why rush into love?

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hi. i'm only 17 and i've decided to pour out my thoughts here. there's no one i could talk to in my family about this simply because i don't feel comfortable talking about love with them. most people know me as boyish type of girl and someone who would never go out with anyone. it has been a pressure to me seeing couples my age. i do admit i've never had a boyfriend since birth nor has any guy courted me. sometimes it makes me feel like i'm not good enough for others, that maybe because i'm fat and ugly. thinking about it would just lead me to self-pity. some nights i cry out to God. i pray that he would give me patience to wait for His perfect timing. i know it isn't the right time yet. i have to set my priorities first. i was wondering if any of you is going through the same situation? i just want someone to talk to and relate to. thank you. would really appreciate a feedback from you guys. God bless you all!
 
When I was in high school, most of the girls (me included) didn't have boyfriends. Most of us, girls, were just like you said "boyish type". Our parents didn't afford to pay for every piece of trendy clothing, for make up, for other beauty products that exist out there.
So, do not worry too much about these things because this is not a permanent situation you are in. Focus on your education, on the exams that are to come and on what you want to study next.
After you will have a job and be more independent from your parents, boyfriends will come too. Until then, you are just a regular high school girl.
You are not ugly. Even if you are a little fat that doesn't make you ugly. You can try to be more feminine and less boyish by being more careful at how you dress (see which clothes favor you), by getting your hair done etc.; just feel good and beautiful in your own skin. Love yourself!
 
thank you so much for noticing my post. your words have enlightened me. i thank God for using you to encourage and remind me of what really matters. i was actually praying to God when i received your reply. God bless you!
 
Hi there,
My name is Crayton, andes, I am going through the same thing. Though I am blind, that doesn't matter. If you want, go ahead and private message me and I can talk to you about what ever you want.
 
Hello,
I just wanted to let you know that there is a season for everything in one's life (note Ecclesiastes 3). I actually believe you should ask God for change in your life, since it says in Matthew 21:22, clearly, "If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer" (Matthew 21:22). But make sure that the thing you are asking for is tested by a clean and selfless spirit. Even if it is unrighteous, God will still give it to you for the sake of learning; this is my opinion-going through it myself. But I don't think asking for a good man in your life, or better motivation, or better confidence is bad at all in the sight of God. But once you are given these things, keep God in your sight daily so you will not lose what is important.

Jesus loves you.
Romans 8:31 - "What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?"
 
kaith said:
hi. i'm only 17 and i've decided to pour out my thoughts here. there's no one i could talk to in my family about this simply because i don't feel comfortable talking about love with them. most people know me as boyish type of girl and someone who would never go out with anyone. it has been a pressure to me seeing couples my age. i do admit i've never had a boyfriend since birth nor has any guy courted me. sometimes it makes me feel like i'm not good enough for others, that maybe because i'm fat and ugly. thinking about it would just lead me to self-pity. some nights i cry out to God. i pray that he would give me patience to wait for His perfect timing. i know it isn't the right time yet. i have to set my priorities first. i was wondering if any of you is going through the same situation? i just want someone to talk to and relate to. thank you. would really appreciate a feedback from you guys. God bless you all!
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Hello Kaith. Sweetie, I went through the same thing in high school. Having issues with myself (in fact, we all did). I'll give you the other side of the story though. I was popular at school, and never dated then, I was focused on my studies and seemed to have anything - which birthed in me, the pride of life at a very early age. If you took away what I had then, I was still an empty shell.

Contrary to what teenagers display, relationships are more than just butterflies in the stomach. True love exists. The love of Jesus. I know it's hard to be going against the flow especially at that age. How about this, are you active in church? Do you have a church community to fellowship with?
 
Thank you. It's nice to have someone you can talk to about anything.
 
thank you for reminding me those verses. your encouragement has enlightened me. that's what i needed. God bless your life!
 
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Hello Kaith. Sweetie, I went through the same thing in high school. Having issues with myself (in fact, we all did). I'll give you the other side of the story though. I was popular at school, and never dated then, I was focused on my studies and seemed to have anything - which birthed in me, the pride of life at a very early age. If you took away what I had then, I was still an empty shell.

Contrary to what teenagers display, relationships are more than just butterflies in the stomach. True love exists. The love of Jesus. I know it's hard to be going against the flow especially at that age. How about this, are you active in church? Do you have a church community to fellowship with?
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Thank you for the words of encouragement. You made me feel that I'm not alone. Yes, I'm active in church. Thank you for asking. God bless you!
 
I think a lot of people go through something like what your going through. I'm 28 and I'm not that experienced when it comes to women. I've felt lonely like you before. Don't let yourself be dragged by it though... I say take a deep breathe of air, get yourself together, and pray... seek G-d in what you should do next. Let G-d lead you... love everyone as he has commanded. You'll feel better in the seeking of G-d because his ways are just good.

I take comfort in these verses when it comes to a wife or this life.

Matthew 6:25-34
[h=3]Do Not Worry[/h][SUP]25 [/SUP]“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? [SUP]26 [/SUP]Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? [SUP]27 [/SUP]Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?[SUP] 28 [/SUP]“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. [SUP]29 [/SUP]Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. [SUP]30 [/SUP]If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? [SUP]31 [/SUP]So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ [SUP]32 [/SUP]For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. [SUP]33 [/SUP]But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. [SUP]34 [/SUP]Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.





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kaith said:
hi. i'm only 17 and i've decided to pour out my thoughts here. there's no one i could talk to in my family about this simply because i don't feel comfortable talking about love with them. most people know me as boyish type of girl and someone who would never go out with anyone. it has been a pressure to me seeing couples my age. i do admit i've never had a boyfriend since birth nor has any guy courted me. sometimes it makes me feel like i'm not good enough for others, that maybe because i'm fat and ugly. thinking about it would just lead me to self-pity. some nights i cry out to God. i pray that he would give me patience to wait for His perfect timing. i know it isn't the right time yet. i have to set my priorities first. i was wondering if any of you is going through the same situation? i just want someone to talk to and relate to. thank you. would really appreciate a feedback from you guys. God bless you all!
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For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.

And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

And I will be found of you, saith the LORD

Jeremiah 29:11-14


Don't rush into boys. God says to envy not the wicked.

Psalm 1

1Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
2but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,

and who meditates on his law day and night.
3That person is like a tree planted by streams of water,
which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither—
whatever they do prospers.

4Not so the wicked!
They are like chaff
that the wind blows away.

5Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.

6For the Lord watches over the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.




There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. Proverbs 14:12


So remember this when you are down and out little one and you think that you need a boyfriend. Satan wants you to destroy yourself. Look at all the girls and young boys that appear to be happy with a mate and not a match. Most relationships at that age are very sexually involved. This is how many define love but in actuality, its lust of the flesh. Take care of yourself and respect yourself. Keep your modesty. When the Lord sees that you really belong to Him, then He will give you that companion in due season if He sees its in your best interest.

You really can't rush life, life is in Jesus.
 
Hi, my actually name is Teddy, but people call me colt. Anyway, I used to have a girlfriend. We went 14 months. We got really close. A little too close, and we both got burned. By burned I mean, feelings went the south. Anyway, we broke up and have remained friends, although I am pretty sure we both have scars. I used to be like you, wanting love, and girlfriend (boyfriend in your case) and all that. But, I learned the hard way that sometimes, it is better to wait. PM me if you have questions, you seem really cool.
 
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