I would love tohave a poll on this...but....to diverse.
So, what are oddish things that are part of your 'code' or list of self-rules?
So, what are oddish things that are part of your 'code' or list of self-rules?
Somewhat......Maybe....Possibly weird 'unspoken rules' that you have for yourself.....
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A masochist is someone who enjoys self torture...
I have no way to know what word you were thinking about. But I'm pretty sure masochist is NOT what you wanted.
Great thread topic, @enril!
I have this constant cycle of "rules" for myself -- but then also wind up in state of constant inner self-flagellation because I'm never living up to them.
For instance, I have a large number of self-generated "rules" for eating -- which I have to be careful of so that it doesn't cross the line into self-harm through disordered eating. Examples include: "I can't eat until (certain time,)" "I have to eat a protein first," "If I have X sugary thing, I can't have anything else sugary for the rest of the day," etc.
I also have similar rules for fitness: "I have to walk X number of steps X number of days a week," etc. I keep a set of free weights in the bathroom, as I am always running in there for not just the obvious but eye drops, hand cream, etc. -- so every time I go to the bathroom, I try to do one set of arm exercises.
I also try to set "rules" for Bible study: "I have to read X devotion every day," "I have to work on reading the Bible all the way through at least X number of days a week," "I have to listen to X lessons each Sunday," "Set X aside for prayer every day," etc.
Maybe it's because I grew up in a conservative Lutheran church that, as a kid, seemed all about rules.
The problem I have, of course, is in keeping them, because it's a lot like setting New Year's resolutions -- every day and every week. Imagine how many are actually kept, and how many are thrown by the wayside!
My one small victory is that a friend announced they are getting married next year -- I pulled out the only dress I own, which I ironically bought and wore for another friend's wedding -- something like 17 years ago.
I'm not the exact same weight I was then, but I've stayed within a range that the dress still fits -- which means I don't have to worry about spending time or money on a new one -- and it's those times that, for me, make all the "rules" at least somewhat worth it.
If some one asks me for something , specifically asks me for a specific thing , then I have to give it to them .
If someone asks to borrow something of mine , I always lend it to them and never ask for it back .
If I'm invited to someone's home I always take a small gift , usually a food item .
I don't eat anything after I have eaten my evening meal , approx 6pm .
I don't initiate hugs but will always allow others to do so and I hug back even though I hate it .
I never use the words : stupid , ugly or disgusting to describe anyone and , if I hear someone else do that , it really turns me off that person .
Think that's about it
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If someone asks to borrow something of mine , I always lend it to them and never ask for it back .
If I'm invited to someone's home I always take a small gift , usually a food item .
I don't eat anything after I have eaten my evening meal , approx 6pm .
I don't initiate hugs but will always allow others to do so and I hug back even though I hate it .
I never use the words : stupid , ugly or disgusting to describe anyone and , if I hear someone else do that , it really turns me off that person .
Think that's about it
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Masochist:A masochist is someone who enjoys self torture...
I have no way to know what word you were thinking about. But I'm pretty sure masochist is NOT what you wanted.
- A person who takes pleasure in their own pain and suffering.
That IS what you meant then?
Huh...
Such people are not usually among the high living crowd. But whatever works for you I guess...
A masochist is someone who enjoys self torture...
I have no way to know what word you were thinking about. But I'm pretty sure masochist is NOT what you wanted.
I can only speak from my own experience, but I think I know the feeling that @enril is trying to express very well.
I think it's common in us folks who have struggled with extreme depression all our lives. Sometimes, pain seems to be the only thing you can feel, and you get to a place where you're not sure if you're even capable of feeling anything else anymore.
In a way, it becomes an emotional security blanket, because feeling anything other than extreme distress grows to be unfamiliar -- and uncomfortable -- because you know another crash is coming, and it feels inevitable.
There's an old song, "Iris", by The Goo Goo Dolls, and while I've never particularly liked the song, it has a set of lines that perfectly encompassed the way I felt for the majority of my life:
"And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming
Or the moment of truth in your lies.
When everything feels like the movies,
Yeah, You Bleed Just to Know Your Alive."
For many of us who have been severely depressed, the bleeding is both figurative -- and literal.
And for anyone who still feels (or struggles with) feeling this way, may I offer a glimpse of hope that God gives us:
"For I know the plans I have for you," declared the Lord, "plans to PROSPER you and NOT TO HARM you, plans to give you HOPE and a FUTURE." -- Jeremiah 29:11
This is a lifeline verse that has gotten me through many a dark time.
Please don't ever stop reaching out to Him, and please don't give up.
No more than one bottle of wine a week , no other alcohol in a week .
I don't eat frozen prawns or any meat that has been frozen .
I can only speak from my own experience, but I think I know the feeling that @enril is trying to express very well.
I think it's common in us folks who have struggled with extreme depression all our lives. Sometimes, pain seems to be the only thing you can feel, and you get to a place where you're not sure if you're even capable of feeling anything else anymore.
In a way, it becomes an emotional security blanket, because feeling anything other than extreme distress grows to be unfamiliar -- and uncomfortable -- because you know another crash is coming, and it feels inevitable.
There's an old song, "Iris", by The Goo Goo Dolls, and while I've never particularly liked the song, it has a set of lines that perfectly encompassed the way I felt for the majority of my life:
"And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming
Or the moment of truth in your lies.
When everything feels like the movies,
Yeah, You Bleed Just to Know Your Alive."
For many of us who have been severely depressed, the bleeding is both figurative -- and literal.
And for anyone who still feels (or struggles with) feeling this way, may I offer a glimpse of hope that God gives us:
"For I know the plans I have for you," declared the Lord, "plans to PROSPER you and NOT TO HARM you, plans to give you HOPE and a FUTURE." -- Jeremiah 29:11
This is a lifeline verse that has gotten me through many a dark time.
Please don't ever stop reaching out to Him, and please don't give up.
This is very well put and I'm glad someone explained this so well!!
I always liked Iris. When it first came out, this part resonated with me so well: "I don't want the world to see me, 'cause I don't think that they'd understand..."
Dear Enril
I used to have rules, many of them. They were mostly part of my defense mechanism for pain. This strained my relationships. Made friends unhappy and myself too. so Because the Christ has made me free I Keep only healthy ones.
I love love neat spaces.so I throw nothing on the street. Here streets are like garbage bins. people eat and throw whatever they have or want on the street. I hate it.
Another rule I have now is walking to and from Church.
After these I have no rules. I live with just the purpose of the Gospel being spread to the nations.
Dear brother "it is for freedom that Christ has set us free." Gal 5:1 NIV
May you find freedom from every pain.
Start every day with a looooooong drink of water.
That's the only rule I have that I'm pretty sure not everybody has. Maybe some have it. But for me the day doesn't start until I get a drink.
That's the only rule I have that I'm pretty sure not everybody has. Maybe some have it. But for me the day doesn't start until I get a drink.
we share a habit: i never eat after 6:00 either. it's best to sleep on an empty stomach.If some one asks me for something , specifically asks me for a specific thing , then I have to give it to them .
If someone asks to borrow something of mine , I always lend it to them and never ask for it back .
If I'm invited to someone's home I always take a small gift , usually a food item .
I don't eat anything after I have eaten my evening meal , approx 6pm .
I don't initiate hugs but will always allow others to do so and I hug back even though I hate it .
I never use the words : stupid , ugly or disgusting to describe anyone and , if I hear someone else do that , it really turns me off that person .
Think that's about it
maybe not weird, but i like to be extremely regimented in life. probably because i make a serious effort to be on time always, & that's from owning businesses. i enjoy initiating a chore on the top or bottom of the hour. & i time what i do.
Oh yeah, that too.
I can kill a good breakfast. I am indifferent about lunch. I don't do supper at all.
I try to drink at least 6 pints of water a day , have done so for years .
year to year, i consume 3 meals a day. i have to because i'm a landscaper & drummer. since i've been semi-retired, i am eating less.
