Your biggest problem is believing in a "rapture" that is found no where in the Bible. People quote 1 Thess. 4:17 all the time, but the verb harpazo is not translated as the noun "rapture." Feel free, anyone to challenge me and then we can take a good look at what the Greek actually says.
This pre-trib stuff is all nonsense. Jesus has said he would return ONCE - its called the Second Coming for a reason. Because Jesus comes only twice, not an invisible time to so-called "rapture" the church.
Further, this whole rapture scenario then grabs verses out of context, in Daniel, Ezekiel and Revelation, and twists them and literally interprets them. I am reading Revelation in Koine Greek right now, and it sure does not say what I have read these confused dispies say.
Many people here have said you need to trust God. I know that is hard when you have been scared into believing a false doctrine like the rapture. Look up Amill and post mill. Study all the viewpoints. Don't listen to some preacher with an agenda on youtube like John Hagee ranting and raving, predicting the end over and over based on some "sign" that never happens. And beware of any preacher teaching this. There are actually 4 end time views (including historical premill, which is a lot different than Dispensationalism.) Study them and see which makes more sense.
Is Jesus ruling with us on the earth or some imaginary trip to a heaven ABOVE us? (heaven could be in a parallel universe, for all we know! Not saying it is, but the Bible never says where heaven was located.)
And no, I am not a JW! I believe in the Trinity and the deity of Christ. But, I have studied the Bible for 40 years, including formally. I know a lot of people who have studied and know Greek and Hebrew, most of us have concluding the rapture and going to heaven is folk theology. The better approach is the Amillennial position, which most of my Baptists friends and pastors believe. I've read the Bible over 50 times, including the NT in Koine Greek and many books in the OT in Hebrew. The message of the Bible is one of hope - of Jesus redeeming all his people, no Plan B for the Jews. Of Jesus Second Coming and no millennium. So if the message is one of hope, why are you living in fear?
Good hermeneutics requires that a topic as important as eschatology or end times is found in more than one place in the Bible. The Millennium is only mentioned in one chapter in the Bible - Rev. 20. That is simply not enough to develop an important doctrine. And 6 times is still in the same place is still not a go.
Biblical Hebrew does not have words for million, billion or infinity. A thousand just means a very large number. No 1000 year reign. So, fear not, God is sovereign and in control. He will not be unjust towards your children or any children.