Sexual Temptation (TMI warning)

[Kristenn]

Ok that's kinda what I guessed you might of ment..At least your definition is clearer now.

I don't think kissing is sex but it can lead to it.

 

[NickJ]

If telling him no doesn't work please talk to your parents. If he isn't willing to respect your boundaries and instead ends up tempting you forward he isn't the one God has in store for you. Truth.

 

[NickJ]

You don't sound like you are willing to take the counsel you came to seek.

Defending his reprehensible actions and saying he is sweet? That is what is wow.

She's 13. This is where parents need to step in with counseling. She obviously likes him and tbh they both probably just need guidance on how to deal with what they're feeling.

 

[MyaGorden]

But.... he's the only guy who thinks I'm attractive......... no one else thinks of me that way. I'm just worthless and very disgusting looking

I have felt the same way about myself and done things that I regret because of it. No matter what, what you think or what guys think will never define your worth. You are a child of God, and he loves and values you very much. Your worth is unchangeable, and giving in to guys like this will not increase your self-esteem. Even though the road ahead might be lonely, you will always have God, and better him then the guy you like.

 

[enril]

I could not agree more with JohnDB.

Run away from that guy, he is no good at all. And yes, as John said possibly tell your parents. What that guy did to you is borderline sexual assault. If you have sex before marriage, I can promise you that you will regret it. Although I waited for marriage, even the other stuff I did that was sexual in nature I deeply regret. It caused me a lot of emotional problems and stress during the first few months of my marriage.

Waiting for marriage is one of the best things you could possibly do for yourself.

same here. i have not had sex, i hope i never do, but the things ive done, well, i hope i never have sex. it is terrible what the world is like these days.

 

[enril]

Hello, and welcome,
Your bio says you are "UNSURE" about your Spiritual status.

You also state you "lost" your faith.

So two questions.

1. Why did you come to a Christian site to get advice?

2. What did you formerly believe that you no longer believe?

After we get that squared away we can talk about other things.

hey I was unsure when i joined.
I lost my faith.
I was not a christian, but still valued advice, and came to church, youth group, hoping to change my life.
I personally did not unbelieve anything except for his love for me, until I was saved.

 

[enril]

Well what is the point of me waiting until marriage? No one will probably marry someone like me who is so ugly and worthless and should just go to hell and die! No guys will want me as their wife!

every person is loved by someone. they may be too afraid to tell, but there is probably someone who thinks you are beautiful. some guy would love you as their wife... in at least 5-6 years.
some people care more about the heart. also someone who truly loves you and cares for you will probably be scared away if you have sex bfore marriage.

 

[enril]

But I'm probably never going to get married because I am very worthless and ugly.... so why even worry about marriage if it's never going to happen! I'm not like that girl in my school who is so beautiful and has a 100% chance of getting married while my chance is 0%! I hope I'm dead before it's even TIME for me to get married. Even if I am alive then it probably won't happen.

hey. you have a whole life ahead of you. trust me, I know from experience that hormones are one of the greatest evils. when you mature, you wont care about superficial love.

 

[enril]

Again, you don’t know him or her.


To me, it is completely hilarious how you and some others, gotten all of that from one little sliver of information about this guy.

we know how guys are.
some of us are guys.
some of us have experienced these things.

 

[enril]

I have felt the same way about myself and done things that I regret because of it. No matter what, what you think or what guys think will never define your worth. You are a child of God, and he loves and values you very much. Your worth is unchangeable, and giving in to guys like this will not increase your self-esteem. Even though the road ahead might be lonely, you will always have God, and better him then the guy you like.

completely.
i have done so many things I regret.
I lost sight of that. "last year i felt suicidal. maybe this year i'll try somethin diffrent like talking to God."
It will be. But he will be as well. and he can comfort you.

 

[enril]

just realized this post is 3 years old lol.