Job was scared and in a different kind of fear... the kind of fear Jesus said in Revelation 21:8 sends people to hell... if they fail to repent of it and quit walking in it.
The fear of the Lord is something else entirely
Proverbs 9:10
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
Had job not gotten in to being scared his children were going to curse God and die... the hedge of protection God had around him would not have had a hole in it making it possible for the devil to attack him.
1 John 5:18
We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.
Job tells us the key to understanding where it all went wrong for himn when he said.... what I feared came upon me.
It seems obvious your goal was to offer good advice to the individual reaching out for help. However, I think you missed the mark. I’m not picking on you, but I suggest you look at this subject in more depth. An excellent little book on the subject is:
Compassionate Father or Consuming Fire? by Dr Michael Brown.
Your comment regarding Job reflects a common erroneous teaching espoused by too many so-called teachers. The fact is it was the fear of the Lord that drove Job to intercede for his children. He knew God’s righteous standards and therefore offered sacrifices on his children’s behalf.
In Galatians 4:11 Paul said:
“I fear for you, that somehow I have wasted my efforts on you.”
This was righteous, loving fear. Fear is an emotion given to us by our Creator.
Revelation 21:8 says:
“But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
ESV
This is referring to shrinking from faith and the Gospel. In fact, the best definition of bravery is acting when you are fearful to do so. Bravery is not the absence of fear.
You are committing a logical error called confusion of categories. Fear is a singular emotion. There are not different types of fear, there are, however, different objects of fear. If I fear putting my hand on a hot burner I am not sinning. If I fear my child is about to run into the street and therefore possibly hit by a car, it is not a sin. If I fear God more that man, it is not a sin. If I fear man more than God, it is a sin. It is not the emotion; it is the object of the emotion.
Job’s friends fell under judgment from God for their comments to Job which included blaming his troubles on sin. Moreover, it was God who brought up the subject of Job with Satan while calling him righteous. We don’t know why He did that. Nowhere does God tell us why He allowed all this tragedy to befall Job. I don’t like that. However, me not liking it is not an excuse to blame Job. It is necessary to torture the text to wring out your interpretation.
Let me direct your attention to the next chapter in Revelation, specifically verses 22:18 and 19:
“I warn everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: if anyone adds to them, God will add to him the plagues described in this book, and if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his share in the tree of life and in the holy city, which are described in this book.”
I would be cautious about adding to Job and Revelation. The book of Job does not say that God called Job righteous because he was sinning in ignorance—you are adding that. Why don’t we just accept God speaking for Himself?
Clearly you didn’t mean to put yourself in the same position as Job’s friends, but it seems to me you may have committed the same sin they did by indicating to this individual that his family’s problems might be due to him letting his “hedge” down. This person is hurting. They don’t need this kind of foolishness, and I consider it to be borderline spiritual abuse.
You said,
“The Lord called Job righteous because the sin Job did by being in fear was something that was done in ignorance at the time. The Lord says in
Romans 4:15 where no law is, there is no transgression.”
If God put the hedge around Job when he was sinning in ignorance, that must mean that God informed Job subsequently that he was sinning and then allowed the hedge to be breached. Can you point out where that occurred or are you adding that to the text as well?
Job is one of the most heralded heroes of the faith. Are you actually suggesting that he didn’t understand righteous verse unrighteous fear? Really? Are you sure you want to add this to God’s word? Have you read the whole book of Job? He demonstrates tremendous intellectual capacity. I see no basis to suggest he was ignorant about fear.
None of us want to be so cowardly that we are afraid to evaluate our own doctrine for error. I am certain you committed your error in ignorance, and it was in your heart to try and help. The question now is, will you commit to deeper study on the subject? You should order that book.
All of us want enough control in our lives that we can prevent undeserved disaster. I get it. I wish I could erect a hedge around me and mine to keep out everything that plagues us. We can’t. The book of Job makes that clear. It is no wonder we try to upend what it actually says.