The only honest answer that I can give here is that I really only focus upon what God's expectations are of me as a man, and I truly try to fulfill the same by his grace.
How has that carried over towards women?
In all honesty, I'd have to say that at least 90 something percent of the women I've personally met (I obviously cannot speak for other men or their experiences) haven't liked me because of my godly character which includes such things as faithfulness, selflessness, and definitely thoughtfulness. I know that that sounds crazy, especially since so many women claim to be looking for such qualities/attributes in a man, but that's truly been my own experience. I've mentioned this before on this forum, but the day that I proposed to my now ex-wife, she told me "I just want you to know that I'd never want to marry a man like you", and then she explained why. She literally told me that she'd never want to marry a man like me because she knew that I'd always want to do that which is right.
Think about that for a minute.
She then went on to accept my marriage proposal, and the rest?
Well, I've given detailed descriptions of the same enough times here in the past.
Yep sometimes we ask for it by marrying someone we think is a challenge or we can 'help'. I married my second husband because I felt sorry for him and I would say it was a disaster except for a beautiful daughter and he wound up getting saved.
So God can take all things and turn them for good, but wisdom can help skip over a bunch of red tape,
My own observations have shown me that many women aren't really after what they claim to be after.
That's about all that I've got to contribute here.
that's like tons of stuff. My first thought would be to take fairly good things to the poor or have a giant yard sale, lol. A good thing to remember is to do all things as unto the Lord, it's admirable you taking this 'duty/work' on. 
