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garystan52

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Excuse me for my mistakes. This is my first time here.
I recently separated from my BEST friend (for over 20 years). Nothing "gay " here. We are both christians. But he is now suffering from Diabetes, Dementia....and recently had a stroke. we shared a two bedroom mobile home. But now he's going into a nursing home. So I have to find low income housing, My retirements leave me on the level of low income. And I find it kind of scary......now being on my own. I know....now....that I have to move closer to God again. I moved away from him (God) because my room-mate needed close monitoring. Now that he's going into a nursing home, I'm on my own. And I find it scary. I find myself having panic attacks. I DO have an older sister, who calls me once in a while, for support. I need someone I can talk to about this.
garystan52
 
Hi, Gary.

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I am not sure what advice to give you at the moment, but I am praying for God to grant you wisdom and help. I am here if you need someone to talk to and to pray for you.
 
Welcome, Gary.

Your introduction brings to mind the friendship of David and Jonathan. Two men of the Kingdom of Israel, whose love for one another, surpassed that of even a woman.

In devoting your time to care for a friend with ailing health, you have been a friend who abides closer than a brother.

Jesus was speaking of men like you, when He said this:

Matthew 25:37
Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink?

Matthew 25:40
And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.

You're within an ace of God's presence, and He is greater than our thoughts and feelings, doubts and fears.

I will pray for you and your friend.
 
Excuse me for my mistakes. This is my first time here.
I recently separated from my BEST friend (for over 20 years). Nothing "gay " here. We are both christians. But he is now suffering from Diabetes, Dementia....and recently had a stroke. we shared a two bedroom mobile home. But now he's going into a nursing home. So I have to find low income housing, My retirements leave me on the level of low income. And I find it kind of scary......now being on my own. I know....now....that I have to move closer to God again. I moved away from him (God) because my room-mate needed close monitoring. Now that he's going into a nursing home, I'm on my own. And I find it scary. I find myself having panic attacks. I DO have an older sister, who calls me once in a while, for support. I need someone I can talk to about this.
garystan52

Hi, Gary!

It sounds like you're going through a lot right now, but I know that God is with you throughout it all. Just seek him, and put your trust in him and his plan for your life.

I'm a new Christian, and there has been so much support and advice that people have given me on this site. if you need any help with growing closer again to God, I know that there are many lovely people on here that would be more than happy to give you the same support that they have given me!

If you just need someone to talk to about it to, we're all here for you. You're not alone in this.

A very warm welcome to you! God bless ❤
 
Excuse me for my mistakes. This is my first time here.
I recently separated from my BEST friend (for over 20 years). Nothing "gay " here. We are both christians. But he is now suffering from Diabetes, Dementia....and recently had a stroke. we shared a two bedroom mobile home. But now he's going into a nursing home. So I have to find low income housing, My retirements leave me on the level of low income. And I find it kind of scary......now being on my own. I know....now....that I have to move closer to God again. I moved away from him (God) because my room-mate needed close monitoring. Now that he's going into a nursing home, I'm on my own. And I find it scary. I find myself having panic attacks. I DO have an older sister, who calls me once in a while, for support. I need someone I can talk to about this.
garystan52

It can be difficult to go from living with someone, especially a best friend, to living on your own. Is it possible that you live near him, so you can visit him? I am sure he is going to feel lonely and miss you too.

Living on your own in your own space can be scary but you can do it. Panic attacks are driven by often unrealistic/extreme thoughts. What thoughts are you having? Loneliness is an ache in which God is reminding you that you need to do something about it, either seek Him more or others. You will still miss your friend, but you can get to know more people.
 
Excuse me for my mistakes. This is my first time here.
I recently separated from my BEST friend (for over 20 years). Nothing "gay " here. We are both christians. But he is now suffering from Diabetes, Dementia....and recently had a stroke. we shared a two bedroom mobile home. But now he's going into a nursing home. So I have to find low income housing, My retirements leave me on the level of low income. And I find it kind of scary......now being on my own. I know....now....that I have to move closer to God again. I moved away from him (God) because my room-mate needed close monitoring. Now that he's going into a nursing home, I'm on my own. And I find it scary. I find myself having panic attacks. I DO have an older sister, who calls me once in a while, for support. I need someone I can talk to about this.
garystan52


I pray you and your friend will find an ideal place and provisions for your challenges.

Sometimes dementia can be reversed.
It all depends....

Active steps should be taken by someone who is his power of medical attorney to see to his recovery before further decline.
The visits this week are reminders of the need for nutritional support for all, especially those who have such health challenges. I decided now to post a new thread in the Health Forum for everyone's edification.

Many blessings to you both.

To your health and happiness 😊
 
Hi garystan52, welcome to the fellowship here at CC and wonderful the Lord led you here! To combat panic attacks, get familiar with God's promises. One I've become very fond of is 'casting all your cares [all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares about you [with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully]' 1 Pet 5:7. It is hard to grasp but God does know best. 'But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus' Phil 4:19, ask Him to open the door for the perfect place to reside and then cast the care to Him and He will bless you, you must trust Him. Godspeed in this, God bless you!🙏✝✡
 
Hi, Gary.
I know what it's like...when my mother died I felt as if I were going to die, too.
I will pray for you.
 
New International Version Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

Matthew 6
New International Version

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[e]?

2 Timothy 1:7
New International Version

7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

Proverbs 4
New International Version

4 Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction;
pay attention and gain understanding.
2 I give you sound learning,
so do not forsake my teaching.
3 For I too was a son to my father,
still tender, and cherished by my mother.
4 Then he taught me, and he said to me,
“Take hold of my words with all your heart;
keep my commands, and you will live.
5 Get wisdom, get understanding;
do not forget my words or turn away from them.
6 Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;
love her, and she will watch over you.
7 The beginning of wisdom is this: Get[a] wisdom.
Though it cost all you have,[b] get understanding.
8 Cherish her, and she will exalt you;
embrace her, and she will honor you.
9 She will give you a garland to grace your head
and present you with a glorious crown.”
10 Listen, my son, accept what I say,
and the years of your life will be many.
11 I instruct you in the way of wisdom
and lead you along straight paths.
12 When you walk, your steps will not be hampered;
when you run, you will not stumble.
13 Hold on to instruction, do not let it go;
guard it well, for it is your life.
14 Do not set foot on the path of the wicked
or walk in the way of evildoers.
15 Avoid it, do not travel on it;
turn from it and go on your way.
16 For they cannot rest until they do evil;
they are robbed of sleep till they make someone stumble.
17 They eat the bread of wickedness
and drink the wine of violence.
18 The path of the righteous is like the morning sun,
shining ever brighter till the full light of day.
19 But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness;
they do not know what makes them stumble.
20 My son, pay attention to what I say;
turn your ear to my words.
21 Do not let them out of your sight,
keep them within your heart;
22 for they are life to those who find them
and health to one’s whole body.
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the[c] paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.

1 Corinthians 12:12-27
New International Version

12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[a] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.

John 3:16
New International Version

16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.