There will be other ages after we get to heaven.

[Genipher]

My family has an older friend, a gentleman, never married but he wanted to get married. He's shared some stories of the ladies that got away. I'm sure he'd still like to get married but God has used his singleness to bless SO many people.

He is a good example of 1 Corinthians 7:32-33: "But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife."

I know a lot of single ladies (in their late 30s, early 40s) who never got married, too. Though, while most of them still want to get married, they seem to be too picky and have given up a lot of opportunities for a godly man. And as time goes by they become more and more independent and kinda stubborn to the point where I think it would be hard for them to marry and submit.

Anyway, I understand the desire to marry. I don't think all hope is lost for the older people. But until that mate is found, should be concentrating on God and how He can use you instead of focusing so strongly on sex. Not saying the desire for sex is wrong, but if you're dwelling on it more than God... 😬

 

[JohnB]

It's not about fault. It's about not living contented in the life God has chosen for you.

You keep blaming me and than avoid telling me how I am to blame. Seems you like to spread guilt, with no facts.

 

[JohnB]

You have been blessed beyond measure, yet you insist upon accusing your maker of being unfair and demanding He give you something to have sex with.

Once again, you place blame on me with no evidence. You and others are like Job's friends. Job's friends are alive and well in the church.

 

[JohnB]

What We Learn from Job’s Three Friends

https://renew.org/what-we-learn-from-jobs-three-friends/

 

[Truthnightmare]

What We Learn from Job’s Three Friends

https://renew.org/what-we-learn-from-jobs-three-friends/

I’m not blaming you, I’m suggesting your focus may be off a little bit.

 

[Cameron143]

You keep blaming me and than avoid telling me how I am to blame. Seems you like to spread guilt, with no facts.

I haven't ever blamed you. Read the post. Your problem is that you have never learned to find peace with the choices God has made for you. No one's life has gone exactly as they would have chosen. The secret is to be okay with the choices God gives. It's called contentment. It comes by trusting God in the choices He makes. It leads to peace, and eventually joy.
This is what people have been trying to share with you.

 

[JohnB]

I haven't ever blamed you. Read the post. Your problem is that you have never learned to find peace with the choices God has made for you. No one's life has gone exactly as they would have chosen. The secret is to be okay with the choices God gives. It's called contentment. It comes by trusting God in the choices He makes. It leads to peace, and eventually joy.
This is what people have been trying to share with you.

Jonah never had peace about GOD's calling on him. Job also never had peace about what happened to him, caused by GOD. Sometimes GOD does not expect you to have peace, he only ask you to do what he asks. Joseph was not praising GOD while he was in prison. He wanted out of the prison.

 

[JohnB]

I’m not blaming you, I’m suggesting your focus may be off a little bit.

I have a strong desire for companionship and some Christians keep calling it a sin.

 

[Cameron143]

Jonah never had peace about GOD's calling on him. Job also never had peace about what happened to him, caused by GOD. Sometimes GOD does not expect you to have peace, he only ask you to do what he asks. Joseph was not praising GOD while he was in prison. He wanted out of the prison.

You can't take a piece of a story and consider it the whole. While we never see peace in the story of Jonah, there is no reason to assume he never found it. And both Joseph and Job were restored. No reason to assume they didn't find peace. Joseph seemed to have a pretty good understanding of God and His ways and said God intended it for good. Have you considered that God intended good for you?

 

[JohnB]

You can't take a piece of a story and consider it the whole. While we never see peace in the story of Jonah, there is no reason to assume he never found it. And both Joseph and Job were restored. No reason to assume they didn't find peace. Joseph seemed to have a pretty good understanding of God and His ways and said God intended it for good. Have you considered that God intended good for you?

Joseph and Job found peace AFTER it was all over and not before. Jonah hated his calling even after it was all over. I'm sure GOD intends my single for good.....but it will never give me any peace. There is someone missing in my life, Until GOD grants' my request, there is no peace.

 

[Truthnightmare]

I have a strong desire for companionship and some Christians keep calling it a sin.

Well I’m not calling it sin, I would only encourage you to not forget your basics.

Matthew 6
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you

Always remembering…

Matthew 6:8, “Your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

 

[tourist]

I forgot to add.....a couple of years later I was at a coffee shop near my home and Linda and her friends walked in. I noticed she had changed her hair style.....I don't know why, but it really changed her looks. I was NOT attracted to her at all. We did talk for awhile. After she had left, I sat there and thought....Thank GOD I did not connect with her. I don't know what I saw in her before.

I prefer my woman to have her hair flowing thusly about.

 

[Cameron143]

Joseph and Job found peace AFTER it was all over and not before. Jonah hated his calling even after it was all over. I'm sure GOD intends my single for good.....but it will never give me any peace. There is someone missing in my life, Until GOD grants' my request, there is no peace.

I apprreciate the frankness of your reply, but do you realize what you have admitted concerning yourself? Your desire for a wife is greater than your desire for for God. That is why you have no peace. Having a wife is a good thing, but knowing God is all surpassing.
I truly do understand the hurt of unfulfilled longings and pray that God, who is all desirable, will be desired all by you.

 

[JohnB]

I apprreciate the frankness of your reply, but do you realize what you have admitted concerning yourself? Your desire for a wife is greater than your desire for for God. That is why you have no peace. Having a wife is a good thing, but knowing God is all surpassing.
I truly do understand the hurt of unfulfilled longings and pray that God, who is all desirable, will be desired all by you.

I have not turned my back on GOD at anytime. I am still a believer, still believe he will open the way.

 

[JohnB]

Well I’m not calling it sin, I would only encourage you to not forget your basics.

Matthew 6
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you

Always remembering…

Matthew 6:8, “Your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

Luke 18:1-8. The parable of the widow and the unjust judge.

 

[Cameron143]

I have not turned my back on GOD at anytime. I am still a believer, still believe he will open the way.

I wasn't questioning your eternal estate. I was suggesting that your temporal estate could be vastly improved.

 

[The_Watchers_2017]

The ONLY way to see her was on the weekends, That is no way to start a relationship. You miss the point, GOD was intervening. Once again, you look for ways to blame me. Plus, I worked many weekends.

the [only way] to see Her was on the weekends.
i have already mentioned this.
but you did not even try for seeing Her on the weekends.
why not?

 

[The_Watchers_2017]

Lets try this AGAIN.....the hostess told me, "John, I don't know why I'm telling you this. You shouldn't be with her" She told me this away from my date. That was GOD's message to me......I told GOD I don't care, I choose her. Later she tells me GOD told her to move to Denver. You seem to have made up your mind, even before you read my post.

but i did agree with this one situation it was indeed God moving you two apart.
and that will happen.
but the first Woman was still here and you could see Her on the weekends.

 

[The_Watchers_2017]

"
When Moses reported the LORD’s words to all the Israelites, the people were filled with grief. Then they got up early the next morning and went to the top of the range of hills. “Let’s go,” they said. “We realize that we have sinned, but now we are ready to enter the land the LORD has promised us.”

But Moses said, “Why are you now disobeying the LORD’s orders to return to the wilderness? It won’t work. 42Do not go up into the land now. You will only be crushed by your enemies because the LORD is not with you. 43When you face the Amalekites and Canaanites in battle, you will be slaughtered. The LORD will abandon you because you have abandoned the LORD.”

But the people defiantly pushed ahead toward the hill country, even though neither Moses nor the Ark of the LORD’s Covenant left the camp. 45Then the Amalekites and the Canaanites who lived in those hills came down and attacked them and chased them back as far as Hormah." Exodus 14.

You're the kind of person who would have been in that group. I'm sure you would have quite your job to go after her.

what do people not liking what Moses said, have to do with the fact, you make decisions and say it was God Hating you?

 

[The_Watchers_2017]

What arrangement? There were no arrangements in my stories.

there was in my Story.