TEEN DATING

[MaRss]

Should Christian Teens even be dating? Ok, so im 19 years old. about 2 be 20 in 4 months. And i see alot on these forums about young christian teenagers who want a BF or a GF. Ive believed in Christ my whole life but Ive only been saved for about 2 years. Within these 2 years, my struggle has been wanting a GIRL, but fighting those desires. There was a couple girls that liked me, but only one i liked back. It did not end well. We never kissed or touched n i told her we should wait to start dating. because i was so young in the Lord still. She couldnt wait and ended up having sex with some other guy from her church and now shes pregnant. After her i decided 2 not even date or get involved with any girls. Just serve the Lord. The reason i share this story is because i dont think Christian teenagers should be looking 4 love from the opposite sex at this age. I believe we are at an age where we should just be falling in love with the Lord. Its ok 2 like someone or have a crush on someone, but i dont think its healthy or smart 2 be getting involved in relationships at such a young age. Even if both of u are christian. I know its hard, because its in our nature 2 desire love, comfort, and security but at our age we should just be focusing on the LORD, instead of looking 4 love from the opposite sex. SO....jsut wait. :] Being single 4 another 5 -10 more years wont hurt :] If u know who u are in God and satisfied with the LORDS love

 

[jimmydiggs]

I don't know the answer to whether you should or should not. You should be careful though, as when it is said "one thing leads to another", is very true with teenagers.

Me personally, I have never dated, never kissed a member of the opposite sex other than on the cheeks of a grandmother. I personally don't think dating in high school is profitable. The chance of marrying someone you dated in high school is pretty slim these days unless you live in a very small town. It also serves as a distraction to school.

As far as dating in College, I think it can be permissable, but still should be careful.

 

[lightbliss]

Estoy de acuerdo

 

[jimmydiggs]

Yo tengo dos anos de espanol, pero no buen, porque no pago attencion a la professora. Hablo con mi amigo "Ray" de Temuco, Chile. El ayudame con espanol.

 

[pente_girl92]

FINALLY someone who feels the same as me!
Keep that sense of mind!
I try to tell my Youth Group all the stuff you said. I know from the wordly side of it and the Godly side of it, teenage relationships aren't worth.
I was saved 2 years ago too, I was in a relationship last year with a wordly guy.That was a really bad idea.
Since then I haven't had a desire to be in a relationship with anyone other than God.
Teenagers these days feel like they HAVE to have a bf/gf or they won't be socially accepted.

He's all I want or need.If & when He decides to send me someone to live my life with, I'll be ready.
More Christian teenager need to have your outlook on it!
God Bless you!!

 

[lightbliss]

Yo sólo recibió 8 grado español, pero ganó el premio cuando me gradué de escuela intermedia. La mayor parte de ella, sin embargo, "ha dejado el edificio", si sabes lo que quiero decir.

Quiero aprender a hablar con verdad / de lectura / escritura que, por lo que si es necesario, puedo elegir a hablar español (entre otros idiomas) para el resto de mi vida.

 

[jimmydiggs]

Yo sólo recibió 8 grado español, pero ganó el premio cuando me gradué de escuela intermedia. La mayor parte de ella, sin embargo, "ha dejado el edificio", si sabes lo que quiero decir.

Quiero aprender a hablar con verdad / de lectura / escritura que, por lo que si es necesario, puedo elegir a hablar español (entre otros idiomas) para el resto de mi vida.

Que? I'll have to put that into google translator.

 

[jimmydiggs]

Yeah, it's nice to know another language. I've taken two classes, 10th and 11th grade. I used to be much better.

 

[jimmydiggs]

FINALLY someone who feels the same as me!
Keep that sense of mind!
I try to tell my Youth Group all the stuff you said. I know from the wordly side of it and the Godly side of it, teenage relationships aren't worth.
I was saved 2 years ago too, I was in a relationship last year with a wordly guy.That was a really bad idea.
Since then I haven't had a desire to be in a relationship with anyone other than God.
Teenagers these days feel like they HAVE to have a bf/gf or they won't be socially accepted.

He's all I want or need.If & when He decides to send me someone to live my life with, I'll be ready.
More Christian teenager need to have your outlook on it!
God Bless you!!

I go to a public school, my "way" is very unpopular.

 

[rafaelsald]

Estoy totalmente de acuerdo...

 

[angelos]

Most Adults have a hard enough time staying in the same marriage throughout their life... does that mean they shouldn't marry? I don't see a teenage relationship as a problem so long as you keep Christ centered and don't let love and affection become an idol

 

[DreaMtz123]

Most Adults have a hard enough time staying in the same marriage throughout their life... does that mean they shouldn't marry? I don't see a teenage relationship as a problem so long as you keep Christ centered and don't let love and affection become an idol

i agreeeeee...


"Proverbs 19:14
Parents can provide their sons with an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the LORD can give an understanding wife"
let us wait for the one dat God has prepared for us tho..

i like reading 1 cor chapter 7..

think + pray about it..

Proverbs 13:16
[King James Bible]
Every prudent man dealeth with knowledge: but a fool layeth open his folly.
Wise people think before they act. (NLT)

 

[DreaMtz123]

BY THE WAY... SPANISH IS MY FIRST LANGUAGE! ha..
yu guys are doing good.. a lil more practice and yu'll get there haaa..
if yu have any questions i'll be more then glad to help
DIOS LES BENDIGA

 

[rafaelsald]

Spanish is almost similar to Portuguese. So it's easier for me to learn

Que Dios esté con vosotros y wait on God. He owns the story. He knows what He does.
Read Ecclesiastes 3...

Shalom

 

[MaRss]

Most Adults have a hard enough time staying in the same marriage throughout their life... does that mean they shouldn't marry? I don't see a teenage relationship as a problem so long as you keep Christ centered and don't let love and affection become an idol

i sort of agree w/ u brother but at the same time, i think its a little bit more wise 4 a teenager 2 just wait and not even turn 2 dating at a young age. See this is the thing, for most teen christians, lvoe and affection DOES become an idol and does get in the way. Emotions= lack of self-control. I see it as a way fro the enemy 2 sneak in. Im not saying its a sin, but it can lead 2 sin 4 those who are not strong enough. and i jsut think as older teen christians we should becareful with the words we say cuz young christians in the lord are reading this and they think having a BF or GF at 1 6 or 17 is perfectly normal and ok. And once again, its not sin, but it can be really tempting and be a stumbling block 4 someone who is barely getting 2 know god. how can u be in a relationship at such a young age when u really dont have that relationship with christ yet? God is LOVE. a young teenager can not truly LOVE until he/she fully comprehends who GOD/LOVE truly is. 1 John 5:21 - " Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your hearts." <3 just becareful teens! Dont be scared of the enemy, but plz do be VIGILANT and aware of his tactics. If u know u cant handle a relationship cuz of ur lust or maybe ur insecurities, then just be real w/ urself and stay away from relationships. :] God bless.

 

[angelos]

i sort of agree w/ u brother but at the same time, i think its a little bit more wise 4 a teenager 2 just wait and not even turn 2 dating at a young age. See this is the thing, for most teen christians, lvoe and affection DOES become an idol and does get in the way. Emotions= lack of self-control. I see it as a way fro the enemy 2 sneak in. Im not saying its a sin, but it can lead 2 sin 4 those who are not strong enough. and i jsut think as older teen christians we should becareful with the words we say cuz young christians in the lord are reading this and they think having a BF or GF at 1 6 or 17 is perfectly normal and ok. And once again, its not sin, but it can be really tempting and be a stumbling block 4 someone who is barely getting 2 know god. how can u be in a relationship at such a young age when u really dont have that relationship with christ yet? God is LOVE. a young teenager can not truly LOVE until he/she fully comprehends who GOD/LOVE truly is. 1 John 5:21 - " Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your hearts." <3 just becareful teens! Dont be scared of the enemy, but plz do be VIGILANT and aware of his tactics. If u know u cant handle a relationship cuz of ur lust or maybe ur insecurities, then just be real w/ urself and stay away from relationships. :] God bless.

Anything can become an idol, Personally I think having a strong relationship with another christian in a romantic sense can help you stay away from a lot of other idols or bad influences. If they are a true christian they will want to see you grow in Jesus. You can love without know the love of God (agape) when you read the NT remember there are 5 different words for love and that they mean different things. I agree with you that teens should be careful when getting into a relationship and that they need to guard themselves well against the enemy. Also there are people who been christians for years that are still just getting to know God, I believe Paul refered to them as infants when they should be teachers ( can't remember the passage)

 

[MaRss]

Anything can become an idol, Personally I think having a strong relationship with another christian in a romantic sense can help you stay away from a lot of other idols or bad influences. If they are a true christian they will want to see you grow in Jesus. You can love without know the love of God (agape) when you read the NT remember there are 5 different words for love and that they mean different things. I agree with you that teens should be careful when getting into a relationship and that they need to guard themselves well against the enemy. Also there are people who been christians for years that are still just getting to know God, I believe Paul refered to them as infants when they should be teachers ( can't remember the passage)

amen bro. well when it comes 2 christian teen dating, everyone has their own opinion. i agree with some of ur reasons, and u agree with some of mine, but our differences is what help us make our opinions.lol. but i respect ur opinion. i dont think either of us is right or wrong. it just depends on the person. if u know urself, and u know u struggle with lust then dont do it. but if ur confidence in ur relationship w/ the lord and u like someone, and lets not forget (something we havent mentioned) if you already PRAYED about it, then go ahead and start a FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP first with that person. u can have a relationship w/ someone w/ out calling them a BF/GF. most teens just want a BF/GF for comfort...lol

 

[tryingtofindhim]

It's possible if you keep Christ in the center I sure did

 

[Vidy]

amen bro. well when it comes 2 christian teen dating, everyone has their own opinion. i agree with some of ur reasons, and u agree with some of mine, but our differences is what help us make our opinions.lol. but i respect ur opinion. i dont think either of us is right or wrong. it just depends on the person. if u know urself, and u know u struggle with lust then dont do it. but if ur confidence in ur relationship w/ the lord and u like someone, and lets not forget (something we havent mentioned) if you already PRAYED about it, then go ahead and start a FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP first with that person. u can have a relationship w/ someone w/ out calling them a BF/GF. most teens just want a BF/GF for comfort...lol

I think the problem here is that you're coming in saying "Teen Christians shouldn't date," when that isn't always the case. It's just the case for you, and some people may feel that you're trying to force that on everyone else.


As far as dating for me, I'll be honest and admit that lust IS a problem for me. However, I keep relationships real and pure, and through the help of God I can keep it under control. I've had a lot of relationships (I'm not really sure when to start counting them, but I count 12 ever since 1st grade rofl), and I've averaged ~1 relationship a year. The emotions are NOT a "sign of weakness," that's a societal lie right there.


And for me, having a gf isn't about being "socially accepted." I don't date girls to make myself look good to someone else. I date a girl because I like the girl, and have real feelings for them. I don't take the first person to come along ~_o I like having someone I can comfortably be that close to (emotionally AND, only to a certain point for now, physically). It's not totally necessary, but it's not wrong at all to feel a strong desire, ALMOST need (not quite a need) for someone =)

 

[MaRss]

I think the problem here is that you're coming in saying "Teen Christians shouldn't date," when that isn't always the case. It's just the case for you, and some people may feel that you're trying to force that on everyone else.


As far as dating for me, I'll be honest and admit that lust IS a problem for me. However, I keep relationships real and pure, and through the help of God I can keep it under control. I've had a lot of relationships (I'm not really sure when to start counting them, but I count 12 ever since 1st grade rofl), and I've averaged ~1 relationship a year. The emotions are NOT a "sign of weakness," that's a societal lie right there.


And for me, having a gf isn't about being "socially accepted." I don't date girls to make myself look good to someone else. I date a girl because I like the girl, and have real feelings for them. I don't take the first person to come along ~_o I like having someone I can comfortably be that close to (emotionally AND, only to a certain point for now, physically). It's not totally necessary, but it's not wrong at all to feel a strong desire, ALMOST need (not quite a need) for someone =)

nah dude. u got me wrong/twisted. Im not trying 2 impose my thinking on anybody. Thats why i even said its just an OPINION. Its not biblical, so in the end of the day it dont really matter what my opinion is. I just thought i should share it. and i dont appreciate u twisting my words bro. ur trying to make me sound like some kind of christian extremist. i never said emotions were a sign of weakness. emotions are god given. But as christians, we should not let ourselves be driven by emotions. u get me now? if christian teens went by every emotion we got, then we probably wouldnt even be christians. we would be out there fornicating or getting with every person we got a crush on. And honestly, i dont think somone who has had a gf for each year of their life should be a candidate for spokesman of christian teen dating..LOL! u have ur right 2 ur opinion bro, but plz dont come at me trying 2 tell me that im trying 2 empose n force my thinking on others. god bless bro.