse.”


What characterizes neurotypical?
Neurotypical individuals are often described in relation to individuals with autism, so they may have:

• no problem interacting with peers or having conversation
• no noticeable speech delays as children
• no sensory issues, such as not being able to tolerate crowds, loud noises, or being too hot or too cold
• the ability to adapt to change

What characterizes neurodiverse?
The signs of autism can vary and may be different for older individuals vs. children, for example. The National Institute of Stroke and Neurological Disorders lists the following as typical signs of someone who is neurodiverse:

• a lack of babbling or pointing by the age of 12 months
• poor eye contact
• no smiling or social responsiveness
• not responding to their name
• fixation on lining up toys or objects that appears more than typical
• no single words by the age of 16 months
• no two-word phrases by age of 2 years

In older individuals, signs can include:

• low social interaction
• inability to initiate or hold a conversation
• lack of social play
• repetitive language
• intense, focused interest, usually on an object or subject
• fixation on certain routines or rituals
  Where am I getting my reference from? here

So, yeah...... popcorn girl would love to sit back and watch somebody tell the parents of these children (or the adults who fall into this wonderful diverse group) that they are
SELF CENTERED for being the way that God created them...........

(sorry, missed the 5 minute edit window)

and NO, I am not saying that a person who is anti-social falls into the autistic spectrum.........
anti-socialism just happens to play a big part in their world....

What I am saying is that being anti social as a direct result of neurodiversity DOES NOT make one SELF CENTERED

 

[Roughsoul1991]

Where do you get this stuff dude?

Just read a lot and thought this could be encouraging to the social awkward.