well, the thing is, this is not a church. you are not sitting in a church that has proclaimed what it believes and hopes and teaches that everyone is agrees. if you want membership, you had better agree
nope
this is a forum with people from allllll over the place, from myriad backgrounds, life circumstances and experiences, poor, wealthy, high IQ's, middle IQ's and dare I say lower IQ's...
...well anyway...
now you can have all that in a church too, but most people are going to sit on their behinds and want to FIT IN
not so here. everyone wants to be heard AND demands everyone else listen
not everyone has experience in leadership in church....I do, for better or worse as some might see that.....and I can tell you, behind the scenes it can be a pretty disruptive and disunifying scene at times
the pastor can't stand his secretary, the secretaty gossips about everything she should hold in confidence, the worship leader has the fantasy that they alone bring down the Holy Spirit, the youth pastor flirts with the girls and the parents are fed up, little Joey was beat up by the Pastor's son and on and on and on and on
in church everyone basically shuts up and listens...or dozes off
here, everyone has equal mouth time and it shows
that's what is going on
again, this is not a church and rest easy. people with more experience and actually ability as a teacher have tried to calm the place down and to date, has not happened
so, people leave and new people come in and it starts all over again
people cart their soapbox or favorite hobby horse in with them and some start preaching, some listen, some do both, some think they are OT prophets, some have an axe to grind and want everyone's neck on the block and on and on and on and we all get to CHOOSE what we want to respond to or ignore
some people believe God is speaking through them when they address others and they expect others to sit up and obey
some people think they have the goods cornered and if they bring that up, they will solve the problems they perceive active in this forum
the above are facts. illusions are many, but the facts here have it
nothing personal. just trying to hopefully explain what you are seeing here