I agree and it comes from having a distorted view of the gospel and from bad teaching such as IMO - this whole lose your salvation doctrine which to me is a complete denial of the work of Christ on the cross and resurrection.
lose of salvation assumes we truly inherit the promise in this life.
I think we have communion with God and His word dwells in our hearts.
It is obvious a lot of people have words but no reality or life.
If the life is real, like a marriage, it needs to last to prove the loyalty is real
and not just fair weather.
Jesus points out the many different types of followers and reasons why they fall away.
1. The word never is understood
2. The word does not take deep root, it dies when difficulties come
3. The word falling on thorns, the worries of life smother the message
4. The word falling on good soil, with understanding and producing much fruit.
As far as we are concerned 2 to 4 were all saved, yet in truth it was pointless.
Now at what point is someone really saved.
Only when testing has come and fruit is produced in their lives.
Or they are all saved, but loose it early on. It is slightly academic because the
effect and reality is the same.
But in truth the real motivation for the emphasis on being saved, is saying struggles
and failure do not disqualify you. But the truth is if you cannot walk in the ways of
Christ, how can you claim to know Him and be part of the eternal Kingdom where His
will is King?
I still wonder where the point of failure is drawn when most of the people talking about
failure are hyper legalist, who condemn themselves for natural human reactions to situations.
If you want and idea of God grace, look at the life of David and Samson.
These were flawed characters like us, yet God walked with them and blessed them greatly.
The Lord has always been more concerned at working with people where they are rather
than creating false perfect groups which are artificial and dishonest.
Love really does work and is real, and you can trust Christ to bring you through.