The bottom line is:
When you are filled with the Holy Spirit, you become a new person because the Spirit of God fills your heart with the same love that is shared by the Father and the Son.
John 15: 10-12 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love, even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in His love.
It is not, if you obey then you will be loved. It is, if you obey then you are abiding in His love.
John 15: 13-14 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full. This is my commandment, THAT YE LOVE ONE ANOTHER, AS I HAVE LOVED YOU.
Jesus has made it easy for us. When you do everything with love in your heart, you are obeying His commandments.
John 17: 26 And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare it, that the love with which thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them.
Colossians 3: 12-14 Put on, therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long suffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any; even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. AND ABOVE ALL THESE THINGS PUT ON LOVE, WHICH IS THE BOND OF PERFECTNESS.
Ephesians 1: 4 According as He hath chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him, IN LOVE.
Ephesians 3: 16-19 That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might by His Spirit in the inner man; That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in LOVE. May be able to comprehend, with all saints, what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height, and to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye may be filled with all the fullness of God.